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To think that people who say “kids are a blessing” just don’t want to admit they regret it?

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ByBluntBiscuit · 13/03/2025 10:44

The louder someone insists that parenting is the greatest joy, the more exhausted and dead behind the eyes they look.

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SailorSerena · 13/03/2025 10:48

My daughter has bought me nothing but joy. I went through five cycles of IVF to have her and since she arrived family life has been everything we dreamed it would be.

I feel so sad for for parents who think like this and go on about how kids ruin your life.

steppemum · 13/03/2025 10:47

What a strange post!

Obviously for some people having kids is not what they expected and they regret it.

But I think in general most people would say they don't regret having kids, even when it is really difficult.

There were times when my kids were little that I probably looked exhausted, but actually was loving it. (while still craving a decent nights sleep)
The two can go hand in hand.

Josiezu · 13/03/2025 10:47

To think that people who say “kids are a blessing” just don’t want to admit they regret it?

No? Many people think this, what’s wrong with feeling like kids are a blessing?

TheChosenTwo · 13/03/2025 10:47

I’m not voting by mine really are my biggest blessing and I don’t look dead behind the eyes 😂
They’re Brilliant company, kind, funny, generous with their time, love and thoughts, bright and witty. What’s not to love?!
I can’t speak for anyone else, not everyone loves being a parent but I threw myself into it and have got so much out of it. No regrets here.

Merrygoround8 · 13/03/2025 10:47

More than one thing can be true at the same time.

My kids are the greatest gift, they have completed my soul and honestly I feel that they give my life purpose and I understand unconditional love. I couldn’t imagine a world not having them.

I am also often very tired and overwhelmed. It doesn’t mean that for one second I regret having my kids.

Lentilweaver · 13/03/2025 10:46

The same applies to everyone no? Anyone who makes a big decision sometimes feels compelled to defend it and you can choose whether or not to believe them.

Alwayslurkingsometimesposting · 13/03/2025 10:45

Do you have kids OP?