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To think some people are really snobby about tradespeople?

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Loveheart13 · 13/03/2025 10:01

I’ve noticed that a lot of people really look down on tradespeople/jobs with practical skills.

Dh works in a trade and he earns very well. Obviously I don’t talk about it. I’ve noticed that people make a lot of assumptions that it’s poorly paid, that you must be a bit thick.

I’ve got friends ds and work colleagues who think that university is the only way. I know someone whose nearly adult child is not very academic at all but they are determined to push on as they are certain that anything less than a degree is complete failure.

Why are people so snobby about it?

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kirinm · 13/03/2025 10:51

I’ve never had someone ask me to pay them in cash. And not every trades person will need to charge VAT. Only businesses with a turnover of £90k have to be VAT registered and they can recover VAT from HMRC in any event.

WhatNoRaisins · 13/03/2025 10:51

I think a lot of people put a lot of importance on the "uni experience" and I admit that I'm guilty of this. That said it sounds like the "uni experience" isn't what it used to be with more people studying locally so maybe there will be a shift here.

FiveBarGate · 13/03/2025 10:50

God I'm hoping my son has some practical skills. Looking round my house I'm thinking 'please be a plasterer ' 🤣

If you think trades are bad for looking down your nose try a manual job that isn't a trade. My husband had people shouting through the gates 'they told you to stay at home ' during covid. Not seen as essential because they make crane ropes. But try unloading all that essential PPE without one!

I'm well educated and work in higher education. I wouldn't encourage my kids this way unless they really have a passion for learning.

Bluevelvetsofa · 13/03/2025 10:49

Loveheart13 · 13/03/2025 10:24

Yes this is what I’ve found. Some people think that they have a higher status because they are in an office.

if only they realised how much some of these tradespeople are earning.

That works if you measure your worth by how much you earn.

I am grateful for people who are able to do the jobs I’m not, but I want them to be reliable, efficient, careful, considerate and conscientious. I’m happy to pay if the job has been done well, but less so when it’s not.

I think, particularly in recent times, people get fed up when trades are unreliable, turn up late or not at all, leave the job for ages, leave a mess behind.

A good tradesperson is worth their weight in gold.

CommanderMariettaHay · 13/03/2025 10:48

Those with actual intelligence and educationalists are the ones who recognise the value of practical skills and trades. My skill is being able to analyse policies and put them into practice. I am hopeless at practical skills, I live in my head. I however appreciate my amazing hairdresser, the man who tiled my kitchen, the man who laid the kitchen floor using wood from my previous home. Builders, beauticians, carpenters, hairdressers mechanics etc… are valuable skills. University is not the best choice for everyone, I like the European model of education where practical and theoretical skills are equally valued. Essentially both sides need each other this is how research and design work thus progress is made. Unfortunately it tends to be those without critical thinking skills who do not recognise this.

carrotsandtomatoes · 13/03/2025 10:48

PsychoHotSauce · 13/03/2025 10:36

That's exactly my point though, SO many of them don't bother or are impossibly slow because they only care about the stuff that means instant money in their hand. The admin side gets neglected. We had a bunch of workmen (and prospective workmen 'quoting') in last year and most of them wanted to do everything verbally (nope) as they 'don't like' or even 'don't do' paperwork. Bitch please. I'm not sure if it's just my area, but they seem to get regular work just 'coasting' and cherry picking the bits of running a business they want to do, and avoiding the bits that they don't. And then they look at you like you're both weird and difficult for wanting quotes and contracts in writing...

They can’t win. For every person like you saying what you saying you have 10 people saying ‘they clock off at 4pm. Why can’t they do a full days work”. They can’t do both unless you expect them to be working 16 hour days.

Comedycook · 13/03/2025 10:47

I can understand not wanting your kids to become tradies. As in if you spend your whole life on the tools, it does wear out your body

I don't think this is generally the reason some parents don't want their kids to do these kind of jobs. I think it's just snobbery and old fashioned thinking that equates academic success with financial success.

taxguru · 13/03/2025 10:46

@Loveheart13

Why are people so snobby about it?

I don't think it's snobbiness. I think most of it is down to the far too often poor attitude of some tradesmen themselves.

Good ones are like gold dust, and by that I mean actually turning up on time (if at all), communicating, not ripping you off, not wanting "cash to knock off the vat" for tax evasion, quality workmanship, and respecting you and your home.

Unfortunately there are a lot of rogues, either deliberately out to rip you off and defraud you or simply incompetent (i.e. did badly at school so become glorified odd job men doing things far beyond their competence often without any proper training and experience), or people who simply don't respect you or your home.

It's a shame there isn't better regulation of the entire industry as the "bad'uns" damage the reputation of the entire industry and customers are immediately "On alert" and suspect the worse before a tradesmen earns trust.

kirinm · 13/03/2025 10:46

Mirrorxxx · 13/03/2025 10:41

I don’t presume they earn badly but given my experiences with them I don’t respect them. Every experience I have had has been either disappointing in some way and I don’t think they would last in an employed job.

This is so rude. You sound awful.

Itisbetter · 13/03/2025 10:45

hopesforsummer · 13/03/2025 10:31

If everyone did that they’d be mass unemployment as they’d be too many people on uni courses then relevant jobs and actual trades people require to maintain their homes and lives would die out.

I doubt that’s true.

SnoopysHoose · 13/03/2025 10:45

Lots of snobbery and sneering on MN, outraged a tradie out earns a teacher for example, one thread she was raging 🤣
It takes the same length of time to learn a trade as getting a degree does.
Far too much arrogance about going to uni, half the ppl I know do not use their degree.

kirinm · 13/03/2025 10:44

Mirrorxxx · 13/03/2025 10:41

I don’t presume they earn badly but given my experiences with them I don’t respect them. Every experience I have had has been either disappointing in some way and I don’t think they would last in an employed job.

Who are ‘them’? You think you’re in a position to judge hundreds of thousands of people because you’ve met a handful of trades you have no respect for.

Jamjarcandlestick · 13/03/2025 10:43

I can understand not wanting your kids to become tradies. As in if you spend your whole life on the tools, it does wear out your body.

However, there are trade professionals, and should be treated as such. Imagine thinking a mechanic is stupid. Hundreds of different cars, thousands of components, responsible for machinery that could kill. The amount of people who can’t even change a bike tire.

What needs to change is the culture of pushing all ‘non academic’ kids into trade courses/trade routes. Tradies are smart, they have good logic/problem solving/attention to detail/common sense etc. The amount of kids who honestly cannot fathom how a ruler works are put onto a carpentry’s course.

I used to work in the construction department in the local college. Apparently the tutors used to do ‘interview’ the students by having them in the workshop for the afternoon. Any kids who messed about/didn’t want to be there were let go. The two weeks of the course any kid who couldn’t keep up with the general pace was let go/about 20% would be removed. When I was there we had kids who literally could not understand the terms like ‘double it’ or how to find the centre of a circle. The amount of kids who would say ‘I don’t/can’t do maths’ and have no drive/ability to even learn that 10mm makes up one 1cm… Getting as far as ratios or percentages were lost on many. But those kids are labourer material, carry those bricks over there, use the dustpan and brush to sweep that up… unfortunately British mentality is that trade jobs are as basic as digging holes or mowing lawns.

kirinm · 13/03/2025 10:43

PsychoHotSauce · 13/03/2025 10:36

That's exactly my point though, SO many of them don't bother or are impossibly slow because they only care about the stuff that means instant money in their hand. The admin side gets neglected. We had a bunch of workmen (and prospective workmen 'quoting') in last year and most of them wanted to do everything verbally (nope) as they 'don't like' or even 'don't do' paperwork. Bitch please. I'm not sure if it's just my area, but they seem to get regular work just 'coasting' and cherry picking the bits of running a business they want to do, and avoiding the bits that they don't. And then they look at you like you're both weird and difficult for wanting quotes and contracts in writing...

You don’t need a contract for all work though, do you? I agree that you might want a written quote but not everyone does - especially for smaller jobs.

They’re probably impossibly slow because they’re massively busy.

Mirrorxxx · 13/03/2025 10:41

I don’t presume they earn badly but given my experiences with them I don’t respect them. Every experience I have had has been either disappointing in some way and I don’t think they would last in an employed job.

carrotsandtomatoes · 13/03/2025 10:40

FurzeNotGorse · 13/03/2025 10:25

For heaven’s sake, OP — everyone knows tradespeople get paid extremely well. We pay high prices, so it’s hardly surprising we’re aware that at least some such jobs generate a high income.

However, judging by my own family, it’s a young person’s game — lots of my older male relatives simply weren’t able to do their jobs after a certain point (plumber, stonemason, builder, roofer, scales mechanic etc), exacerbated by injuries or just wear and tear, or not being supple enough to get into crawl spaces any more, and had no qualifications to move into a different field in their fifties. For that reason alone, it’s not something I’d recommend my child to do.

Depends on how they deal with their finances. If they are earning what some around there are earning they’ll be able to retire with ease by the time they hit their mid 50s

kirinm · 13/03/2025 10:38

Loveheart13 · 13/03/2025 10:36

Yes to the attitude that they don’t do a full days work.

Husbands job for example requires a lot of travelling. They have to go to pick up parts, do all of their paperwork, stock takes, there can be a lot of planning and designing involved too.

Theyre not just clocking off to go home for a nap.

Yes people are quick to moan when they can’t get people to come and quote at a time that suits them but apparently anything less than a 6pm finish is unacceptable too. Maybe if you’re running a large company that becomes do-able but that isn’t how most trades function.

PsychoHotSauce · 13/03/2025 10:36

kirinm · 13/03/2025 10:33

You’re aware that most trades people are also running businesses too? That they need to quote, invoice etc?

My partner leaves the house at 7am everyday just to go to the wholesaler to pick up materials. He might not be on site at 8am but he’s working. He also doesn’t take long lunch breaks - and most trades who are employed wouldn’t be allowed to either. They tend to work shorter days because they spend the remainder of the day doing all the other stuff that’s needed to run a business.

That's exactly my point though, SO many of them don't bother or are impossibly slow because they only care about the stuff that means instant money in their hand. The admin side gets neglected. We had a bunch of workmen (and prospective workmen 'quoting') in last year and most of them wanted to do everything verbally (nope) as they 'don't like' or even 'don't do' paperwork. Bitch please. I'm not sure if it's just my area, but they seem to get regular work just 'coasting' and cherry picking the bits of running a business they want to do, and avoiding the bits that they don't. And then they look at you like you're both weird and difficult for wanting quotes and contracts in writing...

Loveheart13 · 13/03/2025 10:36

Yes to the attitude that they don’t do a full days work.

Husbands job for example requires a lot of travelling. They have to go to pick up parts, do all of their paperwork, stock takes, there can be a lot of planning and designing involved too.

Theyre not just clocking off to go home for a nap.

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kirinm · 13/03/2025 10:33

PsychoHotSauce · 13/03/2025 10:29

I had the snobbery when I was a cleaner. IME many people have more respect for (skilled) tradesmen than they did for me. No consideration of the fact that I ran every part of my business, the marketing, the accounting, the admin, and the cleaning. It takes nouse to properly run a business.

The problem is that tradesmen as a collective have a poor reputation. Don't do a full days work, long lunches, cutting corners, sexism, but always ensuring they charge top dollar.

I have tradie friends who do a good job, and some of them have even said they hate it when customers ask for recommendations for other trades - because the ones they know do all of the above and don't give a shit about doing a good job, just about getting paid.

That said, if I were a trades(wo)man, I'd make a point of doing a great job and being reliable. It would be so easy to get continuous referral work just by doing more than the bare minimum like most of these wasters do.

You’re aware that most trades people are also running businesses too? That they need to quote, invoice etc?

My partner leaves the house at 7am everyday just to go to the wholesaler to pick up materials. He might not be on site at 8am but he’s working. He also doesn’t take long lunch breaks - and most trades who are employed wouldn’t be allowed to either. They tend to work shorter days because they spend the remainder of the day doing all the other stuff that’s needed to run a business.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 13/03/2025 10:32

I have a corporate office job, getting AI pushed on by every angle. Tradeis earn a bloody fortune IME and absolutely nothing wrong with that. University can be a massive waste of money. My BIL did a Masters in Media, now works in a call centre for example.

Comedycook · 13/03/2025 10:31

And now AI will soon be taking over, I think having a trade and a practical skill will be far more useful and useable than knowledge based desk jobs. The world is changing.

Loveheart13 · 13/03/2025 10:31

ItGhoul · 13/03/2025 10:28

Yes, a lot of people are incredibly snobby about it - Mumsnet, in particular, is absolutely teeming with people who seem to think anyone who comes to do a job in their home must be some sort of subhuman brute.

My nephew is a carpenter/joiner. Academically he's very bright - easily bright enough for university. But he has absolutely no interest in graduate type jobs, never has. He has always loved practical stuff, making things, fixing things etc. When my mum and a friend of hers were chatting about their grandkids, and my mum said 'Nephew's just started his apprenticeship to be a carpenter' her friend said 'Oh well, never mind' as if that would somehow be disappointing. My mum gave her short shrift in response.

Hilarious, that’s exactly the attitude I mean.

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hopesforsummer · 13/03/2025 10:31

Itisbetter · 13/03/2025 10:03

I think people think you should go to uni if you are able enough.

If everyone did that they’d be mass unemployment as they’d be too many people on uni courses then relevant jobs and actual trades people require to maintain their homes and lives would die out.

kirinm · 13/03/2025 10:30

My DP is an electrician and gets tarnished with the same brush. He’s not stupid and is extremely hard working.

He actually wanted to go to art college but his mum told him he shouldn’t.