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To think some people are really snobby about tradespeople?

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Loveheart13 · 13/03/2025 10:01

I’ve noticed that a lot of people really look down on tradespeople/jobs with practical skills.

Dh works in a trade and he earns very well. Obviously I don’t talk about it. I’ve noticed that people make a lot of assumptions that it’s poorly paid, that you must be a bit thick.

I’ve got friends ds and work colleagues who think that university is the only way. I know someone whose nearly adult child is not very academic at all but they are determined to push on as they are certain that anything less than a degree is complete failure.

Why are people so snobby about it?

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FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 13/03/2025 14:16

Spacehop · 13/03/2025 12:20

This.

The person I know who's a tradie says exactly this. If they turned up when they said they would/did a decent job people would complain a lot less. The good ones near me are literally booked up for years.

I'd be delighted if one of my kids wanted to work in this kind of role but they're not practically minded.

Yup exactly. I grew up in NZ where being a tradie is actually a very desirable job. They are paid extremely well and also respected.

The misogyny is still rampant in the industry in NZ but I did notice that on the whole much more pride was taken in the work and the people were more professional. They really treated it as their desired career and wanted a good reputation.

I was shocked coming to the UK and trying to find good people and seeing the state of my friends and in laws houses after tradesmen had left. I'd never seen anything like it.

No pride, bare minimum effort, if they show up at all... All whilst treating women terribly.

FurzeNotGorse · 13/03/2025 14:16

Jamjarcandlestick · 13/03/2025 10:43

I can understand not wanting your kids to become tradies. As in if you spend your whole life on the tools, it does wear out your body.

However, there are trade professionals, and should be treated as such. Imagine thinking a mechanic is stupid. Hundreds of different cars, thousands of components, responsible for machinery that could kill. The amount of people who can’t even change a bike tire.

What needs to change is the culture of pushing all ‘non academic’ kids into trade courses/trade routes. Tradies are smart, they have good logic/problem solving/attention to detail/common sense etc. The amount of kids who honestly cannot fathom how a ruler works are put onto a carpentry’s course.

I used to work in the construction department in the local college. Apparently the tutors used to do ‘interview’ the students by having them in the workshop for the afternoon. Any kids who messed about/didn’t want to be there were let go. The two weeks of the course any kid who couldn’t keep up with the general pace was let go/about 20% would be removed. When I was there we had kids who literally could not understand the terms like ‘double it’ or how to find the centre of a circle. The amount of kids who would say ‘I don’t/can’t do maths’ and have no drive/ability to even learn that 10mm makes up one 1cm… Getting as far as ratios or percentages were lost on many. But those kids are labourer material, carry those bricks over there, use the dustpan and brush to sweep that up… unfortunately British mentality is that trade jobs are as basic as digging holes or mowing lawns.

But ‘those kids’ you say are labourer material aren’t going to be rising through the ranks and retiring in their 50s before their bodies wear out from a physical job. So surely it makes sense for people to direct them away from physically demanding trades jobs and into something where they literally won’t be able to work after a certain age, and have to try and find a whole new type of job in middle?

I’m from a long line of men and women who spent their entire working lives in poorly-paid, physically demanding jobs, and whose bodies are giving them serious grief in later years. (The women are all office/hospital cleaners.) It’s easy for @carrotsandtomatoes to say that if they manage their finances right, they can retire in their 50s. That’s not my experience with family members now in their late 50s and above. They can’t afford to retire early, are frequently dealing with chronic pain, and, once they’re unable to do their ‘original’ job, they’re working as delivery drivers, street sweepers and the like. My 58 year old SIL is on her second knee replacement after nearly 40 years cleaning for the local authority, and has had years of agonising plantar fasciitis. No, she’s not a ‘tradesperson’, but she has the same wear and tear issues as a tradesperson who, for whatever reason, didn’t make a lot of money.

I knew university was my way out of that, and I’ve never for a moment regretted it.

aCatCalledFawkes · 13/03/2025 13:52

I used to be married to a carpenter and one of my exes is a plumber. I quite like a man who can put up a shelf or install a kitchen. The relationships didn't work out because they were the wrong people for me not because they weren't skilled at there jobs or that I didn't respect the work they did.

I have a computer science degree and work in IT for a large 250ftse company. I'm not pushing my children in to uni unless its what they want. I would be more than happy with my son doing a trade and currently my daughter is planning to carry on working with horses for a couple of years after school until she knows what she wants to do.

Bluevelvetsofa · 13/03/2025 13:27

I have complete respect for tradespeople who do things I couldn’t possibly do. Our electrician is excellent and we’ve used him a lot recently.

I don’t think everyone should go to university and I certainly don’t think it should be an expectation. I think it was a mistake when Tony Blair decided that the aim should be for 50% of young people to go. I think it devalues both the university experience and the apprenticeship type choices that people make. People who are practical will always be needed.

I don’t agree that people have been snobbish here though. I think some have expressed frustration at some of the practices of the minority of tradesmen they’ve had poor experiences with. The majority recognise the skill and expertise of carpenters, plumbers, electricians, plasterers etc.

One of my children went to university, the other didn’t. I don’t regard one more highly than the other because of it.

LetMeGoogleThat · 13/03/2025 13:20

Itisbetter · 13/03/2025 13:15

I’d rather my plumber was as educated as he wanted to be. University isn’t the same as learning a trade.

But, that's pretty much what I said. My point was, people should have the choice and neither is lesser. We need Tradespeople and graduates.

Itisbetter · 13/03/2025 13:15

LetMeGoogleThat · 13/03/2025 13:11

Surely it should be if they want to.

We all needs trades, I'd rather call a plumber when I need them, over someone that has a masters in water courses.

I’d rather my plumber was as educated as he wanted to be. University isn’t the same as learning a trade.

Anyotherdude · 13/03/2025 13:13

Yes I agree OP. One of my friends is a judge in the High Court. He had the audacity to complain that builders want to charge £300 per day. I’m absolutely sure that is what he would charge to read a short letter.
The builder can read; the judge can’t lay bricks though🤣

LetMeGoogleThat · 13/03/2025 13:11

Itisbetter · 13/03/2025 10:03

I think people think you should go to uni if you are able enough.

Surely it should be if they want to.

We all needs trades, I'd rather call a plumber when I need them, over someone that has a masters in water courses.

jellyfishperiwinkle · 13/03/2025 12:51

terracelane23 · 13/03/2025 12:25

I've done both. I was a teacher for 20 years and left teaching to be a gardener. I've met quite a few people who treated me differently after I mentioned I used to be a teacher and therefore have a degree, than when they thought I was "just" a gardener.

Yup. I noticed this when I took a career break and did pet sitting for a few years when the kids were little. TBH it made me miss the automatic status I didn't realise was there as a lawyer.

caffelattetogo · 13/03/2025 12:47

We’ve had a series of snobby tradespeople recently, weirdly. Really struggled to get work done on an old house, where they might need to do some jobs by hand. New ones coming through seem to be wary of hard work. One said he only likes doing new builds.

PoppyBaxter · 13/03/2025 12:45

Comedycook · 13/03/2025 12:37

This is interesting. I went to a private school in the 80/90s....we were basically given no choice other than uni. I was desperate to become a chef but because of this attitude, it genuinely never occurred to me that it was a viable option. We often hear of how working class kids in state schools should be encouraged to attend top unis and I applaud that if it suits them, but equally I think it's a crying shame that private school pupils aren't always given the opportunity to learn vocational subjects.

Same. I went to private school in the 90s and it was Uni or nothing. Throughout school I wanted to be a makeup artist. Mum basically told me that was for thick girls.
I could have been self employed with a great career as a makeup artist now. Instead I'm in a - granted - well paid corporate desk job, which is fine but brings me no joy and has definitely never been great for my mental health. I'm someone who needs to use my hands.
I'm just grateful I went to uni when the costs were less. I came out with only £17k of debt (now paid off), unlike the £55k of debt people graduate with now.

Comedycook · 13/03/2025 12:37

bathroomadviceneeded · 13/03/2025 12:31

I teach at a private school, and we have many students who would be better suited to a trade. Their parents won’t hear of it. It’s university or nothing for them, so they end up in useless degrees with no real job prospects at the end.

Im so thankful for the school I attended as a student. It was private, single-sex, but encouraged all the girls to follow whatever career they wanted. 15 years later, we are hairdressers, makeup artists, lawyers, doctors, teachers, musical theatre performers… everyone felt encouraged to pursue their dream careers.

I will encourage my own DC to do whatever they want. I will be very proud if they end up in a trade. But I’ve had friends who told me they’d be ‘horrified’ if their DS ended up as a carpenter. Very sad.

This is interesting. I went to a private school in the 80/90s....we were basically given no choice other than uni. I was desperate to become a chef but because of this attitude, it genuinely never occurred to me that it was a viable option. We often hear of how working class kids in state schools should be encouraged to attend top unis and I applaud that if it suits them, but equally I think it's a crying shame that private school pupils aren't always given the opportunity to learn vocational subjects.

bathroomadviceneeded · 13/03/2025 12:31

I teach at a private school, and we have many students who would be better suited to a trade. Their parents won’t hear of it. It’s university or nothing for them, so they end up in useless degrees with no real job prospects at the end.

Im so thankful for the school I attended as a student. It was private, single-sex, but encouraged all the girls to follow whatever career they wanted. 15 years later, we are hairdressers, makeup artists, lawyers, doctors, teachers, musical theatre performers… everyone felt encouraged to pursue their dream careers.

I will encourage my own DC to do whatever they want. I will be very proud if they end up in a trade. But I’ve had friends who told me they’d be ‘horrified’ if their DS ended up as a carpenter. Very sad.

TheAmusedQuail · 13/03/2025 12:31

I don't think most of us think tradespeople are thick, should have gone to uni, are low earning. IMO, most of us think tradespeople are raking it in!

However, we also think there are a lot of tradies that are cowboys and do poor quality work.

GOOD tradies are worth their weight in gold as far as a lot of us are concerned. I once paid my favourite plumber almost twice as much as other quotes to fit a new bath, because I knew he'd do a great job. And did. Worth every penny.

I'd also like to see much easier access to apprenticeships. I think part of the reason tradespeople earn so well, is because access to these skills is so hard to access and train in.

Upstartled · 13/03/2025 12:27

I think it's resentment. Lots of people still servicing their uni loans, stuck doing long hours in their middle management jobs, not keeping up with the lives their parents gave them, convincing themselves that they are still middle class because they listen to classic radio while they are eating their beans.

And then here comes a tradie, one who choses their own working hours, with scarce skills so they choose which jobs they do and can leave the tricky customers for less experienced or skilled competition, one who is unsaddled with uni debt and got on the housing ladder long before they did....and now, despite them doing everything 'right' - this working class skilled worker is now more economically settled than they could ever hope to be.

Snobbery is all they have left to soothe their fragile ego.

JohnofWessex · 13/03/2025 12:26

lot of stuff that tradespeople have to do today is quite detailed and complex, especially electrics, gas and plumbing so dont knock the level of education needed.

My ex wife was very snobbish about nurses - she was from a family of teachers.

Must have miffed her when I dated one after she split and then married a nurse!

terracelane23 · 13/03/2025 12:25

I've done both. I was a teacher for 20 years and left teaching to be a gardener. I've met quite a few people who treated me differently after I mentioned I used to be a teacher and therefore have a degree, than when they thought I was "just" a gardener.

Spacehop · 13/03/2025 12:23

jellyfishperiwinkle · 13/03/2025 12:18

That's an offshoot of the academically able being shoehorned into white collar and higher professional careers. Trade careers are more accessible and if you are clever you can make a mint but almost anyone can get into them, though not necessary do well at them. That's not to say those in professional careers are all wonderful. Some of the worst absolute arseholes I've met are bankers and lawyers.

Absolutely but you very rarely require their services in a personal capacity. At least I do. Trades are different. You can't avoid them generally if e.g. your roof is leaking.

Loveheart13 · 13/03/2025 12:21

Moonlightglow · 13/03/2025 12:17

Totally disagree. I’ve experienced more inverted snobbery against university and degrees than anything directed at tradesmen.

Really? In what way.

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Spacehop · 13/03/2025 12:20

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 13/03/2025 10:22

I don't know anyone snobby about tradespeople... I do however know a LOT of people fed up with how unreliable they are and how it's almost impossible to find someone who will do a good job.

The industry seems to be full of a lot of misogynistic men taking the utter piss...

I'm sure there's good ones and your DH is lovely, but I have to say any negativity I have heard has been about how frustrating and shit most tradies are.

This.

The person I know who's a tradie says exactly this. If they turned up when they said they would/did a decent job people would complain a lot less. The good ones near me are literally booked up for years.

I'd be delighted if one of my kids wanted to work in this kind of role but they're not practically minded.

jellyfishperiwinkle · 13/03/2025 12:18

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 13/03/2025 10:22

I don't know anyone snobby about tradespeople... I do however know a LOT of people fed up with how unreliable they are and how it's almost impossible to find someone who will do a good job.

The industry seems to be full of a lot of misogynistic men taking the utter piss...

I'm sure there's good ones and your DH is lovely, but I have to say any negativity I have heard has been about how frustrating and shit most tradies are.

That's an offshoot of the academically able being shoehorned into white collar and higher professional careers. Trade careers are more accessible and if you are clever you can make a mint but almost anyone can get into them, though not necessary do well at them. That's not to say those in professional careers are all wonderful. Some of the worst absolute arseholes I've met are bankers and lawyers.

Moonlightglow · 13/03/2025 12:17

Totally disagree. I’ve experienced more inverted snobbery against university and degrees than anything directed at tradesmen.

Coffeeforayear · 13/03/2025 12:12

Never heard ppl being snobby about tradespeople myself.
Most people rely on them- and realise they have good earnings. Obviously as self employed ppl, some of that ought to be going into a pension etc.

Tradespeople with good communication skills are thin on the ground though. So many will not reply for ages, not turn up to do a quote, or be vague as to when they can do the job.

sesquipedalian · 13/03/2025 12:12

All I require is someone who does the job properly. The last plumber I had was a former lawyer who got fed up with the stress and hours. Most people I know respect tradesmen for the fact that they have a skill that those of us who are paying them most certainly don’t.

TheBrightJadeReader · 13/03/2025 12:06

it is puzzling at times with people