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To be so fed up and let down by medical professionals? Any help out there? Child cough.

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Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 05:52

Hi, does anyone have any advice? DS (20 months) has been back and fore to the GPs and A&E for croup and coughs since he turned 1 in July. It never ends and he can’t go 2 weeks without being well.

He’s been given Dex steroids at a&e numerous times for stridour attacks in the night- then I was given some to administer at home by the GP. He’s just had his second dose in 2 weeks. Constantly told by GP that it’s viral/upper respiratory infections, but no help given to support us to get him better.

We were once told it could be hay fever, so we’ve been giving piriton everyday since last September. He had a blue inhaler given once- it does nothing. At one point tonsillitis was making it worse so he had antibiotics and the tonsillitis cleared up but the cough never went away.

He coughs through every single night and every morning he wakes at 5.30 with a hacking cough, as if clearing all his chest. When he’s ‘well’, he clears it and it doesn’t come back until nap time. When he’s got a cold, he never clears it and just coughs every 10-30 seconds through the day.

AIBU to be so fed up of this and feel like we should be getting more out of the GP? It can’t be normal and I just hate being told ‘they catch a lot of illnesss’ - yes, they do, I have another child and I know this - but DS has CONSTANTLY got a cough. It’s so cruel watching him hack his lungs up every morning.

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Bubblesgun · 13/03/2025 07:45

Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 05:53

*2 weeks without being ill

Just a week’s break from this cough would be a fucking miracle

When my baby was 8 months old (she is 14 now), she started coughing like exactly what you are describing. We were seeing a very expensive peadiatrician at the Bupa Cromwell hospital at the time for other issues. He melpt telling me to wait it out re: the cough.

then she starting vomitting everything and couldnt keep milk in only could keep rice milk which has 0 nutrients in it. At the last check it turns out she had lost a kg. Which is loads.

i decided to get a second opinion with another pead. She was diagnosed woth pneumonia. Both the GP and the effing paed had missed it.
cue 14 days of antibios, for which i had to wake her up at midnight as they were real 24hrs ones.

then with no iron, shit loads of antibio she had a reactive arthritis in her right arm.

at age 3 we removed her adenoids which have HELPED A LOT with those bloudy coughs / colds she was having.

14 yrs later she is super healthy and happy.

so OP get a second opinion, TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS because 90% probability rhat you are right.

Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 07:44

RolaColaLola · 13/03/2025 07:36

just ask? Surely you only “push” for something if you’ve met resistance.

It’s a turn of phrase but if it makes you feel better to be pedantic then yes, I have been ‘pushing’ for more for the GP for months now. I am always met with the response that ‘children pick up everything’ and nothing is ever referred. I would call this resistance when my child is not getting better.

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RolaColaLola · 13/03/2025 07:36

Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 07:04

Yes we give them daily. He does seem slightly worse without them.

They gave us a blue inhaler once (out of hours GP) but it doesn’t seem very effective. Is there a way to push for the brown inhaler or does he need to be older?

just ask? Surely you only “push” for something if you’ve met resistance.

Zippymonkey · 13/03/2025 07:35

Hi op my DS is 3.5 and has been much the same. We have had many A&E trips for croup, infections and terrible coughs and throat issues. He has had extended viral swabs, uti tests, blood tests, inhalers, dex. After weeks of fever over 38.5 alongside the cough/throat/vomiting we have just finished a 3 week antibiotic course of different antibiotics and it has cleared at last. Peads think it is some kind of bacterial infection and hope that is the end of it. Definitely push for root cause investigation preferably with a paediatric doctor if possible.

Gridhopper · 13/03/2025 07:33

Might not fit the symptoms but GERD (reflux related) can cause a chronic cough. Poor little lad - wishing you all the best.

Catfox1 · 13/03/2025 07:32

I had my adenioids out, had to go dairy free and was allergic to dust and the stuffing inside stuffed animals 😅 adenoids removal cleared up the worst of it

LapinR0se · 13/03/2025 07:28

A cough that’s worse lying down can be caused by post nasal drip. I live in Switzerland and they’re obsessed with saline sprays and irrigation for the nose because of this

Callmemummynotmaaa · 13/03/2025 07:26

Two of mine had full consultant support, steroid (brown/grey/purple depending on height of need) inhalers, supplementary oral medicines, blue inhalers by 2. Both had permanent coughs, that included interrupting sleep and limited “colds”. Both love to move/run/climb and are high energy - however had frequent admissions to A&E with terrifying low sats levels (tachycardia, needing HDU input, overnight stays). They’d go from “fine” (or playdates/nursery attending) to limp flopping, chest rattling and gasping in hours. The asthma pathway has been lifechaging for us - but I suspect we only got on it as we’d a horrible few months with DD aged about 18 months when she had several (6+) awful admissions to hospital. She’d 5 now and still on high dose meds but this is the first year we’ve only had 2 admissions!! And neither were high risk, which feels huge.

Beyond meds: things that have made a difference - mine cannot get cold hands feet or chests. Expensive (second hand) coats and snow suits. Wool socks. A good multivit (as their food intake drops if o2 does). Daily exercise dance &stretches (incorporating some kids physio movements).

(and yes we’ve tried removing food groups - with no impact - they are allergy tested and have no allergy’s and antihistimes made v little difference. I hate the level of steroids given in our home, but it’s been transformative in my kids lives. We absolutely had to push for support including keeping symptom diaries, with videos AND constantly making the effort to see GP/A&E to document their symptoms)

Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 07:24

Thank you all. At least I know what kind of things I should be pushing for. I am willing to pay for a private appointment if necessary but, again, I’m not sure where to start.

I live in the South Wales Valleys if anybody knows where I should be looking for a private appointment or referral around here?

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Mustardfan · 13/03/2025 07:22

Can you ask your GP to refer him to a specialist? I’m under an adult Respiratory Consultant, I don’t know what the equivalent is called for children. If he was referred to a specialist they would probably do a CT scan (I presume they do these for children), that would rule out a condition called bronchiectasis, which causes coughing.

mumof1879 · 13/03/2025 07:18

The Poster above has just reminded me, that the antibiotics my daughter took were a much longer course too. I wish I could remember the name of them but I really can’t, sorry.

SlowSeasons · 13/03/2025 07:15

He needs to trial the brown inhaler, we weren't given it until after the third hospital admission - you need to push for it.

Lovemybunnies · 13/03/2025 07:10

mumof1879 · 13/03/2025 06:26

One of my children was similar for a very long time. She tried asthma pumps, first line anti-biotics, steroids, antihistamine… Saw specialist at the hospital… In the end the GP tried a different antibiotic that I think was a lot stronger and for different bacteria. The cough went and that was it. The conclusion was it was a bacterial infection that hadn’t been treated with the correct antibiotics. This did go on for over a year.

My DD was also like this. Both my DD were diagnosed with asthma very young at one and two ( I know people say that you can’t but they were) and a regular steroid inhaler transformed things for them. I also used to get awful coughs and colds until I was put on an asthma inhaler in my 40s and they stopped. Can you ask for a referral to paediatricians or could you pay for one private appointment and pick a really good specialist? Also ring the Asthma uk helpline who are amazing.

Toddlerteaplease · 13/03/2025 07:07

I wonder if he's inhaled a foreign body. I think you need to be pushing for a referral for a bronchoscopy.

Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 07:07

ShriekingTrespasser · 13/03/2025 07:02

Have you tried eliminating dairy ?

No but have considered this could be a factor. Although on the odd occasion the cough goes away for a day or two (this doesn’t happen often) there hasn’t been a noticeable change in his dairy intake so I wrote that off. I see there could be a link though.

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Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 07:06

Zeitumschaltung · 13/03/2025 06:49

My son had frequent croup (needing an ambulance) and bronchitis and pneumonia. A budesonide inhaler reduced the frequency massively.

Interesting - how did they end up giving you this? Was it just the frequency of episode?

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Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 07:05

GettingFestiveNow · 13/03/2025 06:56

If the cough is noticeably worse at night, could it be snot sitting in the back of his throat and irritating it (I forget the proper name for this)? Propping him up to sleep could help.

I definitely think it’s worse when he’s lying down. I have a small pillow in his cot (under a sheet) and towels under the mattress but he moves around the cot so much that he’s often the wrong way round.

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Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 07:04

DustyLee123 · 13/03/2025 06:51

Have you given antihistamines? Sorry if I’ve missed it in your thread.
And have they tried a trial of steroid inhaler?

Yes we give them daily. He does seem slightly worse without them.

They gave us a blue inhaler once (out of hours GP) but it doesn’t seem very effective. Is there a way to push for the brown inhaler or does he need to be older?

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ShriekingTrespasser · 13/03/2025 07:02

Have you tried eliminating dairy ?

Katesyd · 13/03/2025 06:56

What kind of heating do you have? My mum has a gas fire and I start coughing as soon as I walk in, there’s a very clear link in my case.

GettingFestiveNow · 13/03/2025 06:56

If the cough is noticeably worse at night, could it be snot sitting in the back of his throat and irritating it (I forget the proper name for this)? Propping him up to sleep could help.

DustyLee123 · 13/03/2025 06:51

Have you given antihistamines? Sorry if I’ve missed it in your thread.
And have they tried a trial of steroid inhaler?

Zeitumschaltung · 13/03/2025 06:49

My son had frequent croup (needing an ambulance) and bronchitis and pneumonia. A budesonide inhaler reduced the frequency massively.

pinkcow123 · 13/03/2025 06:48

I have two children, one had coughs until this year (now 4) but would get temperatures and have difficulty breathing and need support in A&E - pnuemonia and chest infections.

The other one, has a cough and congestion all the time! Has done since birth. They are under ENT following the hearing clinic saying they had glue ear.
But they are generally well in themselves - despite the congestion / cough

Hoppyhops · 13/03/2025 06:47

prettyneededchill · 13/03/2025 06:38

There’s a condition called protracted bacterial bronchitis which happens in small children. Being mostly well with a permanent chesty cough (>4 weeks) is the main symptom.

GPs are usually not familiar with it (ours didn’t see any issue with a 9 week cough!) but the private paediatrician (a NHS one who did a private BUPA clinic on Saturdays) spotted it immediately and co-ordinated treatment with our NHS GP. It required 4 weeks of antibiotics.

You need to treat it as it can result in long term damage to the lungs.

https://www.worcsacute.nhs.uk/~documents/documents/patient-information-leaflets-a-z/protracted-bacterial-bronchitis-pbb-in-children/?layout=file

https://www.spirehealthcare.com/health-hub/specialties/childrens-health/bronchiectasis-and-bacterial-bronchitis-in-children-explained/

Edited

Now I’m reading it in more detail - literally everything fits DS.

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