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To ask what is your favourite style of “beef” in AIBU?

61 replies

Biggerbucket · 12/03/2025 22:44

I love all sorts of wicked MIL and SIL stories, except when related to childcare of tiny babies. Followed by wicked stepmother stories and dissection of family budgets, who pays for what.

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mumbleberry · 13/03/2025 18:15

Cheeky fuckers who want to 'split' the bill whilst parking awfully

MoetUndChandon · 13/03/2025 18:10

Ones where the OP is being taken advantage of my neighbours/family for childcare and we all help write assertive emails/text so she can grow a backbone

101Nutella · 13/03/2025 13:49

Bill splitting with CF and the absolute cringe fest it would be in real life watching this dispute play out.

KimberleyClark · 13/03/2025 13:48

Childfree wedding ones, where people say it’s the joining of two families and children should be there, and they then go on to hate their in-laws ever more.

Screamingabdabz · 13/03/2025 13:46

I really like the ones with a whole narrative arc of a gaslit woman in love with some abusive piece of shit having the scales removed from her eyes by sisterly tough love. Even better when there is a “he’s left and I’m glad” happy ending.

takehimjolene · 13/03/2025 13:40

ViolentBeaver · 13/03/2025 10:49

Wedding ones.

Especially where the OP is considering taking out a credit card and forgoing a family holiday to go to the wedding/hen do of someone that they don't even like very much.

Edited

I came on to say the same! Another variation is the bride to be who is having a child free destination wedding and is annoyed that the groom's sister won't leave her newborn with a babysitter for days to attend. Bonus points if she expects everyone to agree that actually she is doing the SIL a favour by providing her with this chance for a break from parenting.

My entire family were a nightmare in the run up to my wedding (eg. inviting people I barely knew or actively disliked to be bridesmaids/ushers, contacting our caterers to try to have the menu changed etc) so I think reading about other people's wedding craziness makes me feel like I'm not the only one. (Over 20 years of marriage and it still annoys me!)

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 13/03/2025 13:38

I need to stop reading the ones where lovely people are lending money, giving lifts and doing childcare for ungrateful CFs as I get annoyed on their behalf!

Latenightreader · 13/03/2025 13:38

I love a bridezilla "my friend had asked that I buy £1500 9 inch heels, go on three international hen dos and arrive a week before the wedding to build the venue"

MILsAreHumanToo · 13/03/2025 13:27

MsVisual · 13/03/2025 11:04

"My MIL wants to cuddle my newborn DC. Should I go NC?"

They make me want to say 'look love, it's not all about you and for your own sanity I think you need to realise that it takes a village to raise a child' ... but I don't, 'cos it's bit blunt when the new momma's hormones are all over the place.

Speckyfourfries · 13/03/2025 13:19

School gates beef

ForPearlViper · 13/03/2025 13:19

I like the ones where someone asks AIBU in thinking (insert group of people or all people) are ruder/less helpful/etc where it becomes immediately obvious why all of OP's encounters are like this and it isn't other people.

PluckedOutOfThinAir · 13/03/2025 13:07

I love the funny ones, where the op describes a super embarrassing incident they have just had and then everyone replies with their own stories.

JeanGenieJean · 13/03/2025 13:06

Neighbours, parking, CFs, (supposedly) horrible in-laws.

ruethewhirl · 13/03/2025 13:05

As a pp mentioned, threads where a woman is being mistreated and comes to realise it as the thread progresses, and by the end she's putting steps in place to leave. This is one area in which I feel MN can be a really helpful resource, and it helps counteract the depressingly toxic shit people post on other AIBU threads.

And CF threads, just because. 😄

LetMeGoogleThat · 13/03/2025 12:58

Or, a stating the obvious thread ' Best friend has slept with my husband, AIBU for being upset?'

LetMeGoogleThat · 13/03/2025 12:56

Bloody love a 'my husband has not returned from a quick drink' thread.

PeachPumpkin · 13/03/2025 12:30

I like a CF thread, definitely. I also enjoy when we have a cake thread. In these threads, a poster will upload a photo of a cake. We all have to comment on how much we would pay for it. Generally guessed will range between 50p and £900 (ok I’m exaggerating) with a few pro bakers chipping in and someone asking if it’s a reverse. 300 posts later, the OP will say that they bought the cake for a celebration and paid £X for it. Rest of thread is taken up with a discussion of if OP had value for money and if not, steps to take now.

U53rName · 13/03/2025 12:18

Cocklodgers.

Thelnebriati · 13/03/2025 12:06

I love a cheeky fucker thread. I don't love cheeky fuckers but could do with some of their chutzpah. How do they do it with a straight face?

TealSapphire · 13/03/2025 11:54

'Can I leave my 12yo home alone for 10 minutes?' Thankfully there's a few more honest and realistic responses more recently but there's still a few 'I didn't take my eyes off my little darling til the day they turned 18' 🤣

MinnieCoops · 13/03/2025 11:45

Cheeky fuckers always. The more brazen the better

BettyBardMacDonald · 13/03/2025 11:44

Daisymae23 · 13/03/2025 11:07

i love the completely unhinged - faves have been babs who stole the allotment and the friend who stole the air wrap.

Yes, I wish we'd learned the outcome of the allotment story.

I do like a good parking drama.

TheChosenTwo · 13/03/2025 11:34

I hate the CF ones because usually they’re written by such a passive op who ‘hates confrontation’ and lets people walk all over them and just complains about it without doing anything! I just want to say get a fucking grip you wet wipe 😂😂

I do like ones where the op is so adamant they’re right and everyone says they aren’t and they keep posting defending themselves making it worse. Although I do like it best when they hold their hands up and accept they may need to apologise to someone irl rather than the ones who flounce off still
convinced they were right despite the outrage of everyone else.

theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 13/03/2025 11:13

Filet Mignon 😂

Oh, and I like anything with a drawing/diagram 😅

Daisymae23 · 13/03/2025 11:07

i love the completely unhinged - faves have been babs who stole the allotment and the friend who stole the air wrap.