To think punctuality is a sign of basic respect?

On every forum worldwide the same tedious thread appears every bloody week and it’s the same bloody predictable replies every.single.time. Blah blah blah no respect blah blah blah their time is more valuable blah blah blah so rude.

Recently arranged a dinner for some friends at a restaurant. It was the first time we'd had time together in years..I let them know we had the table for 90 minutes only. And one friend was over half an hour late. Without a good reason at all. I was sitting there getting more and more anxious. It was awful. And I felt quite disrespected.

Sibling of mine lost their most significant relationship because of their lack of concern for other people's time. Manages to get to meetings and work on time yet their neurodivergance seems to kick in only when they're not getting paid.
Only got to a parents funeral on time due to another siblings actual pushing into car.
It's disrespectful and as can manage for work completely clear that it's a priority decision.
Leave early. Sit somewhere and wait until the correct time. It's what people who actually give a stuff and care about other people do.

Of course not. But some things can be helped, if with a little help from alarms, prompting from other people etc.
And being blind or having one leg does not affect other people.

I’m never late, I have the kind ofautism that’s so uptight about rules that I’m often stupidly early sitting outside. But my daughter has awful time blindness. She genuinely can’t gauge how long a thing has taken her. She works hard to combat it with often 5 minutes apart alarms to keep her on track, but it’s so hard for her.

I have a stupid aversion to being too early, so I usually time things to arrive exactly on time. That means I am occasionally late if something unexpectedly goes wrong, but I text to let them know. Even when I plan to arrive early, I usually end up being just on time because I suddenly think of something quick I can fit in. Bad habit, and I do think it's disrespectful to be late so end up rushing.

It depends. I personally am very aware of time , and like structure and routine , but I also have friends who are neurodiverse in other ways , and have difficulties with time management . However , they usually apologise and are often embarrassed, if they are late - unlike those you mention who regard it as fashionable.
Then I have friends who perhaps are undiagnosed or unaware , and do not seem to understand, care or bother. Which is very frustrating.
I hope that those who really don’t care are a small minority.

Do you ask blind people to just see stuff too?
I’ve got one leg, should I ‘work around’ that?

Like their time is more valuable than mine.

I think this is a huge misunderstanding of other people's motivations who are not like you.

I can be late sometimes. I am not hugely bothered by other people's punctuality. I don't attach massive value to it. My honest assumption is that punctual - and, worse, early - people are a bit neurotic with a stick up their arse.

I'm not thinking your time is more valuable than mine. I'm thinking you should chill a bit.

Mobile phones have made it easier for the habitually unpunctual as you can update people on your progress, but that still doesn’t make it ok.

YANBU

Some people have ADHD and struggle with time keeping but it would annoy me if someone was consistently late. However I would be equally annoyed by someone arriving dead on time for a dinner party, I prefer it when people are 10-20 mins late to give me more time when I’m running late!!

Reminds me of my dad when I was at university. Pre mobile phone days so I didn't even get a message.

It is the absolute rudest thing ever. I thought I’d have enough time… feck off.

YANBU, it is something that really bothers me. It is so rude.
And I will get in before someone else does about being ND and having time blindness. If something you do has a negative affect on others, then you work hard to try and work round it.

I agree. As you say, things can happen to make someone late but if it's just a case of not getting organised to be on time, it's rude.

Agree OP. I think people who are continuously late have no respect for the persons time who is doing the waiting, especially if they seem so nonchalant about it.

Punctuality really isn’t easy for some ‘time-blind’ people but they should at least understand that it’s a failing and apologise.

YANBU. My mum is consistently late for everything and honestly, the arguments and upset we have over it are the worst thing about our relationship.

I tell a lie, she isn't late for everything, just things she apparently deems unimportant, like dinner at my house which I've cooked and got ready for a specific time, my son's nativity play (there were limited tickets)... her record was being late to pick me up after the end of one of my university terms by nine hours. Yes I could've got a train home in that time but she had offered to pick me up in her car and just didn't. It's so hurtful to me and she just doesn't get it. She doesn't apologise, ever.

I think the examples in your post are extreme, but I also don't think being a bit late to something is necessarily a sign of disrespect.

I really struggle with managing my time and am often late despite rushing like crazy. Not usually really late these days but often 5 minutes or so. I try to counter it and allow extra time but find it really really difficult. It's like my brain tells me I have loads more time than I actually do, or like time just disappears / ceases to exist as I get distracted into another task. I've even been late for job interviews and flights so it's not like I just can't be arsed. Sometimes I've arrived really early as I've tried to compensate, and still managed to be late as I've waited for some time then thought "oh I have time to use the loo".

I'm with you on this. Other members of my family less so, and it drives me nuts.