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DP wants to end relationship over misunderstanding with waitress

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Butterfly75756 · 12/03/2025 19:42

Went out for a meal with DP and all was going well. That was, until the mains arrived, and DP was adamant he had ordered his meal without mushrooms, yet his food had arrived containing them. A bit of a back and forth started between him and the waitress, who was saying DP definitely didn't ask for no mushrooms.

DP then turns to me and says something along the lines of, "Tell her I ordered no mushrooms". I immediately felt embarrassed and mumbled, "I can't remember". I hate confrontation and I genuinely couldn't remember.

The waitress eventually took the food back to go and fix the apparent mistake and DP was absolutely fuming saying even if I couldn't remember, I should have lied and said that I did and he kept repeating "Don't you know I don't like mushrooms?" After about 20 mins of being in a strop, he said that he would now have to reconsider the relationship as he doesn't want to be with someone who 'doesn't have his back'

Like the emotional wreck that I am, I began crying at the table and he told me to stop because I was embarrassing him.

So my question is, was I wrong to say I couldn't remember or should I have lied?

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OutwiththeOutCrowd · 12/03/2025 20:36

I'd be tempted to swap the hassle for a mushrooms on toast for one lifestyle.

outerspacepotato · 12/03/2025 20:36

I don't like people who are rude and nasty to service workers and he was rude and nasty to you.

He's an asshole. Good thing he took out the trash himself.

Mushrooms are delicious.

Topsyturvy78 · 12/03/2025 20:35

He could have just picked them out. It's not like you can tast mushroom in food unless you actually eat them.

BooomShakeTheRoom · 12/03/2025 20:35

Butterfly75756 · 12/03/2025 20:07

Thanks everyone. It has been really validating to read all your responses. I've felt like utter shit since I got home.

A man who makes you feel like shit, isn’t someone you should be wasting your life with.

Your partner should make you feel good.

Notimeforaname · 12/03/2025 20:35

Jesus christ.
Please don't ask if you were wrong. You are not. Don't focus on that.
Focus on how he treated you. You got upset and he was worried about you embarrassing him?

This man does not value you.

Please do not sit around and wait for this eejit to decide if you're worthy enough to be with him.

He wanted you to lie for him so he could be "right".
He wanted you to stop crying because it was embarrassing him??!
He sounds like a horribly selfish person who cares only for himself.

Also, if he's really considering leaving over mushrooms, he's either extremely controlling and trying to scare you into doing what he wants, or he's been looking for a way out already and this is his excuse.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 12/03/2025 20:32

This tosser doesn't deserve your tears.

Get rid of him.

WonderingAboutThus · 12/03/2025 20:31

P wants to end relationship over misunderstanding with waitress.

Good.

YourIcyTaupeCrow · 12/03/2025 20:30

If you aren't living together.....

2025willbemytime · 12/03/2025 20:29

I'm not sure @Butterfly75756 has dumped him.

Mydahliasareshit · 12/03/2025 20:28

I used to know a man like this. He was totally skint, but loved showing off to good looking women, so would invite them out for dinner but make up a problem and cause such a huge row purely to get it comped on the house.

He's still very much single, last time I heard.

loulouljh · 12/03/2025 20:27

All that over mushrooms?!

lifeonmars100 · 12/03/2025 20:27

Rude, immature, nasty to the waitress, turned a minor inconvenience into a major dispute and made you cry, have I missed anything out? He managed all this while out for a meal, dread to think what he would be like if something really troubling or difficult happened.

Reggio · 12/03/2025 20:26

Squigglesandgiggles · 12/03/2025 20:08

I wouldn’t have mushroom for this negativity

😂

Maurepas · 12/03/2025 20:26

WHAT A SILLY SPOILT BABY HE IS!
I had naughty children who behaved better than that!

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 12/03/2025 20:24

LucyMonth · 12/03/2025 20:13

So many icks here.

  1. rude to wait staff
  2. a giant stroppy baby about mushrooms, grow up and eat round them
  3. threatening to break up with you is emotionally abusive
  4. being embarrassed you were upset instead of concerned

Bin him off. He’s sucks so bad.

Yes! You should be dumping him.

Babygirlmamahere · 12/03/2025 20:23

Crikey, if this is how he reacts over mushrooms how will he react over a real problem? Definitely save yourself from this man and get rid.

Fififafa · 12/03/2025 20:23

Massive red flag. The way he spoke to you and the waitress would give me the ick. What an immature dick. He’s threatening to end your relationship over bloody mushrooms. Why are you putting up with this behaviour? You deserve better.

Marieb19 · 12/03/2025 20:23

He is an arse. Do yourself a huge favour and dump him.

Dumbdog · 12/03/2025 20:22

valderan · 12/03/2025 20:22

I bet he has a small appendage.

Like a button mushroom

Cm19841 · 12/03/2025 20:22

Do you live together?

ISpyNoPlumPie · 12/03/2025 20:22

WTF? Do people make this stuff up to get everyone all frothy and livid???

I’m assuming you’ve met other humans before OP? So you’ll know this is NOT NORMAL behaviour and you’ll end the relationship.

I know I’m being cynical but if this isn’t rage bait, well…

valderan · 12/03/2025 20:22

I bet he has a small appendage.

Dumbdog · 12/03/2025 20:21

BobbyBiscuits · 12/03/2025 20:18

Shithead men in restaurants could be a mega thread of the century! 🤣🫤

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Oh god. Don’t. I once went out with someone so pompous they insisted on changing my drinks order to better suit my meal.

I’m allergic to something in some white wines so avoid them, but if I was having fish he’d tell the waitress to swap my red for a white because it was ‘correct’.

He was always polite to them, though!

abracadabra1980 · 12/03/2025 20:19

"he would now have to reconsider the relationship as he doesn't want to be with someone who 'doesn't have his back'"

or

""he would now have to reconsider the relationship as he doesn't want to be with someone who knows he doesn't like mushrooms, but won't support him"

Jesus, OP, he's an utter prick. Makes for the best story ever over why someone dumped you, though 🤣

Seriously, I remember my now exH, embarrassing me in a restaurant. That was actually the very start of the rearing of his narcissistic tendencies. I was too young and naive to realise at the time. Many more incidents happened over the years. It didn't end well.

pimplebum · 12/03/2025 20:19

Horrible to waitress
wanted you to lie
threatening to end relationship over this !

i bet you have lots of examples of him being aggressive and mean to others and to you

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