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CrazyFTM88 · 12/03/2025 12:57

We have a 7 month old baby. While everything was great in the beginning, we're just not getting along now. I feel constantly unappreciated, overworked and sleep deprived. If I hear "I was just about to do it" from him one more time, I'm going to scream. He feels like he can't do anything right and that I'm crazy and demanding and negative.

We had a massive row as I was unhappy he didn't give me a lie in this morning. He said he would but stayed in bed, didn't get up when baby woke up and let me listen to the baby babble and then whinge for 20 minutes. Just kept saying he'll do it in a minute. Obviously I was fully awake at this point. Bear in mind baby is a bit unsettled atm and I had to wake up 4 times last night and the night before while he had 2 full nights of sleep. All I asked for is a half an hour lie in. It's all I wanted.

We shouted, he told me I ruin everything, and I'm too negative and critical. After this row, I just felt all the love I have for him die. I don't even care about him anymore. I'm not even angry anymore. Just sad and confused.

I don't know if there is any way to salvage this.

OP posts:
CrazyFTM88 · 12/03/2025 13:19

OK, guess I'll continue to do everything and shut up and let the relationship run its course then

OP posts:
Ablondiebutagoody · 12/03/2025 13:16

Stop being moody with him. It's both of your fault that there is a crying baby in your house.

9fthighfence · 12/03/2025 13:02

You’re both exhausted. It gets better. Fighting isn’t going to solve anything though, so stop it.

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