Would you have hung up on me

You might want to look into DBT therapy

She can't make it any clearer that she does not wish to hear from you. By ringing her you were not respecting her crystal clear boundaries. I'm sorry, I get that it hurts.

I remember your multiple threads about this woman. Please leave her alone and access some therapy for yourself.

Leave her alone. And yes, if I had blocked someone and they tried to trick me into talking to them by calling me from a withheld number I would absolutely hang up on them.

You just keep saying that YOU want to talk to her and YOU think you deserve that. What about what SHE wants? She doesn’t want to talk because she clearly finds the whole thing draining and wants to move on. You sound obsessed.

Don’t think anyone called you stupid, this very martyred response is tiresome in friendships though.

I'd just love to know why she feels she has to do this. look at all your old threads on this, it's clear why.
Whatever happened I don't feel warrants this: I feel it's actually cruel. doesn't matter what you feel, it's her decision, it's not cruel for her not to dance to your tune.
But I know you all will tell me to stop wasting my time so I'm trying to do that.
its more the friend people are concerned about!
I id hope for a minute or so but quickly dashed. Why? What do you thinks changed? This hope dashing is purely on you.

You can’t make somebody like you/want to be a friend.

A lot of time has passed since October and if you have been blocked this entire time then she isn’t going to suddenly change her mind about that.

You tricked her into answering your call by phoning from a withheld number and I think any doubts she might have had about her decision will be gone now from that action.

Its really hard, but you have to let her go. For whatever reason she doesn’t want to be your friend anymore.

If you don't want to revisit what happened to break up the friendship, no-one here can help you understand why it happened.... so it's a bit counterintuitive to go 'but why!' and then not say what actually happened.

....which leads me to think that you know deep down that you caused this from something you did, but you don't want to admit it.

She doesn't owe you anything. Calling anyone from a withheld number is creepy harassment. Accept she doesn't want you in her life and move on. I would have hung up on you too.

I agree with those who say you're coming across as needy and intense. There's two sides to every story. She may be right in blocking you, she may not, but ultimately it's her choice and you need to accept it and move on. Strong friendships are no different to romantic relationships sometimes in that, when they end, you pick yourself up off the floor, find your self esteem and walk away.

You sound deranged, leave this woman alone and get some therapy for yourself.

This I remember your multiple threads on this @spanieleyes22 and the obsession with this friend.
Leave her alone.

OP, I remember your threads. I don't remember the detail but isn't what happened that you did something that upset her (for good reason) but when she asked you to please let her deal with it and not keep getting in her face, you wouldn't stop calling and texting her. So eventually she blocked you?

I'm sorry you're still hurting, really. But you need to accept that this friendship has run its course and you hurt her and then did nto respect what she needed. And now it's over.

It would make me more certain that I'd made the right decision and I'd be really angry at you.

Sometimes 2 people just aren't right for each other at a particular point in time. It's probably not your fault or her fault, you do need to respect the fact that she doesn't want to continue the friendship though. It isn't fair to put her in the position where she would have to tell you repeatedly that she doesn't want to be your friend anymore. It's been made clear, it's time to leave it. It's understandable that you are hurting but you need to find a way to cope with that away from her.

At least you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that she isn’t open to explaining why. Best to now put a lid on it and move on but I can imagine it must be very painful and confusing. I would remove her contact number from your records too.

Nobody thinks like this. She was probably reminded of the reasons why she blocked you when you manipulated her into picking up your call.

If she wanted to contact you then she would have She clearly doesn’t regret her decision and if she felt any sadness about the end of the friendship then you helped her feel less guilty.

Except it's not once I rang once back in October and once over Xmas and then once yesterday plus a Christmas card.

I hope you can reach out to other friends, OP.

She called her once that she knows about. OP tried calling a few times before, after being blocked and has also sent an unwanted Christmas card to her ex friends address.

There's a thread run in similar to the other side of this - someone who has an acquaintance who can't take the hint that the OP doesn't want to be her friend.

I suspect that this OP has been missing increasingly unsubtle clues to back off for a while.

So to answer your question OP - I probably wouldn't have talked to you. We don't know why she blocked you, and it may be entirely not your fault. But SHE DOES NOT WANT TO SPEAK TO YOU. Tricking her into doing so isn't going to work, and is really unpleasant.

If she blocked you for whatever reason, why on earth would you think it's ok to call her covertly withholding your number? I don't think you can blame her for hanging up. It's bordering on stalker behaviour and I really think you need to leave her alone now.

I suspect she wanted to break up because calling her, from a witheld number, when you knew she didn't want to talk to you and were calling to get something from her (you were sad and wanted...reassurance? Kind words?) Comes across as needy and selfish and oversteps so many boundaries. You need to change your behaviour.

Behaviour like this would absolutely cause me to end the friendship.

I suspect that's precisely why she blocked you - you think there is a conversation to be had or perhaps an explanation or to persuade her to like you again.

She, on the other hand, is done.

If this was a boyfriend contacting a girl who has ending things, wouldn't you see that as inappropriate?

She hung up on you because you’d missed her gentler hints that she didn’t want to talk to you (although I’d argue that blocking is crystal clear) Calling her was disregarding her feelings and she wasn’t cruel to hang up rather than listen to what you had to say. She’s blocked you so doesn’t care and while that may hurt, you have to accept it before she considers it harassment and calls the police or something.