Upset at not being able to lose weight

I think you should accurately weigh and calorie count your food and analyse your recipes properly for few days to see where the calories are actually coming from.

Wow. This looks extremely healthy to me. Especially no snacks and no alcohol. I would suggest exercice (cardio + weights) because diet wise you eat healthier than me (I do eat chocolate, pasta and atleast 4 beers/week) and I'm at 9 stones 45 years old. I do exercice though so that's the only thing I can think of.

@BelloItalia I'm almost 100kg now, perimenopausal. Weight hardly moves. Im trying intermittent fasting and one meal a day. When younger, it would have moved, now nothing. I hate the idea of injections.

300 plus 100 plus 500 comes to 900 not 1900 cals 😆

Exercise and eat as little as possible.. it’s so depressing! I expect hormones are at play. Best of luck x

I also thought I could have written this. I'd try jabs but I'm not anywhere near heavy enough despite being 33% fat, I don't get it. It's brutal. I have been slim my whole life but now it's so hard. I just stay the same weight no matter what but if I go out and have booze and cake for a birthday or something then another unmovable lb goes on.

Your walnuts are 820 calories before you ever think about anything else.

Edit ah it was a typo. I was thinking wow! 🤣

Have you had a metabolic panel done, OP? I would be interested in your A1C and fasting glucose levels.

I don’t want to trigger competitive under eaters but your diet day sounds like a normal day to me.

As you get older you have to eat less and do more exercise to shift weight.

Walk 45 mins a day

eat half of your meal

I have an underactive thyroid. It needs a moderate calorie intake in order to work properly. Iwould risk damaging my thyroid even further on 600- 800 calories a day.

Here's my 1400 cals diet (roughly)

B:3 scrambled eggs, Greek yog and no sugar apple compote
L: ubiquitous big salad - lots and lots of protein - eggs, cottage cheese, tuna, etc. I have a lot of baked potatoes too (100 cals) with the salads.
D: casseroles/BBQ meat and veg, more salad, lots and lots of lentil and veg soups.

The trick is to eat a LOT of veg for the fibre to keep feeling full. I avoid rice and pasta and bread.

How tall are you, and how active?

I'm 5'5 and to go from 11 stone to 10 I'd have to eat 1400 calories a day. It's take about six weeks to 2 months to lose a stone that way. I'm a similar age to you

It's fucking brutal

12 stone is obese for anyone who is 5' 3" even someone at 5'5" would be obese at 13 stone.

P.S. Other things suggested in other posts are obviously great too, especially exercise, and if you can combine my suggested way of eating with some exercise, I’m sure you’ll be there sooner than you think!

Probably peri. Keto is the only lifestyle that works for me to loose weight during perimenopause. I know I am at risk for diabetes, so that and general health is also the reason I feel able to ditch carbs/sugar.
I’ve just accepted this is how it is. I give myself occasional windows (Christmas and one holiday a year) where I eat whatever I like.

It also reduces appetite and feelings of hunger because you eat plenty of protein and fat.
It takes discipline initially, but I don’t feel deprived and definitely don’t need to calorie count.

I think you need to shake up your calorie intake a bit. More on some days less on others.

I had the same problem when I was about your age. Nothing would shift that last stone, even though I followed the Slimming World and other diets. Then a friend told me that she had been the same but she had sussed out why. She said that when you follow these diets, it’s easy to overeat, even though you don’t think you are. She said the only way to do it properly was to write down every single thing you ate, including the amount of calories involved.
This took discipline, but it surprised me how often I was writing something down that I shouldn’t have had as it wasn’t part of the diet. It’s easily done - you bake a cake for the rest of the family, even though you won’t be eating it yourself, but you do lick the bowl clean. You eat your toddler’s left over dinner - she didn’t leave much, so no harm done (oh yes there is!). You are hungry later, so you munch an apple. Yes it’s good for you, but it has calories! I was astounded by how many extra calories I had consumed each day, because I was convinced they didn’t matter! Once I stuck to the diet with absolutely NO extras, the weight came off, and has stayed off, for 15 years so far.
One thing I found was, if I did stray, which I did at first, even by just having a biscuit, my brain would decide that I had broken the diet for the day, and I would eat extra stuff all day ‘because the damage had already been done, and I could start the diet again the next day’! Once I stopped doing that, I was on a roll. Give it a try. It takes discipline and you feel hard done by until the pounds start dropping off, but it’s worth it! Good luck!

Most people haven't finished work, never mind eaten their dinner and cleared up by 5pm.
We didn't get home until near 6pm, quickly got changed for gym (son) and running club (me), home just before 8pm, chicken/veg stir fry at 8.30pm, shower and chores until 11pm.
We normally do eat before 8.30pm.
No one's going to bed hungry.
I am 54, do mostly cardio for exercise because I love it, post menopause and a healthy weight.

So you have spoken about food, diets and meal planning but haven’t really said how active you are?

I think to a certain extent your body needs some exercise to stay in shape. If you don’t use your muscles they essentially waste away, which will reduce the amount of calories your body needs (BMR). It’s not about exercising to burn fat, but rather to increase your fitness and allow your body a buffer to maintain your figure.

imo diet alone isn’t the answer.

You sound very sure of yourself. You do not know OP is in perimenopause, and even if she is, not all women put on weight at that time.
Also, telling someone to ditch cardio and HIT is poor advice. If it's exercise she enjoys then she should continue, and all exercise has benefits.

I could if I wasn't as I'm 5'2 and at my heaviest was 12 stone. So that puts me in the obese level.

The Greek yoghurt and the walnuts are full of calories. Have a cooked breakfast of bacon (fat removed) eggs (poached or fried in low calorie spray), baked beans, tinned tomatoes, possibly sausages if you use low fat ones (vegan or veggie can be ok but check fat content).
Salmon fillet is fine, but how are you cooking it? Have a salad rather than stir fried veg - unless using a low calorie spray.
Dinner is fine but you can have real rice. But again, low calorie sprays for frying. Assume you are cooking from scratch and not using a bought sauce, which will be high in calories. If adding yoghurt use a 0% fat one.
Have healthy snacks,e.g. fruit and do not be hungry at any point.

If you have milk in tea or coffee replace whole milk with semi-skimmed and keep a note of how much you use a day.
But the reason you are putting on weight and not losing it is that you are going through the early stages of the menopause and women's use of calories changes along with our reproductive cycle i.e. our metabolism changes, so old eating habits have to be replaced. Go for walks and take up an exercise hobby (no need for weights at the gym, but swimming, dancing etc are good and fun).

I'm older and peri and the only way I'm shifting weight finally is using puriton shakes.

Shake with milk for breakfast
shake for lunch depending on WFH or out I do sometime have eggs.

Then Evening meal, normal gusto, healthy portions with high protein and fats about 500 calories.

No snacks, and this is the biggest change almost 1-2 ltrs of water a day.

I have upped my walking, gym routine but nothing crazy, just some heavy weights 1-2 times a week.

I do have wine and some carbs and accept that's slows down my losses, but I like to live!

I'm having to go down to 1000 a day to see any loss at all, I used to maintain at about 1500 when training.

Oh I'm also 5'2 which has a big bearing on my calories, you can work yours out and see if 2 weeks cumulative works.

Your poor body doesn't know what you want it too do!

Water is the key!! It's helps so much.

Cake, tea and booze as a reason for living? Really?
Well it might be your reason for living (which IMO is pretty strange) but it's not the reason which applies to everyone.