Upset at not being able to lose weight

Yeah I think that’s it. I upped the running and didn’t eat any extra. It doesn’t make me feel any more hungry than I used to feel to be honest, so that part was easy. So it’s working well for me.

I think the misconception comes from people thinking their exercise has burned off way more calories than it actually does. We've all seen the SM posts where someone says they've done a 4 mile run or 20 mile bike ride, and the responses are "you've earned that roast dinner, cream cake and glass of wine".

Running uses calories. It's good for you. It will help you lose weight. You will feel amazing.

Yes I am 5'7 and 11 stone..Don't qualify for jabs weight wise. May in the future, ethnicity wise.

So many people responding w/o even reading OP's posts. Annoying.

Anyway, OP has not said how tall she is. I'm 5'8" and 11 stone would not be overweight for me, and a lot of the advice here is very poor.
OP has said it's not massively overweight, so any talk of jabs isn't helpful.

It seems she is generally eating well. We don't know about what exercise she's doing.

I’ve always been led to believe this but a few months ago I increased my running and quite a lot of weight has come off without changes to diet. I’m definitely preferring it than dieting!

I hear you, OP! It's very frustrating. I'm getting to the point where I'm thinking I may as well have cake every day because I'm the same weight whether I do or whether I don't! Defeatist and not very helpful, I know!

Curry- there really is no such thing- does not require cream, coconut milk or ghee. That is the crap served in Indian restaurants that passes as Indian food.
Regular Indian food can be very low calorie.

If there’s nothing wrong with you medically then it’s purely about calories in vs calories out. Set yourself a target of maybe 3 months and log every single thing you eat, down to milk in your tea, oil in your cooking etc. down to the gram. Things add up very quickly! Then work out your BMR and be honest with how many calories you burn from exercise. If you have a fitness watch then remember they’re not entirely accurate. The Apple Watch is estimated to be about 95% accurate, so even then you need to add a buffer to your daily calorie burn. If you don’t have a fitness watch then you can use online tools to estimate calories burned from walking for example based on your height and weight. If you’re healthy then 99% of cases it is purely down to calories.

Yes, the sauces are a killer. Much better to keep food very simple in terms of ingredients when you are dieting - stir fry (stir steam as my DH calls it) some chicken and veg in a non stick pan, no oil, and add spices, water and a stock cube for example so you know exactly what every ingredient is; grilled chicken and a salad, low fat yog and fruit for breakfast. It is so easy to add 2-300 calories a day without realising. I lost 6st recently and the dawning realisation that it really was down to portion sizes, the higher cal ingredients etc made me feel like such a fool.

Your body needs a fuel source. this will be either carbs or fat.

If yourencitting down on both, it will he difficult.

Your body needs a certain amount fo fuel to maintain basic functioning - movement, digestion, respiration, repair etc. If you are not providing enough fuel, it will just become more efficient at using what it does have.

That's why people find that, even on vlc diets, their weightloss wil stall.

Eg if you lower your carb intake, you have to increase healthy fats. Some people try to do low fat and low carb and that doesn't work.

and yes it was a TYPO. op meant 25 grams of WALNUTS.

Comes to under 700 calories. Not including any curry sauce etc

Yes here we can see why people claim that they barely eat and can't see why they are not losing weight. A regular portion of homemade chicken curry, especially if made with cream or coconut milk, can easily be 700 kcal itself. (Just as comparison, one portion of Wagamama chicken curry is 1160 kcal). Weigh how much you normally take and don't forget the second serving, most people will take way more than what is counted as "one portion".

Nothing unhealhty about the foods OP has listed, but it is entirely possible to eat too much energy also when only consuming healthy wholefoods.

I assume 125g of walnuts is a typo, because they would have 820calories so your breakfast has 1000 calories; sauteed cabbage, is that in oil/butter - why not steamed or with a green salad? Even a low calorie chicken curry has around 400cals, so (typos aside), I’d say you aren’t reducing your calories enough because that looks around 1800 calories which is the recommended daily intake for an average female to maintain weight, not lose it.

IME not losing weight tends to be in part about not accurately counting calries, so I’d use a fitness/calorie app for 2 weeks to be sure this has been ruled out; then I’d add exercise (weight training as we lose muscle mass in our 40s and 50s so our basal metabolic rate drops). If that doesn’t help - I’d get your thyroid checked?

No, some people find they gain weight as they get older.

No she isn't, she's stated that the 250g of walnuts was a typo

You do start piling on weight in your 40s. I lost 3 stone on mounjaro and can only keep it off by strict calorie counting. As another poster said you are eating 1000 calories just for breakfast.
Or you could try slimming world. I always lost weight there.

Unnecessary? How many more do you suggest that OP cuts back?

Walnuts are extremely nutritious and have lots of health benefits. I wouldn't want to be on any eating plan that cuts out healthy foods like that. I'm 50 and maintain my weight whilst eating calorific but nutritious foods like seeds, nuts, avocados, cheese, olive oil etc.

I'm 11 stone, 5 foot 7. I don't think I would qualify for Mounjaro

This is true. I’ve lost two stone and I barely moved a muscle all that time.
(yes, I know that’s not very good)

Thank you.
I didn’t see that until afterwards.
Doh! 🤦‍♀️

To lose weight, I switch to a banana for breakfast, still eat the same stuff for lunch and dinner but just have less of it. I never fail to lose weight and I’m the same age as you. I occasionally snack still but again, just a smaller portion.

Weight loss is almost entirely down to diet, not exercise.

That’s still a load of unnecessary calories.

Crikey! That’s er…nuts!

OP, at 45, you’re at least premenopausal which will make losing weight harder, and your body shape will likely be changing.

Sounds really hard OP because your diet looks extremely healthy. You can be happy with that because it will be doing you so much good on the inside irrespective of your weight.

What’s your exercise like? Do you get your 10,000 steps every day? Could you ask a personal trainer to create a simple gym routine for you? Building muscle is the way forward.