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To think that men believe everything on IG/Tiktok is real

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Maria971 · 11/03/2025 17:56

It takes seconds for influencers to edit/facetune their body, making waist narrower skin smoother etc, eyes bigger nose smaller etc…. It’s just as easy to edit videos as images.

But there are so many men who seem to simp over TikTok influencers when it’s not even the ‘real’ them… do these men really believe what they’re seeing is, well, real?

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:20

DdraigGoch · 12/03/2025 00:08

men idolise edited videos and simp over them

If anything the ones I know think that the fad for false eyelashes, lip fillers etc. makes women look ridiculous. I don't know what sort of men you know.

Not necessarily men I know personally, but men I see online. There are thousands of TikTok influencers with huge boobs (some fake, some real), the tonne of make up, hair extensions etc, plus filtered, plus the obviously facetuned waist/hips (yes you can facetune videos too, easily)...and they have thousands of male followers.

You must know some decent men with half a brain.

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:18

@Disturbia81 That's true, by 'not real' I meant the videos and images are all edited on Facetune...

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:15

Leafy74 · 11/03/2025 20:49

Fair point.
But the impact these men have on women is nothing compared to the damaging impact these influences have on young girls.

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I think they both have an impact - the influencers themselves, and the men who follow them and simp, because the mens' reactions have an effect on women. If the men were like, 'well that's all airbrushed, it's not real', it would be different.

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DdraigGoch · 12/03/2025 00:08

men idolise edited videos and simp over them

If anything the ones I know think that the fad for false eyelashes, lip fillers etc. makes women look ridiculous. I don't know what sort of men you know.

HangingOver · 11/03/2025 22:01

The amount of men posting drooling comments on AI models on Instagram does make me laugh, they even say that they're AI in the bio!

Disturbia81 · 11/03/2025 22:01

What I've found.. is that some men seem to love these thirsty fake pics. And it's pathetic. They live in la la land.

But most men realise this isn't real. They are out and about and see what real women look like, and don't expect women to look like those pictures. They know it's separate and they feel very attracted to normal women. They even acknowledge that the ones who get work done like lip fillers might look good in a photo but most men don't like the done look in real life.

I go out with my unsmooth skin and bumpy figure and get plenty of attention and offers. No point feeling insecure about it

brunettemic · 11/03/2025 21:56

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:30

I know women believe it too, but the believing has a different effect. For men, they simp and comment, ‘perfection…10/10… etc’. Women look and think, ‘well I look rubbish in comparaison…’, even though they’re comparing themself to Facetune…

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🙄 yes all men do this, every single one of them. All of them. They all believe it. Not only that, they all truly believe that perfect woman is there for each and every one of them.

Jabberwok · 11/03/2025 21:54

No man I know (and I am one) finds the following attractive
. Slug eyebrows
. Brazilian butts
. Lip filler
. Ridiculous large artificial breasts
. Orange fake tan (in fact I heard two lads about 20 laughing about the skin tone a young lady had achieved yesterday)
Ie everything the op says men like. Sadly it young girls believing they should look like that because of influencers.

A lot of it comes from misunderstanding of what a lot of black women in the USA have been promoting, that shapely bottoms and bigger lips are as attractive as more "standard" ones. i.e. The image that the fashion industry has been promoting for ever .... That the idea woman is white and size 0. Even when using models of colour, they have Caucasian features.

CrystalSingerFan · 11/03/2025 21:34

Interesting question. What does 'simping' mean in this context? Is it short for 'simpering'? (Old single woman here.) Or something else... (I'd rather not Google😅)

ghostyslovesheets · 11/03/2025 21:19

But men (and women) have eyes! They go out and about in the real world and see actual real humans - it’s like saying everyone believes all women look like Hollywood stars

some people are daft enough to believe everything they see in SM and ignore reality it’s on them - the only exception being young people who we need to have regular conversations with about the none reality of 90% of SM as parents

MeAndMyCatCharlotte · 11/03/2025 21:00

Not the intelligent one. Years ago, my exH used to point out to me how much Photoshopping there was in my Avon catalogue!

Poppyseeds79 · 11/03/2025 20:59

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 17:56

It takes seconds for influencers to edit/facetune their body, making waist narrower skin smoother etc, eyes bigger nose smaller etc…. It’s just as easy to edit videos as images.

But there are so many men who seem to simp over TikTok influencers when it’s not even the ‘real’ them… do these men really believe what they’re seeing is, well, real?

Of course they don't believe it. They'll waffle on in the comments because they're horny, and hopeful they'll get some interaction back 🙄

Men have always done similar - it's no different to pin up girls from years ago.

BatchCookBabe · 11/03/2025 20:58

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:49

As I said in another reply though, the effect of believing it is different for women. It makes women feel less than, men idolise edited videos and simp over them

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men idolise edited videos and simp over them

No man I know does this. Maybe you should try and get to know some better men.

BatchCookBabe · 11/03/2025 20:56

Of course it's not just men! Women (some of them) think that the Insta pics they see of 'stunning' women are real. Like it's what they really look like.

Hint: it's not.

Case in point... Kim Hall. The lass who is being charged with smuggling drugs. Lots of women on her Insta thought she looked like Pic 1.

She doesn't. Nope. Not even close!

Instagram (pic 1) vs reality. (pic 2.)

To think that men believe everything on IG/Tiktok is real
HolyPeaches · 11/03/2025 20:52

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:49

As I said in another reply though, the effect of believing it is different for women. It makes women feel less than, men idolise edited videos and simp over them

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You sound incredibly insecure.

Even more insecure than people on social media who edit their photos.

Go and touch grass.

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Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:49

BlondiePortz · 11/03/2025 20:47

Women believe the crap they see too so why is only men you assume?

As I said in another reply though, the effect of believing it is different for women. It makes women feel less than, men idolise edited videos and simp over them

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Leafy74 · 11/03/2025 20:49

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:46

@Leafy74 No I am not underestimating it, I’m acknowledging it - I’m talking about the stupidity of the men who believe fake (ie facetuned/filtered) TikTok videos are real, and how that impacts women.

Fair point.
But the impact these men have on women is nothing compared to the damaging impact these influences have on young girls.

BlondiePortz · 11/03/2025 20:47

Women believe the crap they see too so why is only men you assume?

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Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:47

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 11/03/2025 20:32

All those men think the exact, same way.

Sarcasm?

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Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:46

@Leafy74 No I am not underestimating it, I’m acknowledging it - I’m talking about the stupidity of the men who believe fake (ie facetuned/filtered) TikTok videos are real, and how that impacts women.

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Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:44

@AllProperTeaIsTheft And has Facetuned her body

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Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:44

Maitri108 · 11/03/2025 20:32

Why are you only talking about men? Haven't you noticed the amount of women getting work done so they look like influencers?

Yes, they get the work done because they feel that is what they need to look good, which is fuelled by the men simping over it.

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AllProperTeaIsTheft · 11/03/2025 20:36

It's hilarious when men comment on Instagram, saying 'This is what real beauty looks like - no need for make-up or having work done' etc when the woman in the photo is clearly wearing a face full of make-up, has had fillers and has filters on!

Leafy74 · 11/03/2025 20:33

I think you are underestimateimg the damging influence this world of shite has on women and particularly young girls.

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 11/03/2025 20:32

All those men think the exact, same way.