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To think that men believe everything on IG/Tiktok is real

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Maria971 · 11/03/2025 17:56

It takes seconds for influencers to edit/facetune their body, making waist narrower skin smoother etc, eyes bigger nose smaller etc…. It’s just as easy to edit videos as images.

But there are so many men who seem to simp over TikTok influencers when it’s not even the ‘real’ them… do these men really believe what they’re seeing is, well, real?

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YourBestFriend · 12/03/2025 11:05

You must be joking.
The only flat-earther I know is a woman.

ManHereSorry · 12/03/2025 10:53

The vast majority of men don’t bother with Instagram or TikTok!

BadLad · 12/03/2025 10:43

However stupid it is to believe that these pictures and effects are real, it doesn’t hold a candle to the immense stupidity of having injections or surgery to imitate the look of these faces and bodies.

Can’t remember if it was last year or 2023, when some woman died after going abroad and paying some crackpot doctor to try and make her arse bigger after being “influenced” into thinking that it was a good lock.

ItGhoul · 12/03/2025 10:15

Don't be daft. Of course men (and women) know full well that what they're looking at when they follow models and influencers is a fantasy.

FWIW, this isn't just a social media thing. Looking at hot people on Instagram is no different from looking at filtered photos of hot people in a magazine (which, I can assure you, people did plenty of before social media and the internet.

You sound like you're massively projecting your own insecurities and jealousies here.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 12/03/2025 09:54

BlondiePortz · 12/03/2025 07:52

Has someone rejected you recently or something because your posts are coming across as intense and not natural? I can't put my finger on it

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It's the insistent repetition of the word 'simp'. OP has got it into her head for some reason and I also wonder if it's one that got thrown about in a break up argument.

BatchCookBabe · 12/03/2025 09:42

BlondiePortz · 12/03/2025 07:52

Has someone rejected you recently or something because your posts are coming across as intense and not natural? I can't put my finger on it

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I thought that. You sound incredibly bitter @Maria971

Floatlikeafeather2 · 12/03/2025 09:39

Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:48

@Floatlikeafeather2 How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? I'm 28, and the vast majority of millennials and Gen Z go on Instagram/Tiktok. There are actually lots of men in their 40s, 50s, 60s following these fake women as well....

I'm 68. It's immaterial. My point is that you are generalising about men. As I say, I know none who do this and all the men I know are not in my age group by any means. I just don't spend my time with idiots I guess.

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 12/03/2025 08:19

I think the phrase 'all men' or even 'all women' should be banned.
Of course they don't all think the same. This is mass othering.

Disturbia81 · 12/03/2025 08:17

Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:18

@Disturbia81 That's true, by 'not real' I meant the videos and images are all edited on Facetune...

I know, but men go out in the world and realise that women walk around without the smooth skin, pinched in waists, massive boobs and massive eyes and lips.
Tbh the simps you talk about are not the kind of man you'd wanna be with. Makes them easy to avoid.. when I meet a man I always check the kind of thing he posts

BadLad · 12/03/2025 08:08

PointsSouth · 12/03/2025 08:01

Gosh, do you really think so?

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Was that sarcasm?

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PointsSouth · 12/03/2025 08:01

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:47

Sarcasm?

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Gosh, do you really think so?

lastminutetrip · 12/03/2025 07:59

My friend makes subtlety edited photos of herself, I can tell because I’ve either seen the original, was with her and she’s cut me out of the photo, or you can see the warps in the background.

even mutual friends cannot tell. I have asked them. They also think mine are edited because I’m one of those adults that gets mistaken for a very short and studious 12 year old and ID-ed in Iceland.

BlondiePortz · 12/03/2025 07:52

Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:48

@Floatlikeafeather2 How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? I'm 28, and the vast majority of millennials and Gen Z go on Instagram/Tiktok. There are actually lots of men in their 40s, 50s, 60s following these fake women as well....

Has someone rejected you recently or something because your posts are coming across as intense and not natural? I can't put my finger on it

toomuchfaff · 12/03/2025 07:46

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:32

There are millions of men living in a world of make believe though…. And wondering why women in real life, even naturally attractive ones, don’t look like a filter

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Yeah but the men who belive this toss aren't the ones worth having in your life anyhow, they're simpletons at best, incels at worst.

Leave them there in a world where no one will interact with them unless they pay.

People exist who don't fit this narrative. It's likely you're swayed by one who does but he's trash, sorry to say.

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:48

@Floatlikeafeather2 How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? I'm 28, and the vast majority of millennials and Gen Z go on Instagram/Tiktok. There are actually lots of men in their 40s, 50s, 60s following these fake women as well....

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:46

@SabrinaToolmaker Yes, the type of man that idolises this look tends to love the word 'unreal' 😂Some slim women do have naturally big boobs, but the rest is all fakery...

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Floatlikeafeather2 · 12/03/2025 00:46

All the men you do might, OP, but I don't know a single man who does because I don't know a single man who goes on Instagram or Tiktok. That should balance it out for you.

SabrinaToolmaker · 12/03/2025 00:43

I think some men do find that look attractive. I remember that man with the stupid hair on Married at First Sight talked about “unreal” brunettes, which I think meant enhanced lips and boobs and all the rest.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 12/03/2025 00:40

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:30

I know women believe it too, but the believing has a different effect. For men, they simp and comment, ‘perfection…10/10… etc’. Women look and think, ‘well I look rubbish in comparaison…’, even though they’re comparing themself to Facetune…

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What does simp mean?

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:37

Snorlaxo · 12/03/2025 00:34

Those men know deep down that filters /AI make their fantasies seem real and they are fine with that. Remember that there’s men who get turned over anime.

I know there's anime, but I sort of see that differently as it's very obviously a cartoon and make-believe. Whereas with actual human beings in a Facetuned/edited video, some men could think that's really, well, real...

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:35

@Hugsbunny I assumed that many of the followers are men because most of them comments (though there aren't that many comments) are men writing, 'perfection', 'future wife'...😂Also because these women get their boobs out and try to dance around/act sexy in the videos, I think some men do follow them for that.

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Snorlaxo · 12/03/2025 00:34

Those men know deep down that filters /AI make their fantasies seem real and they are fine with that. Remember that there’s men who get turned over anime.

Hugsbunny · 12/03/2025 00:33

How do you even know what proportion of followers are men? The whole fake look isn't attractive to any men I know, not to say there are some but definitely only a small proportion. I'm pretty sure the whole desire for fake tan/false boob thing is entirely female driven.

DdraigGoch · 12/03/2025 00:27

Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:20

Not necessarily men I know personally, but men I see online. There are thousands of TikTok influencers with huge boobs (some fake, some real), the tonne of make up, hair extensions etc, plus filtered, plus the obviously facetuned waist/hips (yes you can facetune videos too, easily)...and they have thousands of male followers.

You must know some decent men with half a brain.

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If I were you I'd just spend less time online. As you've seen yourself, online doesn't often reflect reality so this applies to the comments' sections too.

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 00:21

@HangingOver Well the Instagram/Tiktok models edit their photos and videos, so they're not too far off AI anyway!

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