To think that men believe everything on IG/Tiktok is real

Maria971 · 2025-03-11T17:56:44+00:00

It takes seconds for influencers to edit/facetune their body, making waist narrower skin smoother etc, eyes bigger nose smaller etc…. It’s just as easy to edit videos as images. But there are so many men who seem to simp over TikTok influencers when it’s not even the ‘real’ them… do these men really believe what they’re seeing is, well, real?

ZoggyStirdust · 15/04/2025 23:23

Simp

are you 12?

ThisChic · 15/04/2025 23:21

Screamingabdabz · 15/04/2025 22:50

My dd is 23 (and stunning - could easily be an influencer) and she and her friends couldn’t give a flying fuck what men want or what men find attractive. They are so bored of the shallowness of men who think the value of a young woman is how ‘fit’ she is.

I'm sure your daughter is naturally beautiful, but influencers are all fake and artificial.

Screamingabdabz · 15/04/2025 22:50

My dd is 23 (and stunning - could easily be an influencer) and she and her friends couldn’t give a flying fuck what men want or what men find attractive. They are so bored of the shallowness of men who think the value of a young woman is how ‘fit’ she is.

BlondiePortz · 15/04/2025 22:40

Yes but women who make themselves all look the same and use 'pressure' to fake everything seem just as gullible

ThisChic · 15/04/2025 22:39

ManHereSorry · 12/03/2025 10:53

The vast majority of men don’t bother with Instagram or TikTok!

I wish that was true but it isn't. Not for millennials and Gen Z - the majority are on it!

ThisChic · 15/04/2025 22:32

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 12/03/2025 08:19

I think the phrase 'all men' or even 'all women' should be banned.
Of course they don't all think the same. This is mass othering.

I think when people say 'all' they really mean 'a majority' or 'many'.

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Maria971 · 18/03/2025 18:45

Jabberwok · 11/03/2025 21:54

No man I know (and I am one) finds the following attractive
. Slug eyebrows
. Brazilian butts
. Lip filler
. Ridiculous large artificial breasts
. Orange fake tan (in fact I heard two lads about 20 laughing about the skin tone a young lady had achieved yesterday)
Ie everything the op says men like. Sadly it young girls believing they should look like that because of influencers.

A lot of it comes from misunderstanding of what a lot of black women in the USA have been promoting, that shapely bottoms and bigger lips are as attractive as more "standard" ones. i.e. The image that the fashion industry has been promoting for ever .... That the idea woman is white and size 0. Even when using models of colour, they have Caucasian features.

You might be right that some men hate the 'IG' look, but there's a good number who also seem to like it. Women with that look, whether the boobs are real or not, do have hundreds of thousands of followers, and lots of adoring comments..... So they do have their fans.

Promoting that big butts are better than 'standard' ones is no different to the US/UK promoting that huge breasts on a very thin body are better than 'standard' ones. It does also make me think that it it's promoted because that's what men really want/find ideal, or maybe that's just what Hugh Hefner found ideal, as it's the first time in history that that has been the 'ideal'..

In some ways, the small waist, big butt trend has helped white woman who have that body type, but who for years hated their bodies and just wanted to be a lollipop (i.e. stick with no hips and big boobs, no disrespect to women who are that shape!).

You're right about black models often having Caucasian features - that's a form of racism and it's very sad.

Tiktok/Instagram warping to unhuman extremes is damaging in any case. Even if men say it's 'just a fantasy' and they know it's 'enhanced, I don't think people consciously think this when they look at things on Tiktok/Instagram, so it's bound to seep into their minds as though it is something 'real'. I don't think peoples' minds are that good at discerning what's real and what's not in some cases, but I'd have to look for a psychology study to back that up.

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Maria971 · 15/03/2025 11:44

ManHereSorry · 14/03/2025 20:07

Women think men like Katie Price.

Men actually like Sydney Sweeney.

See the difference?

Nobody thinks men like Katie Price. And Sydney Sweeney is edited in the magazine photos, but I see your point.

Basically men like big boobs provided the woman is slim, and they’d prefer ´real’ boobs. That said lots of celebrities have implants and men don’t know the difference. You can’t always tell implants any more.

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somewhereoverthechipshop · 14/03/2025 21:19

Agree..a prime example of this is Lauren Goodger from towie, She popped up on my insta feed and I couldn’t believe how filtered and facetuned her pictures were. Looks nothing like she does in real life. Men pay money to see her fake photos on only fans apparently. She’s not the only one like this..I pity the men who believe in this shite and they deserve to be scammed really.

ManHereSorry · 14/03/2025 20:07

Women think men like Katie Price.

Men actually like Sydney Sweeney.

See the difference?

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Maria971 · 13/03/2025 01:01

@ChompandaGrazia About 95% of Gen Z and millenial men, and a good number of middle aged (40 +) men are on Tiktok and Instagram, unfortunately.

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ChompandaGrazia · 12/03/2025 23:21

Ah, by men you mean idiots. Do try not to confuse the two.

There are a lot of men out there who aren’t on TikTok or Instagram. Perhaps if you stopped using it then you’d stop seeing all these images and these comments. I never use them and it’s like influencers simply don’t exist.

Porcelainpig · 12/03/2025 23:02

My other half says he'd run a mile from an instatype. Finds them too vacuous and high maintenence, but no doubt he would just after a sporty, slim, outdoorsy natural looking beauty which is also an unattainable image of perfection for most women too. It's easier to do fake beauty than try to be the naturally beautiful athletic type.

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 22:47

@Poppyseeds79 you mean when the person doesn’t look like their dating profile photos? 😂I’m sure it happens. But none if these influencers look like their content so I don’t know what a man would do if he sent on a date with one… 😂

I was talking about permanent or semi-permanent tweakments, like surgery, fillers, hair extensions etc…. These just don’t disappear.

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 21:31

Are you a man or a woman?

Maybe it makes them 'stupid', but I don't think it does. All they want is to look good and for their partners/dates to find them attractive. And if the potential date is likely to follow and drool over an enhanced video, then it's likely the young women are going to try to emulate that as best they can. Nobody wants a partner that doesn't find them attractive.

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Nobody wants to turn up on a date and the person they're meeting is looking for someone else either 😅

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 21:31

BadLad · 12/03/2025 20:59

That just makes those women even more stupid.

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Are you a man or a woman?

Maybe it makes them 'stupid', but I don't think it does. All they want is to look good and for their partners/dates to find them attractive. And if the potential date is likely to follow and drool over an enhanced video, then it's likely the young women are going to try to emulate that as best they can. Nobody wants a partner that doesn't find them attractive.

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 21:30

@FeministUnderTheCatriarchy I saw a creator show it both ways and I have to admit I don't know if I would have caught her doing it if she hadn't told us all.
If people are clever and subtle enough, they get away with it... And it's actually scary. I worry a lot for younger girls.

Yes, the body tuning - it's ridiculous. I don't think people responding to this thread really understand the extent of it, and the sheer number of young men who follow, fawn over and believe that the woman in the video/image really does look like that. Especially the videos.

Do you follow Stephanie Lange on Youtube? She shows some of these body and face warping apps and tries to draw attention to them. Stuff like this..

To think that men believe everything on IG/Tiktok is real

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BadLad · 12/03/2025 20:59

Maria971 · 12/03/2025 15:57

However stupid it is to believe that these pictures and effects are real, it doesn’t hold a candle to the immense stupidity of having injections or surgery to imitate the look of these faces and bodies.

Yes, but those women just look want to look good in the eyes of their boyfriends/husbands/potential dates, who likely follow and like a lot of the content that the women are trying to imitate.

That just makes those women even more stupid.

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 12/03/2025 18:46

Maria971 · 12/03/2025 18:39

@FeministUnderTheCatriarchy Love your username by the way...

Anyway, yes filters, but I think men are also unaware of Facetune and similar editing apps, which let you edit videos as well.

Aww thank you!

And yes, sorry I was thinking about all those things when I typed filters.

The body tuning in videos is actually getting insanely good. You used to be able to tell by slightly warped backgrounds but not anymore.

I saw a creator show it both ways and I have to admit I don't know if I would have caught her doing it if she hadn't told us all.
If people are clever and subtle enough, they get away with it... And it's actually scary. I worry a lot for younger girls.

I never worried about my skin, even on showd like The Hills you didn't see fillers or botox and you could see Lauren Conrads wrinkles and other girls blemishes etc.

Nowadays there aren't examples of normal faces on TV and even social media skin experts and influences are using incredibly good filters to show off their "glass skin".

The world is crazy now and a lot of men don't have the critical thinking skills to think 'hmmmm, what I'm seeing on my screen doesn't match up with what I see in the real world.'
(a bit like porn and their expectations about women's genitals and bodies).

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 18:43

@ConnieSlow It isn't anyone in particular that I know, it's just behaviour I see online, and anecdotal stories from friends about what their boyfriends do.

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 18:42

Charlottejbt · 12/03/2025 16:20

Surely we women all have at least one friend who looks as average as we do IRL, but like a cartoon character "hot woman" on SM? That knowledge helps to stop unflattering comparison in its tracks.

At the same time, I also know women who are stunning IRL, but they are mostly teens and twentysomethings (i.e. my DDs' ages) so there's no pressure on me to compete with them!

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I'm twenty something. I do know lots of women, and I see lots of influencers in the gym I go to in my city centre, who look good in real life but still nothing like their instagram pictures. Some, if I'm being honest, don't even look that nice without much make up in the gym...
There are lots of young attractive people, but Instagram/Tiktok are like hyper-real versions of people.

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Maria971 · 12/03/2025 18:39

@FeministUnderTheCatriarchy Love your username by the way...

Anyway, yes filters, but I think men are also unaware of Facetune and similar editing apps, which let you edit videos as well.

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ConnieSlow · 12/03/2025 17:00

Floatlikeafeather2 · 12/03/2025 00:46

All the men you do might, OP, but I don't know a single man who does because I don't know a single man who goes on Instagram or Tiktok. That should balance it out for you.

This. I don't know idiots like you are describing op. Neither do I know any shallow women too! At the end of the day, everyone has a brain to use so you can't blame stupid decisions people make because of SM.

Charlottejbt · 12/03/2025 16:20

Maria971 · 11/03/2025 20:30

I know women believe it too, but the believing has a different effect. For men, they simp and comment, ‘perfection…10/10… etc’. Women look and think, ‘well I look rubbish in comparaison…’, even though they’re comparing themself to Facetune…

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Surely we women all have at least one friend who looks as average as we do IRL, but like a cartoon character "hot woman" on SM? That knowledge helps to stop unflattering comparison in its tracks.

At the same time, I also know women who are stunning IRL, but they are mostly teens and twentysomethings (i.e. my DDs' ages) so there's no pressure on me to compete with them!

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 12/03/2025 16:11

I have noticed that a lot of men seem to be less aware of filters. A bit like they can think someone is wearing no makeup just because it isn't obvious.

I am unsure if it is just because they are less observant or because we are more clued in because algorithms and our peers bring these things to our attention.

I've seen many men compliment the natural beauty of women and insult women who supposedly aren't (online and off) and then been gobsmacked when informed about the (in my opinion obvious) filters/fillers/botox/makeup etc.