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Should I back away from potential friendship

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Toni0987654321 · 11/03/2025 14:49

I've met a mum at school in the playground through our children been friends, we've met up a couple of times for coffee and have been texting and slowly starting a friendship outside of the playground.
I told this mum something personal about myself and she's told another mum in the playground. I know because the one she told approached me saying ohh I can't believe you are concidring moving jobs! I was really taken back as I haven't told anyone else! And certainly not my current employer.
Now I'm left wondering if I should completely back away as I cant trust this person or if I'm massively over reacting! I just think my personal details aren't for her to share regardless how insignificant they seem,and seems no reason to share it other then plain gossiping.
Now I feel I'm back in the playground haha and acting like a teenager but it's really irritated me.
Would you back away and leave her to it?
Sorry for the rant 😅

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StillLifeWithEggs · 11/03/2025 15:14

Honestly, I think I’d be more concerned that a school gate acquaintance I was considering as a potential friend had a life so small that she passed on a completely uninteresting piece of information about me to a third party, who had a life so small she approached me about it!

I mean, the only person interested in someone moving jobs, realistically, is the person themselves.

I wouldn’t consider it a piece of personal information, but, if I thought of it as such, I would certainly not have told someone I’d had two coffee dates with.

Mushmemellow · 11/03/2025 15:08

So just don’t share anything sensitive with her in future - I do think your reaction is somewhat ott.

Sassysoonwins · 11/03/2025 15:00

Local school mum networks are largely about passing on useful and non useful information.

It can be very helpful to be part of that local network, it can be great to go out in groups for some socialising and it can be very helpful for your child's social group and emergency pick ups when the trains are screwed BUT in my experience they are not deep friendships (can be but not mainly) , so any information you wouldn't want pinned to the village notice board, keep to yourself.

Iknowaboutpopular · 11/03/2025 14:58

It's not really a sensitive subject but yes I'd be annoyed too. If she can be totally indiscreet about something this insignificant, then I'd dread to think what she'd be like with something more serious.

Ta ta dearie, off you fuck.

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