To say DH can’t get a dog

Adding a pet is like adding another child. They are expensive and (in the nicest possible way) a burden!
I say that as a mum of multiple children who also has pets.
You are being realistic about this.
He is being ridiculous about this.

Hard no!!

Why do people get these stupid ideas of taking on a pet with no actual idea of what's involved?

Dogs cost a lot so where is he going to get the money to pay for food, vet bills, insurance, etc when he's already running out of money before the end of the month? Then walking it every day at least 2 times a day?

Your DH is being a twit!!

Add up the cost of dog insurance, dog food, and a dog walker three days a week, then show him the monthly cost.

Make it clear you will not be walking his dog or contributing to the costs.

If he is stupid enough to buy a dog he can't afford, wake him at 5am to walk it. 🙄

You could offer a dog sitting service, you get the income and your husband quickly finds the novelty wears off. The you can 'shut down' the service and forget the conversation until retirement!

We don't have any problems or money pits like you but I don't want a dog so we don't have a dog. Dh is a dog person as he puts it. His parents and sister have dogs but I don't like to have them. It takes two.

To get any pet everyone in the house needs to be onboard with it, even if finances aren't an issue

Nope. I'm having the same convo with my DH.

It helped that we had a friend to stay recently with his dog and it was a bit of a nightmare, jumping up to the counters for food, constantly jumping on beds and sofas, moulting everywhere, and he also smelt.

Could you borrow an unruly, smelly dog?😃

Not unreasonable to not want a dog that you will have to care for. Additionally dogs are expensive to care for properly. Food, toys, vet bills can really add up. If you're stretched thin as is a dog could very well break the bank. Wait until the cats have passed or the kids are grown and finances aren't so tight. Good luck!

say no. Say it clearly and firmly and say I will work out of the home if I have to but I am not looking after your dog. I already pay for things for the children because you’re broke by month end- I won’t pay for a penny more because you’ve bought a dog and I won’t contribute a penny. I will instead tell their mum why you can’t pay, because she deserves to know that you’ve prioritised a dog over your children. The only reason you are thinking about it is because you think that m wishes don’t matter and it doesn’t matter if I am budgeting super carefully and skimping on everything that matters to me, so I can fund both your children and your whims. I won’t be in a relationship with a man who thinks that so do not buy a dog.