Wondering whether to ttc..is 7 yr age gap too much

The closest family I know had two seven year gaps, so the eldest boy was 14 when the youngest was born (all three are full siblings).

My boys were 9 and 11 when my daughter was born. It's been fine.

Our daughter was a week shy of 9 when our son was born. She wasn’t too interested in him but became much more so as he grew. Now adults, they have a lovely relationship and he’s a fantastic, much loved and appreciated uncle to her child.

There's a 7 year gap between me and my older sister and we get on really well-- I really wouldn't worry about it too much. I originally thought I wanted a 2 year gap between my kids but that didn't happen due to multiple miscarriages-there is a 4.5 year gap between my two and it works really well, I am so relieved I didn't have them any closer in age, I don't think I could have coped. Good luck with your decision, I think there are lots of pros to a bigger gap

I’ve always thought that if you’re young enough, a 5 year age gap is about perfect. It must be so so much easier having one child in school in those early days of having a newborn. I still look back and shudder at those days of both potty training and breastfeeding. Neither of my kids really slept through until they were about 3-4 and if one wasn’t waking you up, the other was.

A six year old could be really helpful too.

Every age gap has pros and cons. It seems fine.

I've got an 8 year age gap between my 2 DS's and it's never been a problem except for a few months when eldest was 16 and 8 year old went into his room and played with his games, scratching them. They are both grown up now and get on very well. They are closer to each other than to their sister when is 2 years older than eldest ds. They live in different areas but one stays with the other about every 3 months for a couple of days. They text a lot, usually stupid memes and stuff.

Breaking it down - A 7 year old and a baby is fine. A 14 year old and a 7 year old less so. A 30 year old and a 23 year old is fine.

So you could have some tricky years where they won’t have much in common and will be living quite separate lives, then you’ll have the younger one at home by himself potentially when the older is at uni/flown the nest.

But in the grander scheme it’s probably OK?

There really are no rules a round these things. It'll work for some families, not others.

But there is a gap like that between my friend and her sister (growing up we all thought my friend would be an only child) but they've always got on really well - both as children and now adults.

I really don't think people should pay too much attention to age gaps. It is much more about the children personality and parenting than the age number. Of course 7year age gap will be different to 1 year or 15 years. But there are pros and cons to all of these.

I don’t think 7 years is that crazy to be honest. You haven’t told us your age but if you really want a second, go for it. Yes it’ll take time for DC to get used to it but really it’s the same with any age gap right?