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DD pretending to be older online

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allbuttroubled1 · 11/03/2025 12:13

I have found out that My dd (13) is pretending to be older (20+) online. she doesn't go into adult meaning porn etc spaces but I realised that she has been lying about her age to get friends and is presenting as much older. I don't know what she gains by doing this but I am very puzzled by it. Does this count as catfishing?
I've confiscated her phone to scrutinise it for now... AIBU for everything?

OP posts:
Tomikka · 11/03/2025 12:23

She could have adjusted her age to bypass social media restrictions - if her accounts are two years old, eg she was 11 and set an age of 18

But the danger remains - others will think that she is an adult

babyproblems · 11/03/2025 12:19

WOW. This is not to be taken lightly imo. She needs no phone at all and no access to the internet. She is super vulnerable and this situation needs nipping in the bud now. Make absolutely certain she hasn’t sent any photos etc to anyone op. She is likely under age limit for some social media so be very very wary here.. you need to keep communication open and trust there so she can come to you openly… I really think you need to be careful to not underestimate the potential dangers here. Good luck x