Found out fiancé is married to someone else

You need to check this out properly. Don’t forget his ex told you. Could it be sour grapes. What a mess. I think I’d want out anyway. Life’s too short

Wow

firstly, I am feeling really sorry for all that situation you are in. It is horrendous to find out this kind of thing just before getting married yourself.

I mean. Will you trust him again after that? Even if…ok…there is not really any good moment to say « eh…I am married »…to plan getting married should have been the time and he didn’t. Let alone leaving to one of his exes (he has loads no?) telling you he still his married!

I would urge you to dump this liar.

He would just about hide anything from you.

Good luck 👌🏼

This happened to me well was with a guy for 8 years he said was divorced I never asked for evidence. Anyway long story short he started seeing her again and well now together. They were apart during time we were together she lived with someone else. He said the same as in just never finalised it. Weird eh why still he married eh.

My close friend and her ex didn’t bother to get divorced for over 15 years it’s not that big a deal -if you didn’t ask the direct question… what counts is if he is serious about you then when is he going to divorce her .. if your relationship is sound in all other aspects then work it out … marriage is so overrated anyway - if you can’t move on then maybe you aren’t ready for marriage either as he found out in his early 20’s with what would have been a teenage relationship that ran its course …

Does he think you were born yesterday? Sorry but were you? He has form. Ditch him immediately and run a mile. Otherwise you'll be the next wife telling his next fiancee that he's still married.

Forgot did he Ha! First thing you need to do is give him back his ring. It's just a fantasy being engaged to a married man. Next I would suggest a little time apart. He's not trustworthy Red flag for me would be his ex(not his wife,but after his wife and before you) contacting you with this information. She's likely had experience of his duplicity. Be careful ,if you are going forward with this guy! I hope you are third time lucky.

Please don't marry him OP (assuming it's legally possible), and especially don't have children with him. He is irresponsible and dishonest and it's horrible sharing children with someone like that. Cut free and find someone else - you have time.

Run, run, run as fast as you can. He is 33 years old and already had three women, yourself included, that you know of. Sounds he has the gift of the gab. A leopard doesn’t change its spots. Please rethink regarding a baby with him and thank the stars you are not pregnant already.

Photo copy all official papers you both have, bank etc.
You are young, not even 30 and can have better than him.

If he divorces her, and marries you, beware he might "forget" he is married to you too OP.
A man of his age, without any cognitive impairment, does not forget he is married.

Are you actually going to stay with him after this ?

Obviously, if he were a widower then you could marry, of course, but as his wife seems to be alive and kicking and they’re not divorced, then he can’t be legally married to you, too, he would be committing bigamy as I say on my other post.

I disagree.

It’s fine to not want a relationship either someone who has been married before or has kids from a previous relationship etc.

Sounds like he was never planning to marry you and just got engaged to keep you quiet.

Its common to still be married but it’s not normal to then get engaged and not tell the woman you apparently want to spend the rest of your life with, that you’re still married.

Thank goodness you didn’t get pregnant before knowing this.

If he can lie about this, he can lie about anything.

Thank god you found out now instead of when yous were married or have children. I'd be really annoyed. For one I'd be mortified telling people I'm getting married to someone who is already married and I couldn't forgive him for the fact he purposely deceived you. Surely he would have mentioned. He made you out to be a right mug.

Well, the fact that he’s a liar is bad enough, but legally, you cannot get married to him whilst he is married to someone else, it’s bigamy.

This is mad and the reason he never told you .
You can cope with him having human beings with another person but not that he commited to her . Seriously ?

I can see why he played it down after reading g this comment .

Are you jealous ?
Guy had you on one ear and the ex wife now kicking off in the other no wonder he kept it all quiet .

Some people keep married name, especially when they have children.

First of all I hope you have stopped trying for a baby with him, I would be handing back the ring and telling him a child is off the cards. He had no intention of telling you about being married. You would of found out when having the pre wedding interview. Advise him that if he wants marriage and a child with you his divorce needs to come first. Then you may consider his proposal but not until then.

Did you not notice she had the same surname? It's all a bit bizarre.

So he asked you to marry him when you got engaged presumably??
So htf was he going to marry you?? Just not tell you he was married, surely at that point even you were planning the wedding the ex wife would have told you!!
To marry a divorcee you have to produce a divorce certificate

Noone forgets something this massive, it’s a blatant and calculated deception. I’m not one for the ‘he’s scum, dump him’ Mumsnet brigade but I couldn’t continue this rship. He’s been fundamentally deceitful. No way I’d want to start a marriage on that footing; it isn’t like he forgot to pay a bill

So you have found out he’s a liar
what was his intention to string you along
and not marry you
or marry you bigamously,
Which ever , I would not be having kids with him, once a liar always a liar

I need to know, (I'm on mobile so can't read all OPs updates in a row. That's a luxury not afforded us plebs) did you know he was ONCE married and thought he was divorced? Or had you never known he was married at all?

I am a family solicitor and I am not surprised that somebody forgot they had never got divorced. It is surprisingly common. I agree that this potentially affects his financial situation and you should make sure it that that has been resolved before you marry him whether or not you still want to marry him. Depends on whether you still love him and see a future together.