Found out fiancé is married to someone else

No, he was hiding INSPITE of his ex reacting 'badly' (not sure how anyone would react well to being lied to about such a thing). Not because of.

He treated her shittily and, hasnt changed. He's lied to you too and he'll happily tell the next woman YOU were the issue and you 'reacted badly' and on and on. Because he is a liar and a mysoginst and he doesn't care about anyone apart from himself.

Seeing the pattern where he's a douche and yet nothings ever his fault, he has no control over his own life wah wah poor him, yet?

Run for the fucking hills love!

God he sounds like a weasel.

You're young and deserve better. Dump him and move on. He won't be a good husband or father if he thinks this is normal.

His excuse is that he forgot.?

It would obviously be unethical to marry someone with such limited mental competency that they don't know if they're already married to someone else.

Walk away.

ETA: Get back on reliable birth control immediately if you can't summon the backbone to walk away today.

How does he have kids (plural) if he was only with her for six months?

He got married and left the mother of his children 6 months later, years after having children with her. Never bothered to get divorced even after another ex had a bad reaction to him still being married. He barely sees his children. He lied to you.

Why do you think it's a good idea to have another child he won't bother to see with this prince?

This is all so weird.

He must be saying that because he thinks it is what you want to hear, otherwise how could you ever know he would be marrying you because he wants to, rather than he feels 'pressured into it'.

Chances are he had no intention of marrying you and was planning on an open ended engagement otherwise he would never have proposed without dealing with his divorce first, he could have done it when his ex found out 5/6 years ago, the fact that he has continued to ignore it and is now lying to you about it means he had no intention of going through with marrying you.

This is just odd. Surelt the wife would have known you got engaged. And how can you forget you are married??
4 years into a relationship you would think at some point you would have spoken about his divorce? Have you never once spoken about that in four years. I would have had so many questions for my partner if they were divorced, like why, how and when for a start.

Oh for the love of god do not have children with this liar.

OP had already said that they rent (not own) a property together. He also doesn't own anything with his wife.

because they got married 10 years ago, so presumably after having their children.

It's still not something you 'forget' to tell your future partners about though!

Please tell us you don't co own a property or have shared finances with him. If he dies intestate, they're hers.

I'd withdraw and insist they sort this out as a condition of stayimg with him - if you still want to risk your chances of future happiness with this man - at best useless, at worst a liar with bigamous intent!

How do they have kids aged 12 and 14 together if they split after 6 months?

It is to point out that there are significant implications if you dont get divorced when the relationship ceases.

For example the lottery winner whose wife stepped in to claim half as they had never divorced despite having been separated for years

But he has children with his first wife, right, so that’s a big deal. Bigamy is a crime in the UK; you can actually go to prison for it. So he can’t marry you at the moment and you’re not engaged. He sounds pretty dozy rather than malicious. But yes, put the brakes on trying to conceive. Let him get properly sorted out.

Wow, absolutely, you don’t forget that. When I was young and daft I got married, it didn’t last long at all and it was a stupid and regrettable decision, but when I met my husband I told him within weeks (oh, and I had got divorced as soon as I was able to). You just don’t hide this sort of thing from someone you have any respect for. At minimum it’s completely tarnished what should be a joyful time for you. I’d struggle to get past this.

Wait, you didn’t even know he’d been married?

Thats a heck of a lie by omission.

You’re not making a big deal out of it!

Fundamentally, you think marriage is special and important.

He obviously doesn’t and sees it more as a set of behaviours not a legally binding exclusive contract.

By chance, his name is not Ross Geller is it?

He’s 33 with two failed marriages.

Marriage doesn’t suit him, OP.

. And the thing is i’m a bit younger than him (i’m 27, he’s 33), and I don’t think I would have got with someone if I knew they’d been married before. Does that sound silly?

Have I go this right? He's 33 and had 2 divorces already and you'd be wife No 3?

He doesn't sound reliable and he's not free to marry you.

I'd be very very wary of someone so young being married twice by their early 30s.

You need to end this.

Well, if you do that you’re not to smart. You know the facts. I’m thinking this is a bot thread.