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Can't be bothered to meet friend

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YourChirpyCoralAnt · 10/03/2025 20:00

I have one friend who only ever wants to go to the pub and drink and find men.

I am married. I meet her once a month and cave every time to go to the pub. I have made other suggestions such as dinner etc and she knocks them down in favour of the pub.

It's just not my scene anymore. I wouldn't mind going once there and then the next month for dinner but it's always on her terms.

We are meeting Thursday and I've said adamantly I wish to go for dinner instead and she's just come back saying no, we are going pub.

I dont want to sit and drink wine on a Thursday night in a pub full of teenagers and people and to be honest if my husband had a mate that was constantly on the lookout and bringing women over to the table to join them I wouldn't be too impressed.

Am I being unreasonable if I cancel if she won't at least do my suggestion at least once. 🙄. I just simply don't enjoy that scene anymore.

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MarioJumbo · 10/03/2025 20:09

DarkMagicStars · 10/03/2025 20:02

I wouldn’t go. You can’t do what she wants every time but it sounds like she’s only using you so she doesn’t look daft going on her own.

That’s the thing though - I go to this one pub on my own to use their WiFi - and get loads of male attention!!

MarioJumbo · 10/03/2025 20:07

YANBU OP. Sounds tedious beyond belief.

Meeting men in a pub what year does she think it is? 1991? May as well order in some Diamond White!!!

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 10/03/2025 20:04

Well I'd be replying to her "no we are going to the pub" text telling her she can go where she wants but you're pig sick of the pub so she can find someone else to go with.

gamerchick · 10/03/2025 20:03

Just cancel. It's not your thing anymore and that's fine.

I couldn't think of anything worse these days.

DarkMagicStars · 10/03/2025 20:02

I wouldn’t go. You can’t do what she wants every time but it sounds like she’s only using you so she doesn’t look daft going on her own.