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Would you buy a house that somebody had been murdered in?

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lucy889 · 10/03/2025 14:18

Around 12 years ago, an awful murder involving a child and parent happened a few miles from our house, it was such a shock and the house has been empty ever since.

It's now on the market, I personally could never buy it or live there and I feel sad every time I drive by.

Would you buy it given the history if it was perfect for you?

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FastFood · 10/03/2025 15:49

Yes no problem at all.

llovemermaidgin · 10/03/2025 15:48

When we moved to our previous house, our older neighbour [who turned out to be a bit of a cow] was keen to tell us that the previous elderly owner had died in the kitchen. A welfare check was done because of the smell, they had lain there for nearly 3 weeks. The house had been empty for ages and was really low priced.
I just said "That's a shame. Still it's all in the past." She looked royally pissed off.
We lived there for nearly 22 years and no negative vibes. Downsized didn't need to mention the incident as it was history. I always thought it sad, that no relatives visited to check on the lady though.

Dontfencemein · 10/03/2025 15:48

As previous posters have said, a natural death would not bother me, but I could not feel at peace in a place where someone had been murdered, especially by a family member.

ByWildLimeCat · 10/03/2025 15:48

A similar hideous crime happened local to me maybe 20 years ago, a man killed his wife and all of his children within the home. It did well, at a hugely cut down price - a lot of the locals thought it should’ve been knocked down. They did it up completely and sold it on, but I do think of that poor family every time I drive past it now.

TaylorSwish · 10/03/2025 15:47

I would go and see it. I would feel what the energy was like and decide then.
Disclaimer - I am a bit odd.

BMW6 · 10/03/2025 15:47

I would visit the house alone a few times to get the vibe from it.

Some houses feel "off" to me, others feel disturbing, even really scary. Most just feel empty, devoid of any feelings. Others feel positively welcoming.

saraclara · 10/03/2025 15:45

I consider myself very rational and un-woo, and I certainly don't believe in ghosts and spirits. But no, I couldn't live in a house where something so desperately cruel and tragic happened.

An acquaintance of mine took her own life in a house a hundred yards from mine. She was found by her young children. This was 20 years ago, but I still find it hard to walk past her bedroom window.

But a peaceful death wouldn't bother me. Or at least I shouldn't let it, since I nursed my DH at home until his death. But I dare say there are people who wouldn't want to buy my house if they knew he'd died in it.

SabreIsMyFave · 10/03/2025 15:42

lucy889 · 10/03/2025 14:18

Around 12 years ago, an awful murder involving a child and parent happened a few miles from our house, it was such a shock and the house has been empty ever since.

It's now on the market, I personally could never buy it or live there and I feel sad every time I drive by.

Would you buy it given the history if it was perfect for you?

Probably not. Not since watching this on the BBC. 😱

Would you buy a house that somebody had been murdered in?
notapennyless · 10/03/2025 15:42

lucy889 · 10/03/2025 15:40

My parents did that and the weird things that would happen got worse and more frequent, they never bothered again!

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That sounds like a job for the Diocesan Exorcist.

Every RC Diocese has one...

PenneyFouryourthoughts · 10/03/2025 15:40

Yes.

DreamyRedNewt · 10/03/2025 15:40

No, I wouldn't.
We found a house on the cheap side when looking for properties to buy and they had to disclose that the owner had been murdered. I didn't want anything to do with the hose, even if it was cheap. It would be even worse with a child involved, no way.

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lucy889 · 10/03/2025 15:40

notapennyless · 10/03/2025 15:38

I would buy it but get a priest to come and bless it before we moved in.

My parents did that and the weird things that would happen got worse and more frequent, they never bothered again!

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jasflowers · 10/03/2025 15:40

No i wouldn't, read too many Stephen King books.... silly really because chances are, many of us live in older homes where murder was done or plotted or other vile crimes committed.

I mean who would know if their 1920/30s terraced house was the scene of a murder?

One thing i'd never do though is buy a converted chapel c/w its own Grave yard...

notapennyless · 10/03/2025 15:38

I would buy it but get a priest to come and bless it before we moved in.

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lucy889 · 10/03/2025 15:38

It was a massive shock to the community, things like that just didn't happen around here.

It's a quiet and peaceful area to live.

My DD is 2 and it hurts even more now I have her when I drive past it, the child was 6 years old murdered by the father when the mother left him. He then killed himself.

I grew up in a "haunted house", it was previously owned by a priest and his maid and she hung herself in our bathroom, he died of a heart attack a few years later and my parents bought it roughly a year later.

Lots of weird and unexplained things happened there but it never bothered any of us, we'd always say hello when the kettle turned on itself or a door would randomly open and close. I was 4 when I told my parents that the nice lady who sits on my bed at night has pretty curly hair. I don't remember that or seeing anything but I lived there until I was 20 and things happened all of the time.

It's the circumstances that would stop me from buying a murder house.

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ScupperedbytheSea · 10/03/2025 15:37

No I wouldn't.

I was having a similar conversation, as I often walk past a house where a girl was brutally murdered. It was big news for many years.

It's a nice house/location, but I couldn't for any price. Not quite sure why really, I think just knowing what happened there would make it feel off for me.

85pinkballoons · 10/03/2025 15:36

lucy889 · 10/03/2025 14:30

It doesn't bother me the land my home is built on, who's died naturally here etc it's just I'd think of the awful circumstances all the time, the parent actually killed their child and them themselves in the hallway of the upstairs.

I wouldn't be able to walk the hallway without thinking of it.

That would really bother me too. Knowing such a violent crime took place there, especially the murder of a child...I just dont think I could live comfortably in such a place, it would be on my mind a lot of the time.

OneTC · 10/03/2025 15:35

Wouldn't give it a second thought

LoveFridaynight · 10/03/2025 15:34

No. First house DH and I rented was an ex miners cottage and there was always a weird feeling on the stairs. We both felt it.
Turned out years before the owner killed his wife throwing her down the stairs (so landlord said anyway). After that I decided I'd never live in a house with history again. Never believed in ghosts or anything like that before then.

Shetlands · 10/03/2025 15:31

I don't believe in any kind of woo, vibes, energy, auras, ghosts, souls, gods, spirits or anything at all supernatural. When you're dead you just cease to exist. There is no afterlife. We're just apes made of stardust.

BUT I could never live in a house where someone had been murdered or killed themselves. I turned down a cottage once where an elderly couple ended their lives together on the sofa. I have no idea why my rational brain can't overcome such things but there it is!

Wintersgirl · 10/03/2025 15:30

No, 12 years is too soon, my DD is 13 so when she was a baby the child in that house was still alive😭if it was 112 years ago then I would be ok with it

oakleaffy · 10/03/2025 15:30

IVbumble · 10/03/2025 15:28

I knew someone who wouldn't buy a house because their dog wouldn't go through the front door when they viewed.

I would believe the dog's reaction, too.
Animals can sense bad energy.

oakleaffy · 10/03/2025 15:29

Poppymeldrum · 10/03/2025 15:24

At the risk of sounding woo,if it came to it,I'd have to have a look around the house and feel the energy

When I first walked into the house I live in now,I walked in and knew I'd be living here for the rest of my life-I felt like my home

It's history is built in the late 50's,a couple lived here,she died,then he died,he left it to his granddaughter who brought up 3 dc and then sold it to us

I have no idea if anyone has died here and it wouldn't bother me if they had

I know a young lad who murdered his mother's boyfriend in his flat-battered the poor bloke to death with a hammer (he wanted to 'get his own back' on his shitty mother and the boyfriend copped it)

A friend of my brothers lives there now and isn't fazed at all,even knowing the history

Another one is my elderly great aunt lived in a 1st floor flat and the bloke who lived underneath was murdered in his flat and they propped him up on his sofa

He wasn't found for almost 4 months and was In a bit of a state when they did find him (the cat had eaten most of him)

I went on a date with a bloke who happened to live in that exact flat (years and years later)

Didn't bother him-he had his sofa in the same place the bloke had his and used to watch TV,sat in the 'fingerprint' of where the poor old man died

Jeez...Those are heavy stories.

IVbumble · 10/03/2025 15:28

I knew someone who wouldn't buy a house because their dog wouldn't go through the front door when they viewed.

Cara707 · 10/03/2025 15:27

I wouldn't, no. Like Fargo79 though, it's not because of any superstitious stuff ,I would just keep imagining it happening in the room that it happened in and have nightmares.