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Would you buy a house that somebody had been murdered in?

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lucy889 · 10/03/2025 14:18

Around 12 years ago, an awful murder involving a child and parent happened a few miles from our house, it was such a shock and the house has been empty ever since.

It's now on the market, I personally could never buy it or live there and I feel sad every time I drive by.

Would you buy it given the history if it was perfect for you?

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minerva7 · 31/03/2025 11:35

Stirabout · 27/03/2025 15:22

I’d love to sit down and have a chat with some ghosts. I do in fact sometimes ask if there’s anybody there as the dog has a habit of growling for no reason in our bedroom.

I really really really need to know who killed the princes in the Tower…… I need Richard III to pop by 😳

Fingers crossed you get a visit 😄

LaurieFairyCake · 27/03/2025 18:50

Yeah course

as long as they weren’t buried in the garden. Don’t fancy digging the garden and finding another.

Stirabout · 27/03/2025 15:22

minerva7 · 27/03/2025 15:02

Thanks @Stiraboutit sounds like an absolute labour of love! I would love to live in a house with that much history - although I would be glad of the no ghosts 😂

I’d love to sit down and have a chat with some ghosts. I do in fact sometimes ask if there’s anybody there as the dog has a habit of growling for no reason in our bedroom.

I really really really need to know who killed the princes in the Tower…… I need Richard III to pop by 😳

minerva7 · 27/03/2025 15:02

Thanks @Stiraboutit sounds like an absolute labour of love! I would love to live in a house with that much history - although I would be glad of the no ghosts 😂

WiddlinDiddlin · 27/03/2025 04:54

As long as I liked the house and it wasn't experiencing a load of gawping horror tourists coming to take pics all the time, yeah.

All manner of things will have happened in a house and the older it is the more likely that some of those things will have been horrible, involved death or even violent death/murder. Unless you buy a new build and you're the first one into it, you'll really never know whats gone on there and it can't hurt you even if you do.

I've had a couple of council properties where people have been found dead, and lived in various much older properties (one mid victorian, one with parts dating back to the 1500s) with many deaths of children and adults in each over the years.

People live in houses, up until relatively recently they were born in them and died in them too.

Stirabout · 27/03/2025 00:14

minerva7 · 26/03/2025 23:43

Your house sounds absolutely fascinating! Would you mind telling us a bit more about it?

It’s a manor house
The origins ie date back no idea probably the Norman period. It’s in the doomsday book.
The house above the cellars is dated 1430 and passed down by kings of England to their Queens. So it’s always been part of the Queens estate from 1329 up to Catherine of Aragon. Apparently Henry gave it to one of his mates as he’d already given Catherine several other properties. After that it was passed down to knights Ona Rose promise ( which meant they’d raise an army if required by the King. The king owned it still he just let the Knights live off the manor ). Prince William still owns land up the road.

In terms of use as a court house.
As it was the Manor House it was used for sentencing by the Lord
The old Dais that the Lord sat at still exists( well the supports anyway) and the room of course which is now our dining room.

It sounds very grand but it’s not all turrets and iron gates.
We are a 500m2 timber framed ( above ground that is ) Hall house. Grade 2star and basically untouched by modern changes except for chimneys installed1550, bathrooms ( not enough) and central heating and lighting.

Its well known locally and needs a lot of work after being rented to farmers for a long time. When it rains for example the well underneath the back hall ( serving the old water pump also in the house ) floods under our brick floor and rises up. There’s still a lot to do as you can imagine.

Still haven’t found any ghosts though

minerva7 · 26/03/2025 23:43

Stirabout · 12/03/2025 01:39

There’s always a chance someone could have been murdered in any property if it’s an old one.
Id imagine people might have been in mine.
I know many were sentenced to death or amputations etc in mine as court sessions were held here. I don’t know if the cellars were jails, they may have been and people could easily have been left to rot down there.

A friend felt creepy feelings in the old court room but I don’t feel anything.
It doesn’t bother me and if I knew that someone had been murdered here or in any house it wouldn’t stop me buying it

Your house sounds absolutely fascinating! Would you mind telling us a bit more about it?

whatswrongwivme · 26/03/2025 23:08

Funny coincidence: I was thinking about this just today because a man murdered his ex-wife and her mother in the living room of a house near me and it has now come on the market. The address was not particularly well known outside of the immediate area so in all probability most buyers probably don't realize what happened there. They will probably find out after they have bought it and moved in!

minerva7 · 26/03/2025 22:47

PenguinLover24 · 10/03/2025 15:21

Hope you don't mind my comment OP but this has got me thinking 🤔 a family member is due to inherit a house where there was a suicide and they're planning on selling it .. would this put people off?

As for me I don't think it would bother me but not 100% sure as I go off of feelings in places 🤣

From personal experience most definitely. 💐 for the bereaved.

Serpentstooth · 26/03/2025 20:24

Don't know about gutting the property but I wouldn't be keen even so. This has reminded me of someone I once worked with. When she moved house, twice in the time I knew her, she wouldn't set foot in the new place until bathrooms and especially any toilets had been stripped out and refitted. Kitchen could wait a while but not long. I've never met anyone else so extreme. Does anyone else do this?

1girlAND2boysDad · 26/03/2025 18:04

twinklystar23 · 12/03/2025 07:25

I have a friend who is in estate agent. She said that some homes just have a weird vibe or you feel like your being watched

Can relate to this, it's quite unsettling. It usually stops when you stop paying attention to it either way though it's not nice

VielleTruite · 17/03/2025 16:42

There's a documentary on YouTube called Blood Under the Carpet which features people living in UK properties where people have been murdered. It doesn't seem to have bothered any of them.

LSGXX · 16/03/2025 18:29

Yes, but I would want it gutted to eradicate all trace of the previous occupants.

oakleaffy · 16/03/2025 15:33

IamMoodyBlue · 16/03/2025 14:45

Yes.
I once, many years ago, lived in a house where mum had thrown her endlessly screaming baby on the coal fire.
But, if you think it's going to bother you, or are worried about difficulties selling it on later, obviously don't go ahead.

I suggest making a couple of unhurried viewings. Make at least one an unaccompanied visit if you can. You can better assess your feelings without an estate agent following you around with sales patter. Try visualising what the house would be like redecorated and with your own possessions in place.
You'll soon get a better idea of how much the events matter to you personally balanced against its being the perfect house in theory.
As time passes, what happened there previously will recede in people's minds.
Good luck with everything.

That’s horrific about the baby- Assuming the poor little mite didn’t survive- That’s absolutely criminal.

She could have dumped the baby in a place where he or she could be found-

She must have been mentally Ill to have done that.

Poor child.
He or she was probably neglected and hungry to have cried so much - happy babies don’t endlessly cry.

IamMoodyBlue · 16/03/2025 14:45

Yes.
I once, many years ago, lived in a house where mum had thrown her endlessly screaming baby on the coal fire.
But, if you think it's going to bother you, or are worried about difficulties selling it on later, obviously don't go ahead.

I suggest making a couple of unhurried viewings. Make at least one an unaccompanied visit if you can. You can better assess your feelings without an estate agent following you around with sales patter. Try visualising what the house would be like redecorated and with your own possessions in place.
You'll soon get a better idea of how much the events matter to you personally balanced against its being the perfect house in theory.
As time passes, what happened there previously will recede in people's minds.
Good luck with everything.

Ilikeadrink14 · 16/03/2025 10:54

Many years ago, my father used to give a man down the road a lift to work. He lived with his wife, grown-up daughter and their dog and they were a very nice family, friendly but not intrusive.
One evening, the father stabbed his wife, daughter and the dog to death, then hanged himself from the banisters. I am not being flippant when I say that my dad worried for years that he had said something on the journey to trigger it.
I have always had mixed feelings about suicide. The person involved obviously is in such turmoil that they don’t think of the suffering their action brings, not just to people who love them but also to neighbours, colleagues and other acquaintances, anyone who knew them, in fact. That makes it a selfish act in my eyes, but I realise I am not in a position to judge.

Framilode · 16/03/2025 06:09

I am an ex estate agent and have sold several houses where murders have taken place.
There was one in particular where the crime was still unsolved. It was a random stabbing of a woman in a bedroom. I had to report details of every viewing to the police and they had set up a camera in the front bedroom to view people who stopped to look at the house. They told me that the perpetrators often came back to the scene of the crime.
The house sold OK and the crime was solved in an unexpected way a few years later.

Nat6999 · 16/03/2025 04:08

My brother bought a house where the previous owner had hung himself, there were still rope marks on the landing bannister.

Gouki · 16/03/2025 03:12

I definitely would. I believe there are spirits to a point but not hauntings, and I'd use the building's history for a good discount.
If I did end up getting haunted I'd hire a witch doctor and trap the g-g-ghost in a dolls house, and donate it to an opp's child or something.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 15/03/2025 22:11

Presumably the person who killed them is locked up, so its not like you'd be in any more danger living there than any other house.
As for the fact someone died there, you never know, especially with older houses, how many people may have passed away in it.
Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, infact, might even get it cheaper or have a better shot at getting an offer accepted as there will be less competition.

VielleTruite · 15/03/2025 22:08

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 10/03/2025 15:14

I think they would call it ‘mixed’ . There are a lot of Notting Hill type renovations, but also a great deal of social housing. It’s very near Grenfell Tower

I recommend the website londondarktourist.com. It covers Christie and Rillington Place and has detailed maps and photographs of the site, past and present. The space that no. 10 occupied was never built upon and contains a private memorial garden on the footprint of the house.

Cosplay · 15/03/2025 21:19

There’s a house on my estate where the father beat his 4 kids and wife to death and then hung himself. They werent found for a few days as the father had told the school etc that they were going away.

Some people wanted the house demolished but it was sold to another family and fairly recently sold again.

I could never have lived there, I just wouldn’t have slept at night but people have and do, I suppose it depends on your feelings and whether you are sensitive.

I did look through the estate agent pics and I have to say the place looked cold and unloved. I didn’t get a good vibe from the photos at all.

StasisMom · 13/03/2025 15:37

TaylorSwish · 10/03/2025 15:47

I would go and see it. I would feel what the energy was like and decide then.
Disclaimer - I am a bit odd.

I would do that too! But happy to admit I'm a bit odd as well! Seems sensible to me...

FortunateCatsGlugDaquirisAllEveningBlindly · 13/03/2025 10:16

The cottage we lived in for 25 years showed up in a map of the town dating back to the 1800’s, heaven’s knows what happened there in the past.
There is an undertaker immediately across the road from the cottage and the field just behind our old cottage, where I used to take our dog to run about, is marked on the house deeds and old town maps as ‘Gallows’s Hill’, pretty easy to guess what went on a stones throw from our old place.

notapennyless · 13/03/2025 10:08

Just suddenly thought of 10 Rillington Place.....😮

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