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Claiming to not be able to afford it - it’s just a dig, isn’t it?

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affordingit · 10/03/2025 13:37

Sitting with a group of friends (including my sister). We were talking about all sorts but the conversation moved to food shopping. One of my friends asked me if I’d been to the newly opened higher end supermarket. I said I had after work and that we’d got some amazing yellow sticker items for the freezer. My sister declared ‘I don’t go there personally. I can’t afford it’ and laughed to herself but I could see peripherally she was looking at me the whole time. She and BIL are very big earners and way outearn me and DH, which she will know. I was left feeling awkward and didn’t really know what to respond with. It kind of dampened the conversation too. What could her intention here be - anything other than to show me up? I don’t feel I could confront her as she would downplay it and say I’m taking meaning from it that wasn’t there/making things up. It was less that she said it and more how she stared me down as she did.

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affordingit · 10/03/2025 13:41

Knittedfairies2 · 10/03/2025 13:40

Were you supposed to point out that she and her husband have more money than you? I think saying nothing at all is the way forward OP.

I don’t know you know. I could just tell it was loaded. There was another example similar to this but I can’t remember it as we all talked about so much and I’d had a couple of wines.

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MistyF · 10/03/2025 13:40

Maybe she thinks you're middle class and looks down on you? Maybe she's still subconsciously jealous on you?
How many children you and your sister have?

Knittedfairies2 · 10/03/2025 13:40

Were you supposed to point out that she and her husband have more money than you? I think saying nothing at all is the way forward OP.