Roofers using bad language

My neighbour reported an assistant in the Co-op. They were behind the counter and shouting across to two colleagues using F-this and F-that with customers at the counter. Wait to see what comes from that one.

I would ask them to consider their surroundings and to tone down their language.

Sadly, there is too much, completely unnecessary bad language nowadays.

OP @27Maisie27

Needs to address her own issues of why on earth she didn't have the confidence to ask them to just stop swearing

This seems to be the main issue

I was just going to say exactly the same. Why on earth wound you report people for using language thst you don't like?

Yes. Leave them alone ffs

@SodOffbacktoaibu

Point is OP won't ask them to stop

A neighbour did and they have

Quite a simple standard and effective solution

This would mightily annoy me too. I probably would call up to them and tell them to tone it down. Mind you, I do that in restaurants and pubs too - I don't want to listen to people (usually ALWAYS men) effing and blinding because their limited vocabulary and overall intelligence means they have to use expletives instead of a natural pause in the construction of their sentences.

I've only ever been told to get fucked once, btw. Maybe it's just going in with the right amount of confidence, without sounding like a schoolteacher.

Regardless of others feeling it's 'policing' someone's use of language, I feel it's more about asking other people to moderate anti-social behaviour - repeated strong swearing isn't nice in a public place. It sours a nice social interaction when you're sitting there with a friend or your Gran, enjoying a pleasant time, and there's some gobby loudmouth going at the effs and cees right next to you.

A LOT of people have NO idea how their behaviour affects others - usually because they're selfish and don't care.

However if you ask them to stop swearing and they don't then you have a reason to contact their employers

First you ask (tell) them to stop

That goes for most things

It's the usual way to go about things

Not the nasty snidey reporting directly to their employers without talking to them first. That's just more vile than the swearing itself.

@27Maisie27 I'm with you. The lack of respect for other people is just depressing and so are people on MN mocking you and telling you to get over yourself. Why do we have to be so mean?

I don't know if this is generational.

I love a good swear within the confines of my home or with friends...or even on Mumsnet !. I don't eff and jeff at work (or again, perhaps only with colleagues I'd call friends in informal situations). Are we not allowed to care about older neighbours or young children?

I bloody hate workmen behaving like yobs and feeling entitled to do it. It is intimidating and horrible.

Why do we have ave to accept the lowest standards, or mock people who don't like it?

Not Karens or pearl clutchers or wet lettuces or whatever... just normal people who care about our community I think?

Feel so out of step in this world. It's so aggressive and unpleasant these days.

Don't be ridiculous. You are being a pearl clutcher.

I'd only report them if they were not doing their job and were directing their swearing at you or at other passers-by.

Just ignore it. Go back in your house, or stay in the garden and accept that you can't control what comes out of other people's mouths.

You're finding it offensive, however nobody dies when you take offense, it doesn't matter, they only one stressing is you, so accept that people are autonomous and they can do and say what they like.

To report them? well that's taking it a bit far.

What's that got to do with anything? I'm fine with my DH taking his pants off in the bedroom, but I wouldn't be fine with the teachers doing it in the playground. There's such a thing as context.

Speaking to them direct is the best option (and has worked apparently). However, as an ex local authority manager, I can't imagine any situation where staff or contractors reported for swearing would be sacked (unless they were already on a final written warning for similar conduct).

Christ, what has happened to society when the only two things that enters a person's head, is to report or ignore?

Have people really lost the ability to politely speak to someone face to face?

It might be due to so much texting/posting on forums etc...I don't know, but it's sad that basic, polite verbal communication seems to be the last thing on some people's minds.

I think OP you need to

grow a backbone

Stop being a wet fish

Stop being so pathetic

Stop being a doormat

And as we tell our children 'use your words' in future

The responses on this thread are batshit...

To those who suggest the OP should 'get over herself':

• would you be happy for the staff in a restaurant, shops or bank to swear loudly around you and your kids? would you be happy for your GP or a nurse to be effing and blinding while you wait to be seen? are you happy for your kids' teacher to swear all day?

• is your employer happy for you to routinely swear loudly in front of clients or the general public?

The roofers are doing a job and I assume their employer has a code of conduct for staff.

The OP is perfectly right not to want to have to listen to this on repeat and these guys should know better.

Report to the employer OP.

You are a wet lettuce 😂😂

Just ignore it.

Your neighbour did the right thing

She told them to stop swearing

I mean that's all you have to do

And they have now stopped

Simple really

Contacting the council was a ridiculous response

Just let it go, they are not harming anyone, maybe that's how they get through it.
That's not the type of language I use but it's really not a big deal.

As these teachers would presumably be in the midst of a bunch of young children to whom they have a duty of care, do you not think it’s a teensy bit different to a bunch of workmen high up on the roof of a house chucking slates around without any children present?

Just say excuse me but there are people around who'd rather not hear swearing.N9 big deal.

I can't get het up about this. You must live in a more idyllic place than me to be so affected by hearing swear words.

If it was a new next door neighbour who just moved in and you'd be listening to them everyday forever I could MAYBE sympathise but they'll soon be on their way.

My kids when little would hear swearing on the bus, in the street, etc. They quickly understood which words they were not allowed to use.

I had this with some workmen doing water work outside my house, I simply asked them to watch their language as there were young kids around. They apologised and that was that.

Listening to a group of men being sweary can be intimidating for some people. It’s not being a ‘wet lettuce’ to not want to approach them. Mocking women who do feel intimidated isn’t a good look.