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What ‘fun’ wedding activities were actually fun?

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Blinko · 10/03/2025 12:11

I am in the throngs of planning my wedding and trying to think of fun activities my guests can enjoy. It’s a late Summer wedding in a country house.

We are doing a pub quiz (teams will be the tables) as that’s how we met. There will be a prize as I just think that gets people actually into it.

There is a very pretty lawn so we will be putting out croquet, boulles, quoits etc.

And setting up board game (along with some of our fav snacks) on each table as that’s a big part of our family get togethers.

What fun activities have you ACTUALLY enjoyed? I’ve personally enjoyed tug of war at barn wedding but that wouldn’t exactly fit our vibe.

I know some will say all these games and stuff are just not necessary butI personally enjoy them. And just want the option of doing them

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IMissSparkling · 10/03/2025 12:24

Fun wedding activities are drinking, chatting and dancing. That's it, that's the list, I don't make the rules.

wizzywig · 10/03/2025 12:23

I don't want to be told what to do!!! Just feed me with nice food please. I'm miserable

Fagli · 10/03/2025 12:23

If people were playing a board game at our wedding I think I’d feel a bit miffed! Although it might be you have people who don’t like dancing, socialising, and big crowds so I can see why you’d want to make them feel comfortable. Especially if they don’t know many people. Maybe some solo games if they really don’t like socialising.

Any organised fun is usually the opposite, I agree with a PP, it feels like a corporate bonding session. Weddings are inherently fun, food, drink, live music, dancing, seeing friends you haven’t seen for ages. Let the fun happen organically.

manysausages · 10/03/2025 12:21

The best wedding I ever went to had a ceilidh. So much fun, even to watch if you don’t want to join in. So I had one at mine and everyone seemed to enjoy it.

Might be a bit passé now though. And you do have to have some Scottish link (my mum was Scottish).

We also did a quiz!

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Blinko · 10/03/2025 12:20

The board games are more for people who don’t want to dance. There will be two rooms at the venue. The party room and the place where we ate. I want to put the board games out on the tables for people who want to take a break from dancing/who don’t want to dance at all.

And the lawn games are to keep people occupied during the cocktail hour whilst photos are taken etc.

Ar least that’s the logic. Very much opt in. No, let’s all do this together except for the pub quiz.

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chainsinnalice · 10/03/2025 12:18

Activities that aren't forced on everyone. So if people don't want to participate, they don't have to. I wouldn't mind a pub quiz but would hate anything physical. I don't want to go to a wedding and feel like I'm at a team building event Grin

The garden games sounds ok as long as no one is under obligation to participate!

gannett · 10/03/2025 12:17

The best fun isn't organised fun. A good DJ and people who will flock to the dancefloor have made for the best weddings I've been to. And aside from that, less of the organised "everyone do this now, go over there, do that now" micro-managing so people can actually wander around, relax, socialise at their own pace.

That said I would be quite happy to do a pub quiz, never done that at a wedding but doing it by table is a good idea. Would there really be time to do a pub quiz AND a board game at the table? How much dead time do you think there'll be in between the meal and the speeches? I like board games but they're a bit sedate for a wedding, I don't think it'd work with so many distractions, people to catch up with, etc etc.

Lawn games sound fine as long as no one's obligated to join in.

Tug of war sounds like an absolute nightmare.

But you do need to trust that people know how to have fun in their own way, and leave them to it.

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