To think that people who say “money doesn’t matter” always have money?

If riches were capped, there would be no incentives for individuals to create businesses, invent and innovate. Exceptional individuals need that scope and the incentive and to be able to pass it to their family.

Perhaps some wealthy people say that because there's something else in their lives that is badly wrong (like a health problem for a child). They can then, with honesty and perspective say money doesn't matter; they'd trade that money for the other problem to be solved.

Why do people who leave no money for a funeral expect one? Why do relatives pay if they are in a tight spot? I have seen a number of posts re this on the thread. What’s the minimum cost of a crematorium and you just scatter?

My great aunt used to say she’d never want to win the lottery as it’s too much money, it’s greedy having that much. She inherited a lot and died with over £1.2M in the bank.

I’d love a couple of million so I could buy a house for each of my kids and pay off the mortgage but I must be greedy!

Agreed apart from certain illnesses. I have known a several people whose millions could not save them from dying young.

Generally I agree with op but what people believe is not necessarily what they say out loud - actually have come across lots of people who do not have much who say it doesn’t matter. Maybe they are covering for their lack of funds idk. Often people project their envy of others by saying they wouldn’t want that stuff anyway, seen that from certain people and they are actually seething I know someone who did not get a rightful inheritance and their family member said well it wouldn’t have made them happy (err yes it would) just because the family member had very little themselves.

Thank you. I have been in a position where I had no nappies for my son and couldn't put heating on, lived on bread for days. Now, I am financially OK and don't have to worry about food and bills. But I have a painful emotional family situation that is always with me and all the money in the world can't solve it.
That said, I appreciate how fortunate I am that I will never go hungry or need to be cold again and can afford holidays

Sorry, yes, the post I first responded to was by @CrumpledInkBlott

@Itssofunny it wasn't my original post...

Getting an inheritance doesn't make most people happy, though, especially if the person died young. It makes a terrible situation a bit easier to deal with, but the happiest would be to avoid the terrible situation in the first place.

Who would argue that losing a loved one is not a terrible thing? But I absolutely think an inheritance helps deal with the fallout.

SPOT ON!
Thank you fr summarising my views

I've only ever heard poor people say it. People with money seem to think it matters a great deal. We must move in different circles!

There are lots of people with wealth who can't enjoy it for health/mobility/mental health issues.

When you've got money and health together now that's ideal.

Except your original post says: money can fucking buy happiness, for example inheriting enough money to kiss goodbye to a job you hate...

So sure, I agree that if a relative has to die then it's easier to have an inheritance than to be struggling with money along with grief.

Getting an inheritance doesn't make most people happy, though, especially if the person died young. It makes a terrible situation a bit easier to deal with, but the happiest would be to avoid the terrible situation in the first place.

It isn't, your health is. Without your health you can't enjoy your money.

Money is linked to health though hence why rich areas have higher life expectancy

I personally would rather an inheritance if a parent died vs no inheritance. That's not the same thing as saying I want my parent to die...

It isn't, your health is. Without your health you can't enjoy your money.

I didn't read that in what they said..

Sure, that's why I wrote that we were lucky that there was enough money for funeral costs etc. I do agree that money helps in bad situations.

However, the poster I was quoting wrote "Win or inherit enough money to kiss goodbye to a job you hate , escape a shit relationship and shit neighbours ..."

That really sounds like the poster would prefer having an inheritance (meaning a loved one dying) over putting up with bad neighbours or a difficult job. Crazy.

Edited to add: to put it in simple terms, who would you prefer to be: Harry Potter, with lots of wealth and fame but growing up without parents; or Ron Weasley, with no money but a large loving family.

If hypothetically you were offered a million pounds in exchange for your husband, children, parents etc dying, surely you wouldn't take that deal!?

That's not the same comparison though. The question should be your parent is going to die would you like to receive an inheritance or not.

I think that is an extremely callous view. My dad died young and I inherited some money. I would much rather he had lived.

Sure, my family was lucky in that there was enough for a funeral, my mum didn't have to move out of her home etc., but my dad dying was still horrific.

Having enough money in life is definitely a comfort, but it doesn't guarantee a care-free life.

If hypothetically you were offered a million pounds in exchange for your husband, children, parents etc dying, surely you wouldn't take that deal!?

i disagree... ive been on all the spectrums of money... had it, not had it... really am not bothered either way.. there are way more important things in life than money

Money brings security in life, and security is something most people need. Security in the sense of knowing they have a roof over their head, can afford to keep one over their head and in an emergency can pay for a hotel if their home gets flooded or something like that.

Money doesn't buy happiness, but it buys off unhappiness. Take all the normal things that get people worried and stressed: home, noisy neighbours, work, heating, food, health. All apart from health can be fixed with money, even with health you can afford the best treatment going.

If people don't have to worry about these things they can try to find a greater meaning in life. Someone in this position might find something else to get stressed about and might remain unhappy, because like I said money doesn't buy happiness, but at least it gives someone the chance of finding it.

It's like the same people who live by rule that discussing money is 'improper'. 'Never discuss money', 'it's vulgar/impolite'. They're the ones who have it, so of course, there's nothing to discuss. The vulgarity of money will be sorted out later on...

It's like the people (same people?) who say you can be financially secure if you just work hard enough. Because all those people on minimum wage do feck all.

Beyond the basic requirements of food and shelter, money also buys comfort, safety, dignity, respect and better health (at a population level, before anyone starts on the exceptions).

It buys education, opportunity and connections, to get better jobs and a better income.

It also buys time, for leisure and pleasure. So yeah, it does quite a lot.

Does anyone actually say this though? The only people i have heard voice this thought are kids who are sheltered from the realities of the world (probably doesn't include those living in poverty tbf). If you are privileged you tend to know you are lucky and don't deny it makes life a whole lot easier.