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AIBU for not letting my 12 year old have TIktok & Snapchat yet?

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historyismything82 · 09/03/2025 21:50

I'd like to know if you think I'm being unreasonable for not letting my 12 year old have Tiktok and Snapchat. I'd rather she was a little older but she constantly asks for it and it is hard as all of her friends have it.

Each to their own, but I personally don't like these apps. I feel the majority of content on Tiktok is brain rot and whilst I know she is resilient, I still don't want her exposed to some of the garbage out there. I have an issue with disappearing messages on Snapchat - although not sure if that is still a feature as I don't use it. My main concern is lack of parental control. Perhaps someone could suggest a way of making it safer if such a thing exists?

YABU - I am worrying for nothing, just let her have the apps.
YANBU - I have good reason to protect her for as long as possible.

Thank you.

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mumyes · 09/03/2025 21:55

Absolutely not. YANBU

mindutopia · 09/03/2025 21:53

Absolutely not. I have a 12 year old who does not have any social media and will not have any of it before 16. Not negotiable.

She has friends who have been on TikTok and Snapchat since they were 10. Predictably, they are being followed by all sorts of creepy perverts. Not a chance in hell that’s happening on my watch.

Moapa · 09/03/2025 21:52

I spend a large portion of my day on TikTok for work, I would not let a 12 year old have it (and the age limit is over 13 anyway, which is still too low but still) as you said it’s mostly brain rot, with just the scroll to the next thing, you can get some offensive/scary/awful ones suddenly pop up.

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