Would you judge a 26 year old (mum of 2) who casually sleeps with someone who is 18?

Well...I doubt either of them think it's going to last forever.

The gap in brain development still going on for the younger one but completed for the older one is enough to make it gross. An ex of mine slept with an 18 year old at the age of 26. Still find it disgusting. Would feel the same if the genders were flipped. At least when there are age gaps in later life, the brain is fully developed in both and it's not an issue.

Both adults both legal.

But morally....hmm.

Having said that I'm not really judgemental about stuff like this. I'd be more concerned if it was a 16yo and 24/26yo...

The parent out of the two though needs to be more discerning.

I'd judge the bejeesus out of her and no, most 18 year old lads are not so desperate for sex that they are grateful for the opportunity with a 26 year old mother of two. I'd see him as a bit of a sad case and easily exploited.

No, not if they were both single. In my opinion balance of power is more to do with if one person is more emotionally attached than the other, than an age gap between two adults.

As we can see, it only takes seconds to judge on MN.

When I read the OP's question my first thought was yes, I probably would judge that, but having read the thread I realise that I don't really give a damn.

It's a tricky one. Yes, I'd judge silently. I think it's a bit grim.

I shouldn't judge. I met my DH when I was 18, and he was 30. We're still together now. But with the benefit of age and wisdom, I now find it a bit creepy and grim.

I think my DH does, too. He now has children around the same age. I think he'd be horrified if any of them began seeing a 30 year old.

Ummm I had a ONS with a 19 year old as a single mum in my mid twenties- he was more than happy, consenting, willing. It wasn’t the best sex ever and I can’t actually remember his name as I was pretty drunk. But was it abusive or perverse? Hell no!
Was it something I repeated? No. And it certainly would never ever have been a relationship… I had spent most of the night brushing him off as too young, and he persuaded me for one night only- but I’d never have seen him as anything other than one night. Which is fair.

No.

Yes I’d probably quietly judge… but at the end of the day they are legally two consenting adults so not much else you can do 🤷‍♀️

Yes people change a lot, thats life

its not a relationship by the sounds of it but even if it was, thats up to them.

I think we have created life stages by infantilising young people s that they are essentially still treated like children while they're at university.

In the days when very few people went to university, people of 18 had often been in work for a couple of years, still had growing up to do of course but were not as immature.

No one knows anything about this pair. Essentially is no one elses business.

Yup, not private either but both the boys grammar schools did and neither of the girls grammar schools did. I would have preferred the uniform wearing normal clothes to school was a nightmare.

She's not my neighbour. I never said she was. Read my post again. I know people who live near her.

Have I hit a raw nerve? 👀

That's funny! I'm just curious because I've never come across post 16 uniform before, but I don't want to derail the thread.

Yes, based on the info YES

Mother of two or not, reverse the genders I would still say YES

There is a social power imbalance of 8 years on this earth.
Has the 18yo completed their schooling?
Are they both employed?
Are they both financially independent?
Is it just a fling or are we declaring undying love?
Hang on, is the 18yo the father of the two children?

I would not say a word to either of them but I would be judging

No, I wouldn’t because it’s none of my fucking business.

The boys school in our area (Essex) wears uniform in 6th form. The girls schools don't wierdly.

You sound like a hilarious neighbour - and how on earth do you find time to manage your own life when you fill your time judging hers?

Yes. So grim.

Legally nothing is wrong.

Judgment no, if its just casual hook up on a Saturday then who cares, I don't even think I would care if the sexes where switched. Having sex with someone a bit more experienced than you can be a good thing.

However, he is more at risk because of the maturity difference for coercive and controlling behaviour. For example; if there is more to it like she is preventing him from choosing to live his life, or she taking advantage of his naivety by not using protection when they have sex and therefore risking pregnancy, and if she is preventing him from seeing his family/friends because he has to spend time with her/her kids then that would be a cause for concern.

Massively.

I wore uniform in 6th form (not private, England). AFAIK, they still do.

So you think the age gap is fine as long as the person is 16 or over? I think during our teens we change and grow so much, after about 20 or 21 we are more constant and less impressionable.

Yes.

Yes, I wondered. Do you have uniforms right up until the 6th year in Scotland?