Finally snapped at Boyfriend’s crude comments

But he said you should be complimented he finds you attractive so definitely a red flag!

"I am sure we have all been out with the girls and something has been said after one too many glasses - if this meant relationships had to end then everyone would be single surely 😆"

Erm, no. In the years partner and I have been together, he's never made a crude comment to me/in my presence (and I doubt to his friends either, none of them are the type, but obviously I can't know for sure) and I've never made a crude comment like the ones your partner is making full stop, to anyone.

I mean, you do you, but this would be a red flag for me and I would absolutely not want this man in my daughter's life... Gross.

Throw him back. It will only get worse.

He doesn't respect you OP.

Don't drag it on for the sake of it.

It's still early days and he should be making you feel like the luckiest woman in the world.

Not compatible and there'll be someone best for you out there.

Sounds like you're going out with Jay from the inbetweeners. I'm not sure I could get past the ick.

Watch Geordie Shore it's an eye opener women are getting some themselves. No such thing as being a lady anymore. Young women ain't waiting for him to come to her she's going to him.

His behaviour is inappropriate and huffing is classed as abusive Throw this one back you deserve better !

Childish twat. Bin him.

He sounds crass
who actually talks like that ! ! and to their gf , I’ve never gotten crude , no matter the age ..
💯 would give me the ick !
Plus you don’t want him talking like that Infront of your DD & he will …
As another PP has said , can you imagine how he speaks when you’re not around…

@PeachTea9 Oh, so it's your fault!
What a joke.
He's vile. I really don't see why you'd want him in your life.

Is this the kind of relationship you'd want your daughter to be tolerating later in life? I suspect not.

I can't undestand why you're putting up with someone so grim.

An apology won't help when what he says is what he actually thinks!

Huge red flag.

I would find it so unattractive and once you get the ick it’s over.

Most women are misogynists, if we're honest.

Isn't the problem more that he is making judgements of value based on body?

Doesn't she squash him.... code for he's too good for her because she's fat.

Fry an egg... she's sexy and I value that

Hung like a horse....she's too good for him

She can ride me like that...example of a woman good enough for him.

All about their bodies and for the women, how they are or aren't good enough for him based on body. I'm guessing he's never complimented a woman on anything else. And as if these women would want him.

As your DD grows, he will value and treat her this way. If not sexually, at least as a person. He will engage more with her if she's cool and popular but not if she's plain. Really think about that.

Pay all that money all he has to do is go to a club and buy 1 drink. He's 28 he isn't ready to settle down yet. If the op wants to stay with him then she needs to set boundaries.

Most men are misogynists you have to pick the right one.

The op either finds an older man who has grown out of it and is ouzing with personality or a boring young man who wants to settle down. Op comes with baggage and she will have to get past mummy first she put a lot into her son to make him mature. There was a reason she choose this young immature man.

And if she does end up pregnant to him, what are the odds of him using tinder,escort site's whilst she's pregnant.

It was not a one off and his apology was dreadful.

This is a grown man, not a fourteen year old.

I can imagine he will get worse as he ages and end up like the old men who post obscene, frankly lewd comments and photographs on facebook.

Get rid of him! You can do better and you have a child for goodness sakes, who deserved a better male role model. Thankfully no child with him.

Apart from the OP, who wants a man who is a misogynist? One who you have to tell not to make crude comments about wanting other women to ride him.

He's not a catch, is he? He's sexually frustrated because his GF is on her period.. cry me a fucking river.

He may well change his behaviour around OP, but he has shown who he is and how he thinks. Doesn't matter if he never makes crude comments again, OP knows the way he thinks now. An apology changes nothing.

But of course, OP will put up with it. She deserves better though. Women deserve better than shit men like this.

It's about setting boundaries I wouldn't give up on him just yet if this is a first time. He apologised all you can do is see how he is from now onwards.

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Think you might be a lost cause, OP. I hope you practice what you’ve preached on here, for your daughter’s sake.

For me an apology wouldn’t be of any value. I simply couldn’t stay with a man who had thoughts in his head like this, let alone one who felt at ease about spouting them to his girlfriend. He’s misogynistic and vile. Why would an apology change that?

and if there is, will you still stay with a man who thinks like this? the apology would only be for the fact that he let you see what sort of man he is. He'll still be that sort of man. what example are you setting for your daughter if you stay?