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Finally snapped at Boyfriend’s crude comments

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PeachTea9 · 09/03/2025 17:55

I’m at my wits end with my boyfriend and need to vent!

For context, I’m 31 and he’s slightly younger at 28 and we’ve been together for just under a year.

He has started making increasingly crude comments and I am now getting the silent treatment for telling him to shut it and grow up earlier.

These only began a couple of months ago and started off fairly innocently by being a bit more ‘direct’ with compliments towards me which I didn’t mind to begin with.

This has now progressed to making comments publicly about people we either see out and about or people we know.

Examples:

-‘doesn’t she squash him when they have sex’ (a slightly larger lady compared to her partner - these are friends of mine)

-You could crack an egg with that (a woman we drove past walking home from the gym wearing flattering leggings)

-‘He must be hung like a horse as he’s a bit bloody dull isn’t he’ (after meeting a friend and her BF for the first time)

And the final straw which made me snap today, we drove past a lady on a horse and he said ‘I wouldn’t mind her riding me like that’ and I flipped.

I should have said something previously in hindsight as my anger was building up.

He said I need to lighten up and not be so prudish but for me, this has crossed a line. I said I’m a grown woman and this sort of talk just gives me the ick.

Do you think I overreacted?

OP posts:
JMSA · 09/03/2025 17:58

Yet another thread where I wonder why the fuck the woman is putting up with shit.

Gettingbysomehow · 09/03/2025 17:57

I'd be dumping him. Yuck.

Msmoonpie · 09/03/2025 17:57

No I think he’s vile. It’s disgusting and disrespectful.

Hankunamatata · 09/03/2025 17:56

I shut my significant other down with - do I look like one of your sleezy work mates?

festivemouse · 09/03/2025 17:56

Personally, no. That's not a personality trait I'd find attractive! Sounds like that's his natural manner and he was on best behaviour earlier in the relationship. If it's a big deal to you, then I'd be ending it tbh, at 28 he's not going to change.

Notimeforit · 09/03/2025 17:56

Well, you dump him don't you?

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