Finally snapped at Boyfriend’s crude comments

It’s not your fault, he thinks he’s safe now. You’ve introduced him to DD, he thinks it’s a done deal.

Presumably he has some redeeming qualities, maybe he will shut up now, if not time to get rid or keep the relationship at arms length.

Oh throw this one back he sounds disgusting, he’s already showing you he has absolutely no respect for you imagine what it’d be like a few years down the line. Seriously you can do better

I dread to think what this guy is like when he is out with his mates. It doesn't take much to imagine what they are like if he thinks this is the normal way to talk to his partner.
Unbelievable some pp actually think this is reasonable behaviour from an allegedly adult man.

@SororitySister no its really not perfectly fine OP get rid

Oh god, surely you’re not going to settle for a man that you have to tell to behave like he’s another one of your children? Raise your bar and dump him

Don't be daft. There's nothing wrong with finding someone attractive, but it's the things he's said and the language he's used. It's objectifying and he thought it was perfectly alright to say aloud to his partner about her friends. You're focusing entirely on the comment about the woman on the horse, too.

His comments are repugnant, and he sounds vile.

DO NOT waste any more time with this man.

He’s testing the waters and seeing what you will let him get away with. I had an ex like that, he would deliberately make crude comments, which turned into sexually complimenting other woman on the tv and what not. Cheeky git took the hump when I used to completely ignore whatever he said (knew he wanted a reaction) and asked why I wasn’t jealous of him talking about other woman ? 🤔

Don’t try and think it’s just an age thing, I’m younger than your DP and find it fucking repulsive.

Are you dating one of the inbetweeners? That's really unattractive in a partner so I'd be throwing that one back

Which tesco do you shop in? 😈🤣

Yeah, absolutely - that’s just disrespectful.

Don't get me wrong, misogyny is rife in society and we need to stamp it out where we can, but we're losing sight of the real problem if we keep pretending that finding other women, whether or not they say it aloud, is misogynistic. Are you really going to act like you've never thought about being railed by Aiden Turner or Regé-Jean Page... or some hot thing in Levi's and a tight tee in Tesco?

He sounds like his sense of humour is about 40 years behind the times.

I find this repulsive!

He is immature, stupid or both.

What's the point in him improving his behaviour? He'll still be the same misogynistic pig, he just won't be saying it out loud. I'd be gone, he sounds rancid.

I would have found comments 1 and 3 funny, as the people involved weren’t there to hear them and they’re probably the sort of thing a lot of people would think. But I wouldn’t be impressed at all if my boyfriend was pointing out other women and saying he wants them to ride him or commenting on what great bodies he thinks they have. Obviously I don’t expect my partner not to find other women attractive and I don’t really care who or what he looks at, but I would find it disrespectful if he kept telling me about it and YANBU at all to feel the way you do.

I don't think that is what you should be focussing on.

His comments are gross. But I would have to LTB, it's not (just) the casual crudeness of the expression that I'd find offensive, it's the attitude behind it. Judgmental, objectifying and just plain nasty, it wouldn't be any better if he is saying these things to his friends, do you want someone around you and your DD who is even THINKING that type of thing?

Yes. The well hung comment is the best one, closely followed by the egg one. They're not groundbreaking are they, I don't suggest that he should give up his day job.
But presumably they were off the cuff, so you can't really hold him to the standard of a professional comedian.

It's good to feel comfortable enough with another person to have a laugh with them without have to censor yourself and to know that your comments won't be taken in all seriousness. Life's about joy isn't it? Clearly this is not the case here, they don't sound well suited

Isn't that exactly what they said, except without the moralising!?

You can ask him to stop, and he might stop. But you know he'll still be thinking like that and won't that bother you? For example you'll see a scenario you know he would have cracked a comment about and wonder what childish sex related thing he's thinking.

I’d rather be immature than rude and insulting to people on the internet. I don’t think he’s hilarious by any stretch and I wouldn’t be too happy with the riding comment but I was making the point that they clearly have different senses of humour and that’s not good so it’s not going to work in my opinion.

Early on in my relationship with my lovely husband he occasionally do milder versions of these sort of comment. I told him he was talking to me not his mates and to pack it in.

Yours sounds like he's got far too comfortable with you, and that he no longer respects you. Yuck.

Yeah in fairness that one wasn’t best!

It's only funny if both people are laughing...nothing this guy said is funny. If you think he's funny then you're as puerile and immature as him