Brags about dc height/weight etc

Some people do seem to brag about it and exaggerate too.
I've been told more than once about MILs Hairdressers 13yo 6ft 5 DS.

You know this kid as well as I do. But I don't actually believe any child could possibly be 6ft 5 at 13 yo and even if they were would you not be very worried about what height they will eventually turn out to be?

6ft 5 is into specialist clothing ranges, and probably flippers for feet and issues getting shoes.

It really doesn't help my own 13yo is on the short side, all good things come in small packaged. So someone braging really doesn't help

YANBU, everyone’s child on here is ‘over the 99th centile’. What are the odds of that 😂 I’m tall and wish I wasn’t, it has few benefits as a woman. I would prefer to be 5’5/5’6.

I'm 5ft 9 & love it, wasn't tall in primary school though so never stood out.

Everyone on Mns has super tall dc 😆😆

I never felt it's bragging either. I've passed comment in conversation about it, I've certainly never heard anyone speak about their kid being tall as if it's a brag or boast. If anything the opposite from a girls mum in DS class!

*size 2 shoes.

My 2 are huge and everyone asks me if they have grown or stopped growing now they are older.
Being both summer premature babies who were the tallest in the year they definitely suffered from people expecting them to behave an age sometimes 3-4 yrs older than they were. I even had to remind the teachers on more than one occasion that the youngest only turned the age on the 29th August and his best friend turned the next age 3 days later. He was still maturing but was not behind developmentally he was actually ahead for a 32 weeker!

Yes, it’s probably a sore spot for me as not only were both my sisters an average height but they are much conventionally better looking than me.

I don’t think 2 year olds can be overweight really as they’re still toddlers and expected to have that chub. I think it’s something to monitor at they get older though as a lot of kids at DD school have mums who talk a lot about them being solid/well built, but you should be able to see their ribs by 4ish once they’ve stretched out. They all get that letter from the weigh in but throw it in the bin

Many people do seem to view children being tall for their age as some some sort of achievement. Mine were always the opposite, but it meant they were always on the front row in class photos. I can always remember an elderly aunt of mine, who on seeing DD, then aged five, for the first time in a while immediately exclaimed: “oh, she’s going to be tall.” I didn’t say anything because DD was the smallest child in the school at that point and would be for another two years. As an adult, DD has also failed to live up to my aunt’s forecast, but, although smaller than average, she is a perfectly respectable 5’ 1” size 6-8 and takes size shoes. I think most girls would rather not tower above everyone else in any case. As for my sons, number one finished at around 5’ 5” and number two at 5’ 7”. Both take size 7 shoes. Does it matter? Not one jot.

But she is sturdy @Wildflowers99 so are you suggesting she looks overweight from that pic? I'm not being snarky, genuinely interested to hear. It can be hard being tall as a woman, especially if the other women in your family were shorter. I'm already dreading all the comments my DD will get about her height as I had them all my childhood so trying my best to shield her from them 🙂

Overweight small children don’t tend to have fat/rolls like adults, they look stocky instead and often get described as sturdy. If you’re both very tall then that makes sense re the height, I take after my dad who is really tall but my mum is average. My sisters are both 5’6 and I think that’s perfect and used to wish I was too. My bro is 6’4 and has to stoop through doorways.

Thank you for the concern @Wildflowers99 but me and her dad are tall so it's no surprise she is too. This is her today and she's perfect! It's never been flagged up by the HV as they look at me and her dad and say well she's not going to be small is she 😆 she's just a lot taller than an average 2 year old so by default is going to be heavier too but there's no fat on her at all.

It does seem like a lot of kids are high centiles these days!

My 3 year old boy is 2nd-9th centile for height though, definitely won't be the tallest in his class 😆 I quite like him being so small though, and we've never had the problem of people thinking he's older than he is

I would give it a check as that sounds very extreme. my sister’s best friend grew very quickly from a toddler and it turned out she had a rare condition which caused her to produce too much growth hormone, she’s 6’3 as an adult. It probably isn’t that but if she’s in 5-6 clothes it might be worth a check x

@Wildflowers99 no I'm not going to do my 2 year old's BMI. And yeah I was amazed they fit her but aged 2-3 or even 3-4 underwear is just so small and uncomfortable looking. And yes she was over 99th centile and even went off the chart completely just before she started walking about! But as the HV predicted she's run it all off now she's zooming about 🙂

5-6?! Have you done her BMI?

YANBU, everyone’s child on here is ‘over the 99th centile’. What are the odds of that 😂 I’m tall and wish I wasn’t, it has few benefits as a woman. I would prefer to be 5’5/5’6.

First reply nailed it! Without being able to explain why I'm proud my 2 year old is extremely sturdy and strong looking which is probably some primeval throwback. She'd definitely survive in the wild 😂 although I was a little shocked when I bought her some age 5-6 pants the other day for her to grow into and they fit her lovely but I think that's more about girls underwear being ridiculously skimpy than her being big. Goes off to grumble and start a thread about that...

Girls that age get called names regardless of shape or size. Girls with figures to die for and all the rest.

Just have a quiet laugh at him when he's gone.

His daughter will soon start telling him he's embarrassing her.

I really dont think its bragging or crowing. Its just making conversation/ taking pride in their DC. I think the issue is with you if you are taking it as some kind of criticism.

I've honestly never experienced anyone doing this. Quite a strange thing to brag about. My daughters 5 foot ten and absolutely hates it, as does my other daughter at 5 foot 9, same height as me but I couldn't care less about my height or anyone else's.

Talking or bragging?

Why are you so keen to look at this negatively?

It’s just chat though I wouldn’t think of it as bragging. Except for the baby thing, as a fairly tiny person I have given birth to 3 massive babies. People were genuinely impressed by me and I do like to clap myself on the back about it from time to time. They are all smaller than average now though.

Well, my dc is shorter than average and it's a worry! If he suddenly had a growth spurt I would probably be relieved so much that may sound as if I'm bragging...

I'm as short as they come. My dh is tall. Three of the four grandparents are short.
There's not much we can do about it and I wish more parents taught their children to accept physical differences and not pick on smaller/ bigger children.

My kids are both fairly tall for the their age, but like PP it's not always great when people assume they're older than they are. Our DS isn't 12 yet but is already taller than me and in age 15-16 clothes. People assume he's older than he is, until they see his face/hear his voice. He's still a little kid really, just not physically!
I do talk about it, but not bragging!