Current situation. DP and I have been together for 5 years, we have a three year old DD. I own the house and all bills are in my name, he pays me set amount each month which covers the bills. I’d like us to eventually move out and buy a house together. Ideally sooner rather than later, as where we are is small. DP has asked that we wait as he’s has been going through a lot over the past year or so. His step dad passed away last July and this affected him a lot.
This would be ok, but now DP’s DF, who was renting has moved out of his home due to a fight with his landlord. He is pretty unreliable and owes DP’s brother money already which he is showing no signs of paying back. We are unsure where he is living so now DP is understandable worried. Both he and his brother are considering buying a house together to put DF into for him to pay them rent. I am very wary of this due to DF’s history with money and it would also mean that when we come to buy it would be classed as our second home, bigger deposit etc. plus my DP would be using all the money he has saved on a deposit for this house making me have to put all the deposit into a home for us.
I have tried saying this to DP and I am worried that even though this is very caring towards his DF that he is not considering us and how this will affect his family. He says he is going to do this anyway as he just wants his dad to have a home.
AIBU to be annoyed about this?