To not like being around other people the older I get...

🤣🤣'enlightened hormonal state' sounds like clubbing in the early 2000''s🕺🕺🕺

I feel the same but I'm not blaming my post menopausal lack of hormones

The fact that people of ruder, less considerate has nothing to do with the state of my hormones, and neither has the fact that 60+ years on the planet has taught me that most people are to be barely tolerated.

And I'm definitely not artificially replacing hormones to let me tolerate their shite.

I feel so much of this. 43 and in peri, hrt doesn't seem to have helped. Unfortunately I also have a toddler and having no patience with him is very hard!

Can you show me where on this thread people have mentioned an "enlightened hormonal state"? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Oh God, I'd have been losing it. I can't bear inconsideration and lack of manners.

I've literally had this conversation with my adult dc today.
I'm 45 and peri menopausal.
I used to be the people pleaser, always wanted to be the life and soul and make the jokes now I feel like I actively avoid socialising and people in general.

Nearly 42 and I can't stand people these days. However, I do think manners have dropped a great deal in the last 5 years. I was on a 2 hour train journey earlier today. Firstly, someone had taken my pre-booked seat with my name on it out of sheer laziness and looked put out when I asked to sit in it. Then the girl beside me tapped her phone with inch-long nails, playing TikToks out loud, for 2 whole hours (my noise cancelling headphones saved her from going out the window). Teenage girls screeched and screeched. Two drunk men did that lecherous stare and another man had rancid BO. Most people stuffed on crisps so it was a smelly carriage too. Just such bad manners, everywhere, all the time.

I am honestly really nice though and don't tut at people in shops!

Umm hello, my people.

Seeing other people has become an obligation for me. I don't feel good about it, in fact I feel pretty ashamed as I would not only include friends in this, but my lovely parents and siblings too.
I adore my kids and like having them around. My dog too. But I dream of coming home to an empty house one day.
Maybe it's because I work full-time in a fairly challenging role.
Fun fact, I'm a single mother and used to enjoy going on dates. Nowadays I cannot think of anything worse. I think I would happily never be with another man again.
I'm really hoping this is a phase as I feel like a proper hermit weirdo

YANBU. Too many people are simply a royal PITA, or at least very irritating.
I am a GOB (Grumpy Old Bag) though so I’m allowed to say so.

I’m 52, and that’s exactly how I was brought up. However, I could see it wasn’t benefiting me by my late teens, and worked on unpicking those unhelpful, gendered scripts.

I think our generation..women in our late 40s were bought up to be good and kind and help others, put family first..well I know myself and many of my friends were. It’s what I saw my mum doing. Now we’re older we see how unnecessary it all was in todays world..

I've said this before on here. I just want to be like an old cat, sitting on a cushion above the sofa, staring out the window.
That would be enough for me.

well done you. 🌟

I feel like this too. I'm less tolerant of people and need more time to decompress and unwind. I used to enjoy having people over and now each time someone comes over whether a friend or for a play date I think I'm going to not have people over as much as I find it hard work.

This is me.
I was so people-pleasing before this that I almost feel embarrassed thinking about it, now people know if they are annoying me 😂

Never claimed to have transcended impatience and likely never will, but I don't go around boasting about my misanthropy or claiming it's some kind of enlightened hormonal state.

The way you are so judgy, hating on ‘ disapproving old women’ and saying ‘ hostile old bag’ doesn’t inspire confidence that you’ve transcended impatience with others.

We have positioned ourselves several hours from family (who all live at different points of the compass) which was great when we were 10 years younger and looked forward to having them to stay/visiting them.

Now we're in our early 40s, we both DREAD a weekend of family staying with every fibre of our beings.

It's TOO much time in someone else's company, and too much work to host and think of what we could do to pass the time.

I just want to have a lie in and go to the gym!

Oh and supermarkets are just innately irritating? Strange that you'd expect to enjoy yourself in one. Get in, do the necessary, get out.

Lots of posters blaming perimenopause for being a hostile old bag (rather than accepting it's a character flaw) yet no one likes being called out for hostility and other people blaming it on the perimenopause 🤔

This level of misanthropy is just being a twat. You ARE the person in public that no one else wants to be around and who makes supermarkets and trains so awful, with your barely concealed tutting and dirty looks and disapproving air.

I'm far from a people-pleaser - maybe this is why I'm happy to be around people I like? Because I never socialised just to keep people happy, I socialised because I found friends I genuinely like.

When I was younger (and even now when I'm not so young) I always hated the way disapproving old women made me feel, and swore never to be like them. So judgmental, so irritable, so disapproving. I have misanthropic tendencies like anyone but it'd be so toxic to let them rule my life.

I agree with @StillLifeWithEggs . I don't really recognise this level of anger directed at other people just for going about their normal business. I'm happy enough in my own company and don't socialise as much since I've got older, but I don't find most people rude and inconsiderate. I usually find that people are pleasant enough if I'm pleasant to them.

Visit your doctor. You are peri-menopausal and can get help for this.