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Weddings you went to where things went wrong?

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Bupo · 09/03/2025 12:01

Please can you share any times you attended a wedding where things went awry. I’m just keen to avoid any possible issue.

The only one I can think of is where the bride was two hours late. Apparently her family were just really exacting with the make up artist and had a lot of the make up redone/touched up.

We were sat in the Church for aaaaages. It meant that the drinks reception/evening meal was really rushed as the bride and groom really prioritised the dancing.

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AnonymousBleep · 10/03/2025 15:27

Marriage abroad (Italy) where the bride and groom hadn't submitted the correct paperwork beforehand so were not actually married after the ceremony! Had to go to a registry office and do it again once they were in the UK.

IButtleSir · 10/03/2025 15:02

I went to a VERY expensive wedding where two drunken uncles got into a fight and the police had to be called.

melonalone · 10/03/2025 14:00

ImAMinion · 09/03/2025 16:03

Mines unfortunately another catering one! They couldn’t afford it, simple as.

Winter wedding (December) and a flipping cold one at that! It was below zero degrees.

Service was at 10am at their church. I don’t know why it needed to be so early, but it was. After ceremony, it was pointed out that the reception location was not open for guests until 1pm. It was now just after 11am.
So into the church hall and found jugs of squash and a few plates of biscuits for over a hundred people. And that disappeared quickly. Thankfully, some church guests who were also church regulars switched on the hot water and got out the tea and coffee, someone discreetly went out for more milk and biscuits but Bride was a bit questioning and said “oh I just didn’t think people wanted tea and coffee at a wedding, why have we switched on the urn?” Thankfully she accepted that it was colder than she had anticipated as an answer but it was odd.

Arrive 2 hours later at venue - a very beautiful place that costs a fortune. A popular venue. Off they go for photos. At the venue……no canapés, no drinks. Just a few bowls filled with those tiny bags of Haribo sweets, and we were told the reception wouldn’t begin till 4pm. Someone enquired about the bar and we were told that B&G had not booked for that to be open till 4 so no staff to run it. Isolated venue, no shop or cafe or anything nearby. Thankfully they at least brought out jugs of water (and paper cups because again, refreshments had not been booked or paid for).

B&G and their quite big but close family who were in the photos were completely oblivious to the bored, starving freezing guests when they returned and it was only then that a few more snacks (think crisps and party rings) were brought out.

Into the reception finally, 12 tables plus top table. Food was a buffet, Top Table were first (food was dished out by the staff at venue I should say) - food ran out by table 6. 50% of guests (including myself) were left with nothing. Staff said they served what was paid for. Pudding was purchased separately - ie supermarket desserts, The MOB was a lovely lady doing the rounds and got to our table and wondered why we had no food and realised the issue. She quietly said she had been worried, they wanted this venue but In reality just didn’t have the budget, she was looking so sad at her daughter knowing bride would genuinely be upset if she realised and asked us to keep quiet and she would try and solve it. In the meantime, she approached MC and was having a quiet chat.

When desserts were set out, most of us at the 6 food deprived tables could see that there was a pitiful amount and nowhere near enough. The MC announced that Top Table would again go first, and that they would then go in reverse and used a sweet toothed uncle famous for his cake baking as the reason why they would start at the other end. Good old MOB. However, the first few tables were largely filled with family including a lot of children and the Bride called out that, as she had chosen lots of specificity things for certain people, could all the children and cousins get their pudding after them and then go through the tables. Well you can guess the result! Same 6 tables basically ended up with nothing.

Nothing from bar was included and evening buffet was also absolute minimum. Lots of guests were leaving by 8pm and, myself included, did spot bride getting a bit upset that so many people were departing so early.

This couple are a lovely couple but the reality was they couldn’t afford that location. They really couldn’t, they don’t have the funds at all. They could have had just as beautiful a wedding in a cheaper location - where everyone would be fed. The final carriages were at midnight, a 14 hour party and with Haribo, digestives, a few bags of crisps, a buffet for 60 out of 120 odd guests and dessert for less than that……I could never get the logic.

People like this drive me nuts!! The bride had an absolute cheek to get upset! I would have been out the door at the sight of the haribo! I think it is utter disrespect to treat your guests in such a way. You said they’re a lovely couple but lovely people just don’t treat guests with this level of contempt. Hope you took your wedding gift home with you!

SpikyCoconut · 10/03/2025 13:22

I've never been to any where anything especially bad happened but I did go to one where the bride confided in me at reception that her and groom 'weren't good' and would soon split up but she had wanted some stability for her daughter (not groom's) so they had to get married. They'd parted ways within a few weeks.

As others have already stressed, HAVE ENOUGH FOOD. And not at silly times i.e no skimpy canapes at 12:00 and then nothing until 17:00 with everybody getting sloshed. Your guests are just that, guests -they've paid, travelled and bought presents-look after them.

If you don't have the money for a lush lavish do, don't have one-nobody will care as long as they're fed and warm/cool with somewhere to sit and they're not cold, hungry or

One of the nicest weddings I went to was also the simplest. Registry office, BYOB and some 'potluck'? I think they called it-for food.

It wasn't even that the couple didn't have money, they could have afforded a 'nicer' do but they just didn't see the point on spending on unnecessaries, which was more than fair enough. We all had a really good time, more than enough grub and then to a basic hall with a friend DJing for a disco/party. Can't have cost much at all and all I remember is having a really good time with lots of friends.

DaisyStarburst · 10/03/2025 13:13

Vegetarian and pregnant, the B & G knew both those things. There was no food for me. Plenty of food for everyone else but everything was meat, even the salads had meat in them. I asked the caterers if they had anything I could eat, even a piece of cheese would be something, they said no it had all been bought in as it was. We had to leave and find a chippy.

villanova · 10/03/2025 12:33

Mine wasn't something that can be avoided/ planned for, but I accidentally ruined my uncle's wedding. I was 7 or 8yrs old, my dad was best man for his brother's wedding. Just before the ceremony, I accidentally stuck my finger in my dad's eye (can't remember how it happened). He struggled through the ceremony, but immediately after photographs had to be taken to A&E as his eye was red and streaming. This being the 1970, he did at least make it back to the reception before it ended, with a big gauze taped across his eye, but no best man's speech that day!

Rantypanties · 10/03/2025 12:26

I don’t have anything really dramatic to add but I remember a friends wedding in London that didn’t cater for the evening guests so the friends that joined us later (1.5hr journey & hotel room) had no food at all. Weirdly in a part of London that wasn’t surrounded by restaurants so had to wait till we got to our hotel to eat. I think that’s the main takeaway from the thread- have loads of food!

My wedding was pretty uneventful but my FIL did get up to make a speech welcoming my young sister to the family….!

Tinseltuttifruitti · 10/03/2025 11:54

I'll never forget the trilingual wedding, where every word of the ceremony and speeches had to be given in English, French and Norwegian. Good to be inclusive but it was just so boring. I've never been to a wedding with a worthwhile speech tbh including my own.

Nothatgingerpirate · 10/03/2025 11:47

Oh...
My own...🙃

Yalta · 10/03/2025 11:28

I have known 3 marriages that didn’t survive the honeymoon (one didn’t survive the reception) and all 3 had one thing in common, in the run up to the big day and on the day a lot of friends from different friendship groups telling one of the parties to not go through with the wedding

Please Listen to your friends and save yourself the heartache and expense of a divorce / annulment

MissMarplesNiece · 10/03/2025 11:21

Hoppinggreen · 10/03/2025 11:02

I went to one where the couple had decided to get one of those "comedy" acts where they pretend to be waiters and are really rude and F everything up.
One was awful to a woman on our table and made her cry so her H hit him, there were many similar incidents
No idea why anyone thought it would be in any way funny

It's similar to the wedding reception I was at where the bride & groom had hired a "comedian" who went round the tables making personal remarks & insulting people. The bride and groom thought it was hilarious but most people were just very uncomfortable with it. Why the heck would you want to humiliate your guests?

DazzlingCuckoos · 10/03/2025 11:13

Three weddings spring to mind - nothing too bad though.

Went to the wedding of a friend who was over an hour late. Apparently she hated her wedding hair once it was done, despite having had a trial only a couple of days before. She had really long, thick hair down to her waist and it had been styled into a very complex updo, so took an absolute age to take back out again and straighten it. We were all so confused when she came in with her every day hair style, but I very much think it ended up as a "if we don't leave now, they're not going to wait any longer".

The other one was my uncle's wedding in a church, where the vicar clearly thought himself quite the comedian and spent quite a lot of time telling really bad husband and wife jokes!

Then during the video of the service, you can see me and my Mum having an absolute giggling fit at her atrocious singing.

That marriage didn't last, so hopefully that video has been subsequently burned or binned!

Finally, my best friend's wedding where her Dad was so drunk by the time of the speeches no-one understood a word he was saying, but he thought he was hilarious at least!

Hoppinggreen · 10/03/2025 11:02

I went to one where the couple had decided to get one of those "comedy" acts where they pretend to be waiters and are really rude and F everything up.
One was awful to a woman on our table and made her cry so her H hit him, there were many similar incidents
No idea why anyone thought it would be in any way funny

KimberleyClark · 10/03/2025 10:31

EmpressOfTheThread · 09/03/2025 12:41

I went to the wedding of a friend whose father had died a couple of years previously, so her BIL gave her away and made the speech. However, his speech spoke of the late father and him missing the day and seeing his daughter wed. This set the bride and her mother off, they couldn't stop crying. It was awful.

It would have been weird if he hadn’t mentioned the late father too though.

Disturbia81 · 10/03/2025 10:18

12345mummy · 10/03/2025 09:30

Too much fizz for an extended amount of time and no canapés. Everyone ended up really drunk. Bride and groom taking too long to take photos - again everyone ends up drunk.
We had a short photo session with drinks, canapés and live music for the guests. It was really relaxed and the canapés didn’t cost much in the grand scheme of things but always go down really well.

Yes definitely need canapes for that inbetween bit.

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 10/03/2025 10:04

PinkCatInATree · 10/03/2025 07:55

Goodness me, i am shocked at the number of comments about food for guests (quantity and quality). Makes me doubly happy we did it in secret and haven't told anyone except our solicitor (for the wills).

If you invite people to your wedding, you have to sufficiently feed and water them.
It's a long day with a lot of standing around, and people get fractious.

Feelingfatok · 10/03/2025 09:39

mewkins · 10/03/2025 07:33

I hate an awkward speech..

I've heard:
Those who fail to mention to bride (or say something underhand about the bride)
Crude jokes (taking it way too far)
Awful mumbling
TMI (as above)including a not so brief dating history of the bride/groom.

Yes awkward speeches stay with me. As well as the boring long FOB speech I have had:

  • best man so drunk he couldn’t really do the speech , so cringey!
  • a father of the bride who was obviously very sad about his American daughter marrying an Englishman and moving to the UK. He laid it on thick about how sad they were to loose her.
  • a very religious father of the bride who basically just preached a sermon and said nothing about his daughter.
12345mummy · 10/03/2025 09:30

Too much fizz for an extended amount of time and no canapés. Everyone ended up really drunk. Bride and groom taking too long to take photos - again everyone ends up drunk.
We had a short photo session with drinks, canapés and live music for the guests. It was really relaxed and the canapés didn’t cost much in the grand scheme of things but always go down really well.

CruCru · 10/03/2025 09:09

I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where something went badly wrong. A friend of a friend got married (I wasn’t there) and the best man mentioned that the groom had been in prison in his speech (upsetting the bride’s family, who didn’t know).

Another friend was chief bridesmaid at someone’s wedding. It was quite elaborate and she put loads of effort in (including making a book of memories from all the women, sorting a fancy hen do in another country). The couple split up a few months later (they’d been together years) and my friend was still paying off the hen do on her credit card for some time after.

From this thread, I guess I’d say:

  • food. Feed them early and feed them well;
  • make sure that people have somewhere to sit down; and
  • let the bridesmaids wear their own shoes. No one notices the shoes.
Never2many · 10/03/2025 08:23

At my SIL’s wedding the best man was so smashed he could barely mumble out the speech.

We went to a wedding of a family member who had been more or less estranged for decades, and then suddenly crawled back out of the woodwork and started making regular visits with his GF, presumably so there would be people on his side of the church.

They got married in a baptist church. Her three year old grandson was the best man because, in her words, “he’s the only one who has accepted him.” And then afterwards we went behind into the church hall for a meal which consisted of two party sized sausage rolls and half a packet of crisps, and a can of drink. Toast was made with grape juice and we all left within half an hour.

Friend’s wedding her SIL came up to her and casually announced that today was going to be her divorce day.

Friend and her DH are still together, the BIL and SIL actually stayed together, and had a child, for another ten years.

NaomhPadraigin · 10/03/2025 08:21

Aliflowers · 10/03/2025 07:35

Just thought of this. Utterly tragic. I wasn’t at the wedding and didn’t know the wedding party or the poor girl at all but know a few guests that attended.

https://www.irishtimes.com/ireland/2024/09/24/irishwoman-seriously-injured-after-dress-catches-fire-at-friends-wedding-in-spain/

She passed away Chrustmss week after spending months in hospital in Seville

I remember that story at the time @Aliflowers but didn't know the poor lady died since.
Horrible story 😢

Yalta · 10/03/2025 08:10

I was at a wedding where the Best Man didn’t turn up. Groom and BM had been best friends for 20 years. Another BM had to be arranged within minutes at the church as it didn’t enter grooms mind his friend wouldn’t turn up

Groom never heard from him again. His mother said he got anxious about the day and went off to be alone and he never saw or heard from his friend again

Marcipix · 10/03/2025 08:03

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 10/03/2025 07:56

Oh good grief.
Are they still together? Is she ok?

I don’t know; we lost touch when they emigrated.

Biglifedecisions · 10/03/2025 07:59

Aliflowers · 10/03/2025 07:35

Just thought of this. Utterly tragic. I wasn’t at the wedding and didn’t know the wedding party or the poor girl at all but know a few guests that attended.

https://www.irishtimes.com/ireland/2024/09/24/irishwoman-seriously-injured-after-dress-catches-fire-at-friends-wedding-in-spain/

She passed away Chrustmss week after spending months in hospital in Seville

That is horrendous. Unimaginable pain. It’s made me want to ensure every candle is fully covered, as they are beautiful but can be deadly.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 10/03/2025 07:56

Marcipix · 10/03/2025 02:10

A very popular and attractive friend of mine married an awful, controlling lowlife after an extremely short engagement.

The reception was massively over catered but with revolting food- masses of pale white sausage rolls and grey chicken legs. Everything so undercooked that even the grooms many drunk relatives wouldn’t eat it.

A lot of people were asking me why on earth my beautiful friend was marrying this awful bloke. Unfortunately someone was saying exactly that just as she came up to me to ask if there was something wrong with the food.
She heard and was furious. She was so defensive and it was beyond awkward.

He went on to immediately give away her dog after shaving it until it bled, drive her dd away to live with her father, move her away from her elderly parents and arrange to emigrate, all of which she went along with as if hypnotised.

Oh good grief.
Are they still together? Is she ok?

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