Weddings you went to where things went wrong?

If everyone’s on board, why not. But if I still had feelings? No way. And if an ex invited me part of me would wonder whether the bride felt under pressure to do so, you know? I think I’d probably just decline with thanks and save myself the over-thinking personally.

Sounded like a riot!

No. He explained there would be no wedding and the bride walked back down the aisle.

Come to think of it, it may well be there were other ex-GF (or BF) at other weddings I’ve attended - if I didn’t know the B&G’s dating history and nobody sobbed / gave a BM speech about ‘we all thought he’d marry Anna’ / in some other way acted up, I’d have no way of knowing!

As you say, if the relationship is long in the past, why not.

Also went to a wedding where the priest got the name wrong. When he said ‘do you take thee X’ he actually used the grooms middle name which also happened to be the name of the brides ex 🫣

attended a wedding where the first venue burnt down. The bride ended up booking the same venue where I had recently married as they and a few other local venues got together to offer the couples all available dates. Bride was really worried I would mind but really didnt. At the wedding the coordinator who I had known from our wedding told me one of the couples they were in discussions with to take over their wedding actually the bride decided it was a sign and called off the wedding and went travelling! Thought this was a great story!

And at my BF's wedding, in a church, all the bridesmaids' cash was stolen from our handbags in the church hall. I've only just realised I never told my friend that, didn't want to spoil her memories. Though they're divorced now so might be ok 😂.

My Uncle married for the 3rd time and her Dad stood up to give a speech.
He started with "X's Grandma would have loved to be here but she died last week" then dissolved into loud sobs.
I felt for him, no idea who thought it was a good idea for him to do the speech.

@ChompandaGrazia exactly!

I think the bride had read it in Vogue that food sexism was a thing in California, unfortunately it did not translate to Lancashire.

It was a pretentious wedding. All style, zero substance.

Went to the afternoon wedding of an older (well off) couple. At one point a small table of finger sandwiches was put out but we all ignored it as it was 7pm and we all expected a meal. By 9pm all the guests were looking at each other like WTF. There was no food. It was v odd. We had pizza on the way home...

Isn’t this fairly common in Australia where it’s called ‘alternate drop’? While I don’t think that’s specifically aimed at different meals for men and women, I wouldn’t be surprised if it ends up that way a lot of the time?

We went to a wedding, glorious sunny day in June, church service then back to a local hotel with a walled garden. It was absolutely fab until we went in for food - the groom's father had died some 15 years before but the top table had an empty chair and they'd put a huge photo on the table. Then the groom did speeches before food (by this time it was 3pm and we were starving) and the whole groom's family got really tearful about the father not being there, growing up without him etc. Literally killed the mood stone dead, and the Bride ended up storming out saying it was supposed to be a celebration......... it was horribly horribly awks and loads of people left before the evening do just because truthfully, it felt like a wake.

One where the groom (a family friend) kept eyeing up all the women, apart from his lovely, and too good for him, wife. Surprisingly not the marriage didn’t last.

I invited DH’s ex to our wedding. She is a genuinely lovely person and she and I are friends. I don’t think of her as his ex as they had split up long before I met him.

My god some of these weddings! I’ve never been to one where anything terrible happened, or not that I’ve noticed anyway.

One was a budget wedding where they’d tried to do everything themselves and on a shoestring. It was BYOB, fine by us, we took a cool box! But the venue was a barn with an open side - the wedding was in the summer but predictably it rained and the people sitting on the side exposed to the elements were soaked. Blankets and umbrellas had been provided! They must have spent a small
fortune on other things, the flowers and centrepieces were lavish and stunning, the table settings must have cost a lot (and were mostly left behind from what I could tell), the 6 bridesmaids dresses I knew were costly. And the food was a jacket potato van! I chose one, it was soggy and I didn’t eat it but it wasn’t the end of the world. Just felt so strange that they’d spent so much money on some things that are really insignificant (I guess to me as a wedding guest) and then really cut back on the important things - like keeping guests warm and dry and fed 😂
Anyway, we did have a bloody brilliant day and it didn’t detract from what was a cracking party but it’s just something I will always remember.

Missing the point....

The worst was a wedding at a hotel miles from anywhere, that had many many stairs, was dark, smelt and creepy as fuck, and we were all shepherded from one floor to another, for ages, for unknown reasons. It was like The Shining in there, horrible feel to the place. All the elderly/less mobile guests were in pain and exhausted from traipsing up and down all the higgledy piggly staircases to find the ceremony room. We sat through a very long boring ceremony in a freezing cold room, and then were turfed out for about 3/4 hours while the staff turned the room around and B and G had extensive photos in various areas of the clearly haunted hotel.

However there were no drinks or food provided, hardly any seating areas (large rooms with any seating were bizarrely locked) except for a couple of sofa right in the draughty reception area and no shops nearby. The hotel had a bar in an otherwise empty room (assuming all the chairs and tables were being used in the ceremony/reception room?) which for some reason was unstaffed and nobody around working at all. Eventually the guests started going behind the bar getting themselves drinks and crisps. When we were allowed back in to the main room, any food that was eventually served was stone cold and crap. Honestly it was the strangest venue and set up imaginable.

Another bad one was when tables had to go up to get their own food and it had run out by my table and the few after us! We were so hungry, someone who was pregnant and therefore not drinking, went off to a nearby village to find us some provisions!

I’ve also been to one where the bride was two hours late. She’d made a big fuss about everyone being on-time/early so in the end we sat for 2 and a half hours in the venue waiting for her. The marriage only lasted about 6 weeks so it probably would have been better if she hadn’t shown at all.

A post mentioning guests being mean about other guests reminded me of a friend's wedding.

We were all invited to the video showing (an uncle did it). I'd been bridesmaid so expected to attend the showing. Lots of family members all at the bride's parents house.

Watching the video, get to the scene where the bride's mother exits the car with the little bridesmaid at church. And you can hear her SIL saying on the video "rhat does nowt for her big bum and that hair-do extenuates those chins of hers".

SIL was at the viewing and left very meekly when the bride's mother said calmly " leave my house now please".

P.S. mother of the bride was tall and slim and looked stunning and has only 1 chin.

This Is many years ago but friends got married in a small Island in Greece (he was Greek). It was amazing, ran over several days. But during the ceremony there was some ominous rumbles of thunder. By the time is was done it was a full lightning storm, the roads turned to rivers, the outdoor reception washed away, half the guests went missing in a bus. We were all dressed in kilts and fancy dresses, and hitched a ride in an A board van to the harbour where we had a fab meal as the owner bemoaned all his tables and chairs being washed into the sea.

luckily we all convened the next night (indoors) and carried on. It was actually a huge adventure and a great story that made the local papers when we got back!

DM said she wanted to sort out the transport. She did. She booked us a taxi, for both of us to arrive in.

We arrived on time though. However exH managed to get my name wrong. Twice. The first time he didn't say my full name (forgot the middle name) and the second time he said my middle name first.

I had my then best friend in charge of the cake (her choice). She picked up a decorate your own from M&S and then decorated it horrifically. It looked like a nursery aged child had done it.
At the after party, she came through with it already sliced and started handing it out to people, and couldnt understand why we were upset that she'd cut the cake herself.

Second wedding went really well. We did arrive 10 minutes late (we found it amusing that we came from different directions but both hit bad traffic) but after that it all went smoothly.

@ExIssues DH got his own name wrong by mixing up his two middle names, he was massively stressed as had to say my full incredibly long name which includes my Chinese name.

Grooms second marriage, had the same best man both times. Opening line of the best mans speech was "well isn't this deja vu". Mother of the groom stormed out !

My DH is a bell ringer, so we see a lot of weddings. At one, the congregation was starting to get a little restless, when a message came that there had been an unforeseen hitch; that the wedding would happen but the bridal party would be late, and that they had sent some cases of champagne and glasses and crisps and nibbles and would people please help themselves while they waited. It transpired that one of the bridesmaids had had a nosebleed all over the bride’s dress and it had taken some time to get her out of it and get it clean and dry. The wedding did happen and was lovely - the moral of the story is that if something unforeseen happens, just think of a way of making the best of it.

I remember reading a thread about a similar wedding once and it seems it's not uncommon. I was aghast. In our case we'd probably have to do an immediate swap as my husband doesn't eat beef and I do. It does smack very much of 'Here's your hearty MALE portion, sir, and here's a suitably tiny and delicate plateful for the LITTLE LADY'.