DH arrived home after night out with another woman

You need to let him live his life now.

please, please do this!

Got any male mates who’d be up for pretending to be ’the other man’ so you can have a few drinks, roll in at 2am and pretend you’re going to shag in the room underneath him 🤣

I was in a similar scenario with my ex.

In the end, I decided to move into an Air BnB whilst the house sale was going through as we were both home a lot and it felt weird as our house wasn't huge.

On one occasion, I went back to the house (always text in advance even though I was still paying half the mortgage) to pick up post, and it was evident that a woman had been staying there, make up in living room etc.

I even found that quite disrespectful even though I wasn't living there as it was still technically my home and he hadn't even bothered to give me the heads up knowing I was dropping by.

So this scenario is ABSOLUTELY completely disrespectful.

Jesus I’d literally flip my lid!!! YANBU. Tell
him you want him out. Go to his parents, if he can’t keep it in his pants for the sake of a few months there is something seriously wrong with him! He may also be doing it to try and make you jealous into wanting him back. What these stupid men don’t realise is our brains don’t work like that. Hope you’re ok! Xx

Of course he's being a disgustingly inconsiderate arse.

But you're divorcing (presumably for good reasons) and once the house is sold you'll be done with each other, so I wouldn't waste energy on a fight. He's not going to apologize or prioritize your feelings, you don't have any way to make him, and there's nothing productive that will come from it - at the end of the day you're still going to be divorced and the only thing that will change is how much misery and emotional turmoil you'll put yourself through between now and then.

Mutter "thank god I'm divorcing that pig" under your breath and set a reminder to check in with the estate agent on the regular. If the current offer falls through then tell your ex you want to set a time frame for him moving out (you can offer to pay him "rent" out of your proceeds of the house sale if he's an arse about it) or dropping the asking price.

WTAF???
Why shouldn't Op get up and take a look? Should she put ear plugs in too so she doesn't hear if he fancies bringing someone back for a shag or lie meekly in her room and ignore.
His behaviour was disgusting, disrespectful and demeaning to you and OW.
And if you read OP properly, she is sorting out alternative living arrangements🙄🙄🙄
I would also worry about security, what if something of yours went missing? Whole thing is ick!

Vile behaviour from him. I would argue that if he wants to have company in the evening, his local relatives are the best option for him when it comes to living arrangements.

Poor you, horrible to experience & I’m sure a very stark reminder of why you separated.

Whilst other PPs have correctly pointed out that legally he can do this, morally I think it's absolutely vile.

I read this and really felt for you @FlyAway25, so I just want to say keep strong and you'll be free of his repugnant behaviour soon.

OP, there is at least one poster on this thread suggesting you need alternative living arrangements, despite you making it clear the house is sold, and your work is nearby. Please stick to your guns, even though you are sharing with a &^%$!! Hopefully it won't be for much longer. You sound like a very tolerant person, you must have had to put up with a lot before it reached this stage.
Your "housemate's" pull sounds like a lady of the night, I bet he's out of pocket after a drunken s*&££!

So it was going to be a one night stand? I really don’t think that’s on, there could end up being a string on one night stands going through your house. A good (hopefully civilised) talk is needed.

What an absolute barstard. Glad he is your ex OP.

Hi OP I'm really sorry your in this situation, it doesn't sound like your ex H really cares about being disrespectful to you as it seems this ditch effort to invoke a reaction from you was done on purpose, I wouldn't personally have any type of conversation with this human being as it won't end well.

While I understand the mature thing to do is to have the conversation and set rules but I highly doubt that will stick, and he won't care once he has had a few.

I personally would ignore his behaviour and carry on living my life, his tantrums won't get any attention from you as he wishes to behave like a child let him be, hopefully it won't be too long before the sale of the house is done and you can be on your way.

Don't cause yourself extra stress, his behaviour is his choice.

In practice he's a bit gross. Clearly both women thought so. Now you can also tell him OP and set the boundaries. And good luck with everything too.

Take a man back and let him feel what you have felt!

You could have a lot of fun with this!

I'd do it straight back and see how he likes it. If I didn't want to do the sex bit I'd just get a male friend over, bounce on the bed and have a big laugh at him!

I agree with PP’s that it was very disrespectful to you and the women he brought home. She was clearly shocked as well.

Let’s hope the sale progresses quickly. 🤞

I get why you’re upset, but I think it’s just a bit of an awkward situation. I think as adults sharing a house have some ground rules, but if you’re both seeing other people it’s realistic your going to have people over.

I think it’s fine to say not when the other person is In but I imagine you are always in and he always isn’t that rule isnt really fair.

i think the most reasonable thing is a heads up so you can close you door or go out if you want. But him telling you to scarper because he wants a date night wouldn’t be reasonable either. There’s no perfect solution and the only way to figure it is probably an awkward conversation neither of you is interested in having

I'm glad you have enough respect for yourself to see that this IS NOT OK!
You are still married but according to others on here, as long as he pays half the mortgage he gets to option to piss on your from a great height!
There is absolutely no way anyone should ever feel small or insignificant enough to accept this.
Had you of agreed to this being no problem as 2 adults prior to this then fine, but this is just him trying to punish you.

Just wow what an arsehole. So you’ve been separated for 2 months and he can’t understand the problem. I hope the house sale goes through quickly, I can only think he wants to make you jealous as I can see no other reason why he would bring a woman back to the house.

To quote the OP: "she turned to DH and said something along the lies of ‘you didn’t tell me about her’, said ‘I’m so sorry’ to me and immediately left the house"

It appears the other woman didn't know about the "ex wife" before going back to his place so she is not to blame. If I were to ask a woman out on a date and she accepts, I would expect her to be single and to have told me if she is in a relationship, I would not expect to have to jump through hoops trying to find out that information myself.

What an absolute sh*t. I hope your house sells quickly without a hitch and you can find someone else in time.
I also hope that in the cold light of day he realises how horrible he has been.

I would change the locks while he's gone.

Crass of him.