Why are (some specifically mine) men like this?

Nah I'm still here watching Ms Maloprop make a spectacular of herself (see what I did there).

RIGHT stop the pile on.

It comes across as bullying.

Pandying is a local saying perhaps? "Cow towing"maybe ?

Just leave me alone FFS. You are allowed to disagree with me. I don't object to that.

Dissecting, analysing my statement, trying to get me to admit my opinion is wrong is not diplomatic behaviour.

When you see umpteen other posters have already piled on - why keep @ ing me and continuing to harass me?

You've made your point. Now move on.

Oh the denial 🙈!

Been to many a social occasion in my life, of varying types. My house keys have attended 100% of them. Didn’t stop me from having a pleasant time.

I’m wondering why this poster thinks that a smack across the palm of the hand will stop men entering womens’ toilets !!!

Oh the irony 🙈

Do you have any reasonably priced and available hotels/motels near you ? I know it’s a bit late for that now but if it happens again, at the first sniff of him being late, I would take the kids and have myself a night away. Lock up and take the keys with you. He can knock, bang, and generally create all the mayhem he wants then, and you don’t have to deal with it.

So OP was awake until at least 2:30 to accommodate this man-baby she's married and had children with ... and it will be on her to get up early with the DCs despite staying up to let the arsehole in.

Honestly. Why do women put up with this shit? And what an example for their children about how men can do what they want and women have to put up with it...

I’ve also found your posts aggresive, and dismissive.

With the “enjoy the sunshine” like you’ve dismissed that poster from posting anymore.

I wouldn't call any of my responses 'aggressive '

I think that's in your head

I was highlighting your mistake when presumably trying to use the word pandering, after your oddly aggressive response to a totally valid query from another poster.

(Pandying is a regional term for smacking a child. I can’t imagine that’s what you meant.)

"He's actually not that bad" ...... WTF???? Yes, yes he is, he's a selfish asshole. I would be furious. Making you stay up so you can let him in. Then he's rolling in drunk with no intention to be up with the kids next day. Why are you justifying this??!!

Why do women type this shite?

" He's not that bad " YES he is op, he is God awful, he has no respect for you none and you're letting him get away with it!

He's an arsehole and you're the servant of an arsehole. This isn't the life you want, is it?

I feel very very sorry for the op.

It isn't your fault that he's a selfish arsehole op, but you are the only one who can do anything about it. He won't change.

I would bet £5 they both grew up in families where the men did whatever they like, women tolerated it - and that all their friendship group are the same. Probably much mirth and 'bants' when the blokes get together 'the missus let you out did she hahaha how funny' 'the old ball and chain got you under her thumb' . Grim.

No this isn't a thing. My two DCs have always had their keys let alone a grown man. I've never lost my keys going out.

Your time is not valuable to him. It's ok for you to sit in traffic, it's ok for you to wait up, it's ok for you not to go out (even if god forbid you had to in an emergency) because he will be back by 12, it's ok for you to deal with the DC because he will be hung over. You are staff not a partner

You Are minimising frankly awful controlling behaviour

dripping him off with kids - no
not taking keys - a huge no

he has made yiu wait up for him and then I assume is probably still lying in bed now when you have been up for hours

Well the OP dated him, moved in together and now has lived with him for at number of years and chose to have a second child. So anything that's going on, isn't the fault of the woman who birthed him. It's on him, thinking he gas the OP were he wants her. She hasn't woken up to it being coercive control, hopefully, yet. I've known abusive men whose mothers wouldn't take the shit from her DH, or son that their partners do. Men aren't abusive because of women.

I'd just text him saying, I'm going to bed, stay with a mate tonight, if you come home and wake up the kids, you're staying up with them.

Please, he's an adult and he's choosing to act this way. Let's say he's always been pandered to - that's an explanation not an excuse. He's responsible for his own behaviour.

OP you and your children deserve better. Please consider getting irl support/look into the freedom programme.

That’s right, blame women when men fuck up

Two parents I assume, one male, one female.

Yep, you did.

Why do we always blame women? He is an adult and can make his own choices regardless of his upbringing.

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And personally, I think he is behaving like a spoilt teenager - nip this in the bud now or forever be pandering to his every whim.
If he is genuinely concerned about losing keys why not allocate a hiding place to put a key on the nights he will be going out?? Not a perfect solution but at leat you can lock up and go to bed.
Also, after his late night jollies make sure the children make plenty of noise when they get up.