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Why are (some specifically mine) men like this?

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TakingBackSunday · 09/03/2025 00:52

DH has gone out tonight okay fine, asked me to drop him off but forgot to tell me about the football match so spent 40 minutes in traffic with two kids ... fine whatever, he could have gotten a taxi tho 🙄

Refused to take the keys because he'd be back at 12 (been out since 5) as he knows I can't go to bed without locking the door as I don't feel safe sleeping with two kids and the door unlocked.

Hasn't messaged me since 10pm

Wonder when he'll get home .. wonder when I'll get to go to bed.

Bet he expects me to get up with them tomorrow as well Hmm

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EG94 · 09/03/2025 01:22

Have you called him to ask what the fuck he is playing at? I’d call and tell him you said 12, that’s been a gone you haven’t had the courtesy or respect to a) keep your promise b) update me. I’m going to bed, door will be locked, find somewhere else to sleep and don’t come home until you can be less of an inconsiderate arsehole

Comtesse · 09/03/2025 01:15

Seriously? You and kids have to drop him off, he then won’t take keys so he will wake you up, and then won’t get up with kids in the morning?

One of those things might be ok, but all 3??? Why is he such a self indulgent fool? I would be furious.

thislifer · 09/03/2025 01:10

Halloumiheaven · 09/03/2025 01:05

Usually been bought up by pandying mothers...

Yes. Then find doormat partners.

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TakingBackSunday · 09/03/2025 01:09

GarlicStyle · 09/03/2025 01:07

You really need to get another set of keys cut.

We have two sets of keys - he wouldn't take his - I actually don't know why but he just said he'd be back for 12 when I raised concerns about it.

It's genuinely ridiculous.

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GarlicStyle · 09/03/2025 01:07

You really need to get another set of keys cut.

Halloumiheaven · 09/03/2025 01:05

Usually been bought up by pandying mothers...

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TakingBackSunday · 09/03/2025 01:04

Cos he'd be back at 12 and he doesn't need them I even insisting he should take them, passed them to him in the car but he didn't want them (maybe he's worried he'd lose them idk)

I can see he's just bought another drink so I don't think I'll see him anytime soon.

I'm considering locking the door and going to bed but if he knocks or rings the bell it'll wake the whole house plus the neighbours and I don't want to deal with that.

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MuckFusk · 09/03/2025 01:04

I don't understand his reasoning for why he wouldn't take the keys. That's very strange.

teksab · 09/03/2025 01:03

I'd probably lock the door and go to bed tbh

Maitri108 · 09/03/2025 01:01

Why would anyone refuse to take keys?