Living alone is tough financially

Quoted wrong poster. That was meant for the bitchy cunt.

Neither am I? I'm just tootling along paying my taxes the same as the next person.

They didn't call you the b word. To bitch is another way of saying to whine, to complain to moan etc. That poster was saying instead of being grateful you whine/moan.

Of course it's harder on your own, I lived alone and supported myself from the age of 18 - 25, bought a house with ex then lived alone from 28 -30. In my early 20s I was working 60hrs overtime a month just to pay for everything. It was hard. This isn't a new thing, it's always been hard..

The counter argument is "I wish I had the luxury of only providing for me, but we have four people to provide for on that one same salary"

But then the counter-counter argument is that “You chose to have children and your partner to stay at home, otherwise you could have had the “luxury” of only providing for yourself”

And then we go round in circles.

Everyone’s life is hard at times. Can’t everyone have a bit of a moan about things?

Basically you say "only I am providing for me, its not fair!". The counter argument is "I wish I had the luxury of only providing for me, but we have four people to provide for on that one same salary"

Funny how when I say it, I get vilified and called a bitch and a cunt, and told to fuck off and shut up. Got to love how warm and welcoming my adopted country is, it just makes 25 years of paying taxes and getting British citizenship all worth it.

Well this thread has escalated 😳

But on the actual point, yes I think it's bloody tough. My mortgage is high cos I'm old(ish) could only afford a one bed flat cos where I live is expensive (can't move elsewhere as that would mean another country) so no spare room to rent out. Food is a pain and I've actually gone mostly vegetarian cos it's just easier to buy veg in single size portions, and tend to batch cook a lot.

I'm not a high earner, I'm in my 40s so I'm not house sharing, my siblings are very much older and very much married so no buying with them. My only option was to stay with my elderly widowed mother (who incidentally also finds it harder to live alone, I'll suggest she gets a lodger)

I've made a choice and I'm not crying about it, I don't need any tiny violins 🙄, but living alone is tough financially! End of

I wouldn’t be asking for government help to do that, no.

One wage supporting one person with no impediments to climbing the career ladder shouldn't need benefits.

If you're a low earner, then you're going to find life tough.

But single doesn't need to equal low earner. Indeed, with no other responsibilities, singles without dependents are the best placed to climb the career ladder. And they have the luxury of only themselves to provide for.

If you have disabilities, you can claim benefits, regardless of relationship status.

You don't get to claim benefits for bringing up kids you don't have, obviously.

I've never claimed a benefit in my life (although I hope state pension is still around once I get there!). Never whinged about them either.

Basically you say "only I am providing for me, its not fair!". The counter argument is "I wish I had the luxury of only providing for me, but we have four people to provide for on that one same salary".

Many people have had hard childhoods- I know a millionaire who as a child had to share a double bed with four siblings - head to tail.
He left school at 14 and no one gave him anything... he worked his way out of the morass of poverty as many do.

The OP has more sense than the rest of us! 😂 Goodnight all - I hope you all have the lives you deserve!

Right, so you'll not be wanting to keep a home available in case one or both of your children need to return? Or wanting to keep anything you've spent hard earned money on? You'll just be dumping it all and saving a few hundred a month in a flat share. And then doing what when that ends?... Oh, presumably replacing it all and starting again? I wish I had money to burn like that! 🎻

Has anyone noticed the OP has not returned, updated or reacted?
Instead, the thread has been taken over by someone with a huge chip on their shoulder, to say the least. Oh, woe is me, life is grim . . . . . .

Tharr the a not true. It’s hard yes but there’s a safety net.
There isn’t one when no children at hone. I’ve done both I know the difference.

Agreed too. Single people with no kids are living well compared to you.

I live alone with my DD but I’m financially miles better off than when my ex lived here. Quick shower for both of us v long shower for my ex. Low meat meals for me& my DD v meat at every meal when ex was here. He also only paid half towards bills because I outright own but with the added expense, I’m way richer now.

Yeah if I had to. It’s just stuff. Easy come and easy go. You learn to not require 2 double beds per person when you’ve actualky had a hard life.

Yes, agreed. As a lone parent (not by choice) I have felt discriminated against. Paying a lot more tax than couples but getting no help in return.

I know what you meant. I owe you no gratitude or humility.
You didn’t personally have anything to do with anything, you were probably a child then.

Well you weren't that polite to me with your snarky comment and worlds smallest violin saying I've got too much stuff? 😂

So, once again... Do you not own anything in your home for you and your family? And if you end up living alone in the future will you be tossing it all in a skip to go and share a flat with a stranger? 🤔

She didn’t call you a bitch, she said that you’re bitching. It’s a verb in the context she used it.

Geez 🙄

yet rather than being humble and grateful you bitch because you had to financially support your own fucking family.

This isn’t calling you a bitch. It’s saying that you are bitching (i.e. complaining) about something.

Just pointing this out for the purposes of accuracy.

Anyway OP I don't know what you're whining about. I've got a massive house and eleventy million children while, alas, I have no head. All you have to do is worry about potential destitution and freezing your fruit. You should try living without a cranium once in a while, see how you like that, you massive moaning headful minnie.