Friend not doing an evening meal as “we had a big meal earlier”

This sounds like such a drama over nothing. She didn’t cook dinner one time because she wasn’t hungry and you guys had a bigger lunch. She makes a big effort to feed you when you visit by cooking and paying for food out.
If you were hungry you should have just made some toast or told her you were nipping out for some snacks or ordered food. It’s such a non issue, you aren’t a baby who can’t communicate.

If she’s had a few mouthfuls of curry for breakfast plus one burger and a couple of wings, I doubt she’s even hit 1000 calories for the day. She (and anyone) could easily have a hearty dinner or at least some toast and not have to worry about calories at all.
I find competitive undereating so exhausting. My MIL does it and no joke absolutely all she talks about is how she couldn’t possibly eat x or y because she’s still so stuffed from having one burger/half a pizza but how it’s okay to treat yourself once in a while because she does walk 15000 steps a day.

I don't know what you did in the end OP, but I would have had to say to her that I was hungry and could I make something, even if it was just a couple of slices of toast. I wouldn't suffer in silence (especially after wine on an empty stomach)

It’s not really with the wine at all - most people on WLI wouldn’t drink to that extent and wouldn’t indulge in greasy takeaways. I take WLIs and eat three square meals. But it’s incredibly messed up behaviour and absolutely horrible for guests. If you have weird food habits then don’t take them out on your poor guests ffs. Leftover tiny portion of curry for breakfast? Wtf?

Nor would I, definitely not, but I assume you would offer a guest the option if ther were staying with you?
I would be so embarrassed if they were having to find supermarkets and worry about food and being hungryetc if they were staying with us 😬

how about "oh I'm still a little bit hungry, shall we order some takeaway?"

Problem solved.

In all honesty I wouldn’t eat anything else if I had KFC, purely because of the calories

Yeah my ex-PIL were like this,

They'd say "oh my gosh we had such a big lunch, can't face dinner".

They live miles from any shops so we learnt to bring food with us. Had to hide it in the bedroom though because if they saw you eating it they'd be upset they weren't being good hosts.

(Spoiler - they weren't being good hosts!)

After a while nobody stayed with them.

Well either she's on a budget or something, anyway very rude and presumtious. I always take a few snacks if staying anywhere. People seem to have strange rules with food.go grab yourself something from the shop.

are you sure she’s not a secret frenemy?

I did wonder about weight loss injections or intermittent fasting. But she also had seconds of the Indian takeaway so perhaps she genuinely wasn’t hungry. Or perhaps she consciously restricted her intake after having had so many calories on Friday night. Poor hosting whatever the reason to expect you to not eat.

Very poor hosting. I don't eat an evening meal anymore but I would prep and cook one for any guest.

Is she on weight loss injections?

People should not have visitors if they are not willing to feed them. Your host is mean, lazy or just plain clueless.

Having read the whole thread now I think it’s pretty strange to invite someone for the weekend and not even bother to cook once.

Having takeaway for two or three meals in a row is pretty grim if you ask me.

You don’t even have to cook; just have a bag of salad, a fruit bowl, some eggs, cheese and charcuterie in the fridge, and some good bread.

Unless you are extremely close friends who virtually live in each other’s homes; it’s pretty rude behaviour. You’ve made the effort to go there Op; I’d be feeling a bit let down in your shoes.

Cold onion bahjis (sp?) for breakfast are a wonder and a delight!

And lots of people across the world do not have special breakfast foods and eat savoury spiced food for breakfast eg Malaysia, Laos, Singapore etc

Totally agree with this^^

If you have invited someone to stay, regardless of your appetite or lack of it, it’s basic good manners as a host to ensure that they have plenty to eat and drink.

To not even get up and offer to make you a sandwich or a cheese board, or call for a pizza or something is really poor form imho.

Left over takeaway for breakfast is one of life's joys. Indian, Chinese, pizza. All good

Order a takeaway

Was she regifting stuff she had stockpiled from Christmas?

That's awful and the opposite of good hosting.

It's so awkward. Staying at my parents' is a bit like this. They're older so don't eat as much and have no idea about other people's appetites. Once I was BFing and was absolutely starving. Or my 1yo would get like a spoonful of food when he actually ate heaps so my DH and I would have to top him up with 1/2 our meals. My siblings and I now know to turn up with food which slightly offends our parents but we have to eat!

Yep this is Mounjaro behaviour op

It sounds miserable! Either way.
Op I hope you are not reheating rice 12 hours later?! You are likely to have bigger problems than merely sourcing food if you are!! 😬

Hadn't considered the weight loss jabs point but yes if she eats this type of crap, Indian food at brekkie, topped up with a side of burger for lunch then she does sound like someone who is probably on these weight loss injections for an easy ride. Hope you got some good proper food in, I'd be wanting my own bed and home asap