Friend not doing an evening meal as “we had a big meal earlier”

The OP had a burger amd 2 wings. Assuming a zinger or fillet burger it would be a max of 650 calories. On what planet is 650 calories almost what you should eat in a day?

Because I am sad and have nothing better to do, I have googled the calories in a KFC.

OP says she had "a burger" - 420 calories for a Zinger burger, 605 for a Zinger Tower burger. She also had 2 chicken wings - 2 x 175 calories = 350 calories.

So the most calories she ate at lunch was 955. Plus a couple of chips. Call it a round 1000 calories.

Plus her "4 tablespoons of leftover curry and rice" for breakfast.

Given that the average intake for a woman should be c. 2000 calories, of COURSE you are going to want to eat again in the evening.

Absolutely excavating rare diamonds to set in hand crafted silverware - individually initialed especially for my guest’s visit. You have to make some effort after all to make a house guest feel welcome.

Your soup blender has a lot of work to do if it’s to be worthy of my hand crafted cutlery! And unless you have grown your own rare vegetables in organic soil, with the blood of Christ I can’t see how it will measure up….

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You are a better person than me! Sometimes I cannot be bothered!

Some People are fine on less than 3 meals a day

Many others do need 3 meals and snacks

keeps me healthy weight and sugars stable and full of energy

KFC also isn't a big meal - it's calorific food but lacks a lot of things like veg that o think make something a meal

Cultural wise the UK is based on 3 to 4 meals a day so it's rude not to offer that

Intermittent fasting isn't safe for everyone

And you would usually build up to a specific fasting window, if you're not used to it and you just randomly skip a meal obviously you'd be hungry

Why don’t they? Why are three meals a day not required?

Why is intermittent fasting good for you? To help you lose weight?

I only eat one meal a day myself, have done for years for health reasons.

But I’m not a shit host. I always provide more than enough food for my guests (who know me well enough to know the health struggles I’ve been through so understand the things I eat and when I eat them, so there is no awkwardness that I don’t join them).

People don't need 3 meals a day. Intermittent fasting is good for you.

I would have checked if my guest was hungry though.

What's wrong with that?

I agree. It is literally a sandwich and a couple of mouthfuls of additional chicken.

Well she did order a burger and chips but didn't eat the chips. Maybe if her friend ate her entire meal she considered it substantial, even if the OP and others on here don't. My point was that even if you've eaten a three course lunch it doesn't mean you won't need anything at all in the evening. And even if you don't, you shouldn't assume that others won't. A bowl of soup or some cheese on toast or something should still be offered.

OP had a burger and a couple of wings. If a zinger or fillet burger herventire meal would have been around 600 cals. Are you seriously saying you wouldn't eat again if you had a 600 cal lunch?
A sandwich and a yogurt which is a fairly typical lunch will have around that.

She didn’t have a substantial lunch though. She had a burger from KFC (they aren’t that big) and two fucking chicken wings.

People are so weird about food on here. Taking about one burger and the two bites that you get out of a wing like it’s a medieval banquet.

If you'd had a substantial lunch then surely she'd still plan for a light supper? Soup and a roll, cheese and crackers, a bit of quiche and a side salad? She's weird.

I have a friend who invited me over for the evening. She knew I was arriving home after several weeks away and I hadn't had a chance to get any food in yet. She said 'So you don't have to worry about dinner as soon as you get home, come over for a glass of wine and I'll feed you.'

Bearing in mind I'd been travelling all day, I hadn't had a proper meal since the day before. 'Feeding me' involved a side plate of about 6 thin little rounds of baguette (no butter) a few small cubes of cheese and a half full tub of hummus with some carrot sticks. This was for two of us. Even as a light snack with drinks it was pretty inadequate and disappointing, but I'd been led to believe I was getting an evening meal.

She really just wanted someone to chat to and to drink with, but as I had to drive home I couldn't even do that. I was STARVING. I wouldn't dream of inviting people over with the promise of food and then making so little effort.

My mum will serve a lavish silver service breakfast, and expect us to live on the odd ham roll the rest of the day.

It really is bizarre. I find I need to eat something at my usual meal time even if I had a big meal. Even if it's just a salad or some fruit.

Homemade soup can take... Ten mins to make, 20-30 mins to cook.

Are you making your own cutlery?

Excellent post, you really hit the nail on the head!

This this this this this 8 million times this.

I just haven’t got it in me! I just point to the gin! 🍸 and lemons 🍋 and we crack on where we left off. My house is most definitely their house, and if peckish there is plenty to choose from.

Op I am glad you are still with us, and survived! Maybe she was just absent minded and forgot that humans need food sometimes 🤷‍♀️ where did you say she is based? I could do with a full cooked breakfast 😋

YABU. Your friend's house their rules and if you're still hungry or don't like the food etc, go and sort yourself out.
How do you think people like us vegetarians have got by for years in other people's houses? So the rest of you are more than capable too!

Guilty as charged Your Honour 😂😂😂
So glad you get it @Biglifedecisions
I was starting to think I was the only one who had the audacity to believe my friends visited me for the crack and not for a five star all out luxury pamper session 😂😂😂

From Sg and Indian. We do NOT eat leftover curry for breakfast except with roti prata (freshly made indian bread). We do eat spiced food for breakfast but it is all freshly cooked whether at home or in the foodcourts. There are definitely specific breakfast dishes- I could name you a dozen. Anyway it is inconceivable that there was no bread, eggs or fruit in the house for breakfast or a light supper. That is bloody basic, no matter how rich or poor you are. Especially with visitors. We of course would have tons of ramen/fresh noodles too but never for breakfast. On top of that, it is easy to pop out to buy a freshly cooked dish for a couple of pounds, any time of the day.

A KFC lunch is not my idea of a massive meal.

@Finallydoingit24 @Mydogisamassivetwat Totally agree. I think It’s because I’ve often so heard it being used performatively. I do recognise that it isn’t always said that way, of course, but of the many ways that women are conditioned to limit and police themselves (and by extension other women) performative food control has always been one that’s particularly annoyed me.