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Friend not doing an evening meal as “we had a big meal earlier”

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Bupo · 08/03/2025 21:30

So I’m staying with a friend who invited me to stay. She lives in a nice town that many tourists visit.

This evening I asked if there was any meal prep i could help with for dinner. And friend said something along the lines of “oh I assumed you wouldn’t want dinner as we had a massive meal earlier”.

She’s not wrong. We went to KFC as a few of the restaurants we tried were too busy. It’s literally been years since I last went. I had a burger and two chicken wings. The chips were raw so I only ate a couple.

It’s not the lightest meal but surely most would still expect to eat/feed a guest. She’s not weird with food and a normal not-big-not-small size.

I had about 4 tablespoons of leftover rice and curry for breakfast.

I’m about to go on a “walk” to coop

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Zippidydoodah · 08/03/2025 21:43

KFC is not a massive meal!

you must be famished, @Bupo !

HeyItsPickleRick · 08/03/2025 21:42

Sounds like terrible hosting - no breakfast, no plan/reservation for lunch and no offer of dinner. When you said massive lunch I assumed a pub lunch. I must admit one big meal is enough for me but at the least I’d offer a cheeseboard or something for dinner. KFC however is not filling! I haven’t had one in years but I have had McDonalds occasionally and I’m hungry after a couple of hours. Not quite the same as a big roast or leisurely 2 hour tapas feast!

Gymmum82 · 08/03/2025 21:41

Even if I wasn’t hungry I’d offer to make a guest a sandwich or soup etc. Its rude not to offer food at all

Mellowautumnmists · 08/03/2025 21:39

I had about 4 tablespoons of leftover rice and curry for breakfast.

Is that what your friend offered you @Bupo?

Changingplace · 08/03/2025 21:39

Surely she had an evening meal in mind if you’re staying, if you had KFC at 1.30pm I’d definitely expect to eat dinner.

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Bupo · 08/03/2025 21:39

We’ve had a bottle of wine and it’s gone straight to my head. And it ordinarily wouldn’t touch the sides

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jellyfishperiwinkle · 08/03/2025 21:38

I'd ask to make myself a bit of something. A poor show on her part to not look after a guest. KFC is not a square meal, it's not like you went out for a Sunday roast.

Secretvet · 08/03/2025 21:38

We had KFC for lunch (very unusual for us but midway through shopping and we were really hungry). We just had a very lovely fillet steak and mushrooms for dinner. No other sides but definitely needed something.

loropianalover · 08/03/2025 21:37

very weird of her. If she didn’t want another meal she should at least offer a sandwich, soup, fruit, crackers and cheese etc etc. You’ve not even eaten any fruit or veg today, I presume she hasn’t either. Hasn’t she got anything in? She invited you, you’re a guest.

I’d definitely go to the shop and fix myself something.

BlueBatsAndOranges · 08/03/2025 21:37

On what planet is KFC a ‘massive meal’?

fourelementary · 08/03/2025 21:37

I’d still expect to provide a “lunch type” meal like baked potatoes or soup and crusty rolls or even toastie or similar after a KFC type lunch… weird. YANBU

NicolaCasanova · 08/03/2025 21:36

Dinner is a meal,lots of people have KFC or similar for lunch! YANBU.

NaomhPadraigin · 08/03/2025 21:36

Bupo · 08/03/2025 21:35

We ate at 1:30pm.

In that case, of course you need dinner!

Gundogday · 08/03/2025 21:36

Then an evening meal is definitely on the cards. That’s poor hosting.

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Bupo · 08/03/2025 21:35

We ate at 1:30pm.

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Neveranynamesleft · 08/03/2025 21:35

If you're hungry then go eat !

Gundogday · 08/03/2025 21:35

I presume the kfc was lunchtime. If so, that’s ridiculous there’s no evening meal. Even at Christmas when you have a huge Christmas dinner, people serve a light tea, even if it’s only cheese and crackers.

tentimesover · 08/03/2025 21:33

What time did you have kfc?
If after 4 I wouldn't want dinner, if before then it was lunch and would still want dinner