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Swinging teachers

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Saintsfan7 · 08/03/2025 17:59

Interested to read some opinions on this. Someone we know has found out that a teacher at their child's school is a swinger. This person is aghast about this and wants to report the teacher (not sure what for) and is refusing to let them teach their child.
My attitude is that as long as it doesn't affect their work (whichbit clearly isnt) then what the teacher chooses to do in their private time is their business and their business only. ATBU?

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ObelixtheGaul · 17/03/2025 09:19

Markovenchip · 17/03/2025 08:27

Hmmmm, that's debatable, their mind might be on the 'excitement' of finding yet another swinger to go to bed with.

Why would it be? There are other things people do that they look forward to. Would you have an issue with their mind being on a nice weekend away for their wedding anniversary? Or can teachers not do anything they enjoy out of school in case their mind isn't on the teaching?

At this point, I think you are just being silly for giggles.

Ilikeadrink14 · 17/03/2025 09:13

Markovenchip · 14/03/2025 08:52

I can't do anything about it, but I do not condone promiscuity (or drug taking) amongst professional people who educate and examine others, and while my taxes are paying Doctors, Teachers, Dentists, etc; etc; I will have my say, end of !

You are exactly the sort of person who says ‘end of’!

Markovenchip · 17/03/2025 08:30

ItGhoul · 16/03/2025 15:54

Either you don’t know what immaculate conception is, or you are severely mentally ill.

If you say so.

Markovenchip · 17/03/2025 08:29

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 16/03/2025 16:26

Nobody gives a shit about what you approve of. 😂 you can go off all you want, and still, there’s nothing you can do and nobody gives a shit. 💅😘

I don't give a shit what you do either.

Markovenchip · 17/03/2025 08:27

Anewdawnanewname · 16/03/2025 19:34

You’re going to have a busy night then.

I'll say !

Markovenchip · 17/03/2025 08:27

ItGhoul · 16/03/2025 15:52

It doesn’t affect their work.

Hmmmm, that's debatable, their mind might be on the 'excitement' of finding yet another swinger to go to bed with.

JHound · 16/03/2025 19:40

The other person sounds batshit crazy. There is nothing wrong with being a teacher who also happens to swing.

Anewdawnanewname · 16/03/2025 19:34

Markovenchip · 16/03/2025 11:04

I would do, but people keep quoting me, so I'm obliged to respond.

You’re going to have a busy night then.

Imsodepressediactlikeitsmybirthday · 16/03/2025 16:26

Markovenchip · 15/03/2025 12:13

Neither do I !.......I think I'd better hide behind a Fortress.

Nobody gives a shit about what you approve of. 😂 you can go off all you want, and still, there’s nothing you can do and nobody gives a shit. 💅😘

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 16/03/2025 16:23

Markovenchip · 16/03/2025 11:04

I would do, but people keep quoting me, so I'm obliged to respond.

No you're not. You can stop responding any time you like.

Pumpkincozynights · 16/03/2025 15:57

I absolutely could not give a damn.
I would care more about the teaching being a great teacher.
All those who would object, I hope you were married to the father/mother of your child long before they were born. I also assume you were a virgin on your wedding night, otherwise check your own morals before commenting on the morals of others.

ItGhoul · 16/03/2025 15:54

Markovenchip · 16/03/2025 11:04

Yes.

Either you don’t know what immaculate conception is, or you are severely mentally ill.

ItGhoul · 16/03/2025 15:52

Markovenchip · 15/03/2025 16:49

It is my business if being naughty and wayward affects their work

It doesn’t affect their work.

GrammarTeacher · 16/03/2025 12:10

Just because people quote you doesn’t mean you have to reply! You can just ignore it!

Markovenchip · 16/03/2025 11:47

HellDorado · 16/03/2025 11:05

No you’re not.

Send messages to all the people who quote me and tell them to stop quoting me then !

HellDorado · 16/03/2025 11:05

Markovenchip · 16/03/2025 11:04

I would do, but people keep quoting me, so I'm obliged to respond.

No you’re not.

Markovenchip · 16/03/2025 11:04

LittleBigHead · 15/03/2025 19:39

So I’m assuming your children were immaculately conceived?

Yes.

Markovenchip · 16/03/2025 11:04

Matsukaze · 15/03/2025 22:19

So stop commenting on the thread and go and do something else instead, like the homeschooling that you are planning on doing.

I would do, but people keep quoting me, so I'm obliged to respond.

GrammarTeacher · 16/03/2025 05:20

fairydust11 · 15/03/2025 19:14

I’m a teacher and really surprised to hear of all this swinging happening! In my past 20 years of teaching I’ve heard about work affairs etc but not swinging.

Having said that, a few months ago I did come across a news article where a teacher was indeed a swinger and had posted photos online too. Apparently a parent saw her on a swinging website and sent information to the school she worked at and she was struck off I’ve not read the whole thread so it could have previously been linked - if not, here is the article -

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13643515/amp/primary-school-teacher-30-who-worked-openly-as-a-1600-a-night-escort-and-posted-pictures-of-her-and-her-partner-having-sex-on-a-swingers-site-is-struck-off.html

I suspect it was the working as an escort and posting pictures that was the issue, rather than the swinging itself.

Matsukaze · 15/03/2025 22:19

Markovenchip · 15/03/2025 18:44

I just don't like it, loose morals, in or out of the workplace, I'm just going round in circles here, I've had enough !

So stop commenting on the thread and go and do something else instead, like the homeschooling that you are planning on doing.

LittleBigHead · 15/03/2025 19:39

Markovenchip · 15/03/2025 09:12

I am not absurd, I just like to see standards and morals, I expect a School Teacher to have them, otherwise I don't want them educating my youngsters

So I’m assuming your children were immaculately conceived?

fairydust11 · 15/03/2025 19:14

I’m a teacher and really surprised to hear of all this swinging happening! In my past 20 years of teaching I’ve heard about work affairs etc but not swinging.

Having said that, a few months ago I did come across a news article where a teacher was indeed a swinger and had posted photos online too. Apparently a parent saw her on a swinging website and sent information to the school she worked at and she was struck off I’ve not read the whole thread so it could have previously been linked - if not, here is the article -

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13643515/amp/primary-school-teacher-30-who-worked-openly-as-a-1600-a-night-escort-and-posted-pictures-of-her-and-her-partner-having-sex-on-a-swingers-site-is-struck-off.html

2025mustbebetter · 15/03/2025 19:03

Teachers have every weekend and bank holiday free, that's more than I get !.........yes, in retrospect maybe I should have trained as a Teacher, all those holidays are a carrot, though in my day there was still corporal punishment, liberally applied, a boy in my class being whacked hard with a worn-out plimsoll in front of everyone is a memory that has remained with me, I wouldn't have liked to have to do it personally.

I have worked 2 hours today and need to do approximately 3 hours tomorrow. Bank holidays are great for catching up with marking and planning.

You are dillusional if you think teachers are sitting around doing nothing all weekend!

Corporal punishment was always a choice so that's absurd.

Markovenchip · 15/03/2025 18:44

GrammarTeacher · 15/03/2025 16:55

You have yet to explain how it would beyond you don’t like it!

I just don't like it, loose morals, in or out of the workplace, I'm just going round in circles here, I've had enough !

Markovenchip · 15/03/2025 18:42

Oioisavaloy27 · 15/03/2025 16:57

It's got nothing to do with you especially when it's out of school hours.

So you condone promiscuity then ?

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