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Swinging teachers

372 replies

Saintsfan7 · 08/03/2025 17:59

Interested to read some opinions on this. Someone we know has found out that a teacher at their child's school is a swinger. This person is aghast about this and wants to report the teacher (not sure what for) and is refusing to let them teach their child.
My attitude is that as long as it doesn't affect their work (whichbit clearly isnt) then what the teacher chooses to do in their private time is their business and their business only. ATBU?

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AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 08/03/2025 19:57

One of my teachers used to be a Morris dancer and occasionally take part in displays in our town centre. They'd probably have got more kudos if they'd been a swinger.

LeticiaMorales · 08/03/2025 19:54

I knew a teacher who was a member of the Conservative Party. I find that more shocking.

Shetlands · 08/03/2025 19:54

steff13 · 08/03/2025 19:33

Right? All sex is inappropriate for children, so we should probably insist that teachers remain celibate.

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Most teachers ARE celibate - far too knackered to even THINK about indulging in any rumpy-pumpy during term time, and holidays are for being ill with all the viruses they've stored since Harvest Festival. It's a mystery how any of us ever managed to breed to be honest!

FriendlyEeyore · 08/03/2025 19:48

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2025mustbebetter · 08/03/2025 19:48

menopausalmare · 08/03/2025 18:07

I'm surprised they find the time and energy.

As a teacher this was my first thought too

LongDarkTeatime · 08/03/2025 19:47

A friend’s primary school head teacher was advertising on an escort site. She said there was a Governors meeting. Seems they didn’t care about it (he’d already left his wife).
So doubt Governors would care about swinging.

LeticiaMorales · 08/03/2025 19:47

steff13 · 08/03/2025 19:33

Right? All sex is inappropriate for children, so we should probably insist that teachers remain celibate.

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Yes, good thinking. They should take a vow.

LeticiaMorales · 08/03/2025 19:46

Wendolino · 08/03/2025 18:26

From the title I thought you meant people teaching others how to be swingers

Well, it's always extra income to add to a classroom teacher's salary.

Booboobagins · 08/03/2025 19:46

I really hate this cancel culture, its utter madness and often cruel.

As long as their actions dont affect their ability to teach, are legal and dont put kids in harms way who cares.

Some people have very small minds...!

Ladamesansmerci · 08/03/2025 19:44

As long as they're not talking about it and class and plastering it all over their socials, who cares 🤷

Poppyseeds79 · 08/03/2025 19:43

So how did she stumble across this fascinating fact OP? Because if it was purely gossip then that doesn't put her in a good light 🙄

Catza · 08/03/2025 19:42

PurBal · 08/03/2025 19:40

Honestly, it’s over 20 years ago during Section 28. So probably not. It was obviously considered an issue at the time.

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That's what I initially thought but then doubted they would have had gaydar at that time.

PurBal · 08/03/2025 19:40

Catza · 08/03/2025 19:37

I hope he took the school to the cleaners for unfair dismissal and discrimination. Sacked for being gay and on a dating site? Wow.

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Honestly, it’s over 20 years ago during Section 28. So probably not. It was obviously considered an issue at the time.

Catza · 08/03/2025 19:37

PurBal · 08/03/2025 19:34

When I was at school one of the teachers was found on Gaydar. He was sacked. No idea what safe guarding stuff is in place now.

I hope he took the school to the cleaners for unfair dismissal and discrimination. Sacked for being gay and on a dating site? Wow.

Catza · 08/03/2025 19:34

steff13 · 08/03/2025 19:33

Right? All sex is inappropriate for children, so we should probably insist that teachers remain celibate.

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We used to do that not so long ago. The practice stopped but the attitudes clearly still prevail.

PurBal · 08/03/2025 19:34

When I was at school one of the teachers was found on Gaydar. He was sacked. No idea what safe guarding stuff is in place now.

steff13 · 08/03/2025 19:33

Cucy · 08/03/2025 19:04

WHAT!!

Teachers have sex?! 😱😱

They should be struck off and never be allowed around children ever again!

Right? All sex is inappropriate for children, so we should probably insist that teachers remain celibate.

Towwanthustice · 08/03/2025 19:31

LlynTegid · 08/03/2025 18:19

It is relevant if other teachers or staff in the school are partaking, even if nowhere near the school and at weekends. Conflict of interest in a sense if someone manages another person.

I also would not want someone who does this taking PSHE lessons.

However, my guess is it could be a nasty rumour.

Why not?
What she's does during her sex life isn't going to adversely effect what she has to teach regarding PSHE. They have a curriculum to follow and it has to be age related.
Why are people's private sex lives got anything to do with their jobs?

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Saintsfan7 · 08/03/2025 19:29

Shetlands · 08/03/2025 19:28

Retired headteacher here. I can confirm that the Monday morning staffroom is on fire with tales of weekend sex romps with multiple partners, some of them human, while dressed in studded leather thongs and ingesting copious amounts of class A drugs.

I used to try and force my staff to stay in their classroom cupboards all weekend, marking books and sharpening pencils but they kept escaping so I gave up. Degenerates, the lot of them.

I need to retrain and become a teacher!

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Fagli · 08/03/2025 19:29

MonaLisaDoesntSmile · 08/03/2025 18:59

I dont think they would be swinging on the tip though, so it's still irrelevant.

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I meant bring them on a swinging trip like a zoo outing, it was supposed to be a joke!

Shetlands · 08/03/2025 19:28

Retired headteacher here. I can confirm that the Monday morning staffroom is on fire with tales of weekend sex romps with multiple partners, some of them human, while dressed in studded leather thongs and ingesting copious amounts of class A drugs.

I used to try and force my staff to stay in their classroom cupboards all weekend, marking books and sharpening pencils but they kept escaping so I gave up. Degenerates, the lot of them.

GG1986 · 08/03/2025 19:28

None of their business what this teacher does out of work! Reporting them is ridiculous.

LittleBigHead · 08/03/2025 19:25

Your friend is unreasonable. I think swinging is vile but it doesn’t stop someone from being a good teacher.

Catza · 08/03/2025 19:25

FortyElephants · 08/03/2025 18:08

How did they find out? This impacts the answer to the question. If they posted their face on a swinging site openly for example then they should be reported to the regulator. If they are going on rumours and just being a judgy busy body they they ABU.

Why would a regulator care about someone posting their face on a swinging website? Unless they also included their place of work there, it really is nobody's business and nothing that should be regulated.

WonderingWanda · 08/03/2025 19:24

I'm impressed at a teacher having the time and energy for this. To he honest as long as they aren't breaching anything in their contract....mine says something about forming relationships with parents then they aren't doing anything wrong.