Swinging teachers

I knew about pampas grass but not pineapples. Apparently wicker hearts are as well 😅

Tbf mumsnet loves the term ~safeguarding issue~ and it gets thrown around a lot, including for things that really aren’t safeguarding issues.

It was a big thing in the 60s and 70s or so I've heard. May have been an urban legend. When my sister and I were kids, our parents had a holiday bungalow in North Cornwall not far from Bude, in a road of similar places, and the garden was full of pampas grass growing very tall. The couple my parents bought it from were a sweet elderly couple active in their local church, not exactly the types you'd expect to be attending key parties.

I don't approve of swinging, but as long as she is not bringing any of it into school and is keeping a very strong dividing line between her personal and professional life, I would not report.

Report to whom anyway ?

Oh gosh...is that a sign?

Definitely still a thing

Whilst I may have finished my GCSEs in 1998 I can still say, even this many years later, the thought of any of the teachers who taught me in Secondary school having sex is just utterly nauseating.

But equally now, speaking as a grown arse adult, what adults get up to in their own homes and on their own private time, provided it doesn’t interfere with the quality of their teaching, I consider to be NONE of my business!

And I say this as a High School Governor who would be duty bound to report an issue if they felt a member of staff had behaved inappropriately or overstepped boundaries in any way.

A friend recently told me is a swinger. I couldn’t care less other than being mildly interested in how it all works!
I wouldn’t care if I found out a teacher was a swinger either. It’s up to then what they do in their own time.

Yes, that was my first thought too!

It's absolutely nobody's business.

How on earth has some one’s choice of sexual partners got anything to do with their ability to teach their child ?!

Make sure this parent never lets their children watch Jim Carey's Grinch. It will ruin their Christmas.

@Shetlands Sounds like a school I worked in 😂

@FKAT Really? You know this for a fact do you? Discretion is key.

Hmmm... to some extent, it's not really anyone else's business what they do with their personal life, but something like this needs to be discreet.

If people have 'found out' then I assume that the teacher is advertising it somehow online, which I would consider inappropriate. There's a risk that kids could come across it, especially if secondary age.

Unless this person bumped into the teacher while visiting the swingers club themselves??! 😱😂

If they posted their face on a swinging site openly for example then they should be reported to the regulator.

You’d have to admit to having looked at the site…

Op, tell your friend to change swinging club. Am sure there a few around his or her village/town. S/he does have to belong to same swing cluster as said teacher

❤I believe this teacher beholds the British value of individual liberty. No case to answer

Exactly. Soon these parents will be demanding celibacy from teachers. Someone remind them these are teachers not catholic priests or popes (for indeed a CoE reverend/priest can swing from the vestry timbers if s/he wants. As long as it's not during service with the congregation rather than to swing buddies)

So a parent would be let off as obviously they're too lazy to influence their childrn, leave it to others.

For information - these are the teacher standards of conduct required for those of us who have worked to achieve Qualified Teacher Status. If aghast parent thinks the teacher has failed one of these, they can report to headteacher. Otherwise mind their own business.
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Does one assume then that the children of swingers should be taken away from this pernicious influence? It's more likely that it's happening in the child's home rather than the classroom, so who is more at fault?

Pardon my ignorance/naïveté, but what has an upside down pineapple got to do with this? I use have missed the connection.

Is that still a sign??? It goes back to the '60s I think!

Shock

Teachers are PEOPLE

Flipping heck... I am in bed by half nine every night and can barely string a sentence together at the end of a day teaching. How others are having sex romps is beyond me.

Parents made complaints about me to my school for being gay and a teacher. We live next door to a set of three siblings who attended my school so did not hide our legal marriage and shared children from our neighbours.

I moved to a school out of area as it was like being a shit celebrity with the perks of fans or pay, living near the catchment.

Teachers have a right to a personal life - we are just people doing jobs. Leave us alone outside of school...

Two ifs.

If I were still a teacher (retired)
If I were a swinger
I'd swing far away from home to avoid any upset/nosy parkers/karens/whistles being blown etc.

As others have said - if you're doing your job ok, not causing upset, not bringing school into disrepute then it's nobody else's business.

Sometimes events, lifestyles etc catch up with one - or threaten to.

Not unconnected

1 Teacher friend and his teacher wife invited to village party by well off, want to be influential couple. The party progresses. Car keys in a bowl. they leave. Few years later he ends up teaching daughter of couple.

2 Friend came into teaching as a mature entrant. He'd done assorts before but had been manager of a local bookies. Parents' evening. Sees a man he recognises, with his wife and child. Man appears desperate not to be recognised by my friend. Turns out he was a serious habitual gambler in my friend's bookies - but this was unknown to his wife.