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Dd(11) unplanned sleepover guest

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tentimesover · 08/03/2025 17:58

Dd (11) had a couple of school friends over for a sleepover last night. One of my friends had an emergency come up and asked if I could look after her daughter(12) and I agreed. Her and dd are good friends but Dd’s school friends haven’t met this girl before.

All absolutely fine, the girls all got on well and went out together today. One school friends parents are annoyed there was an uninvited guest and say it wasn’t what they agreed to when they let their dd stay.

It was late and I honestly didn’t even consider it could be a problem or to messages other parents. They are all the same age and I know this friends daughter well and she is lovely as are dds school friends.

Was I unreasonable to let her stay without asking other parents first?
If it was the other way around I honestly wouldn’t have been at all bothered and if anything thought it was nice.

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Twittable · 08/03/2025 18:07

YANBU!

What you do in your own home is up to you! If it was a 12 year old boy then maybe there might be a justification but there was an emergency, the girl is not a stranger to you or your daughter and everyone got on fine - I don’t see an issue?

I’ve got an 11yr old dd - I wouldn’t be bothered at all.