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Dinged someones car door and drove away

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Dragonfirestone · 08/03/2025 17:48

I was out shopping with my friend and baby, she had driven us in her car. at a carpark, when we returned to our parking space the car beside us had parked over the line into our space on the side with the car seat, thinking I could still get my child in I opened our car door and unfortunately it did a small dinge, when I checked the other car there did not appear to be any dents but the smallest dot of white paint from my friends car was there. My friend said not to worry and she backed out of the space to let us get in safely (something we should have done from the start). There was no one in the other car and my friend drove off but now im worried we'll get in trouble or that someone will have saw us and report it? AIBU for worrying, friend doesn't seem bothered!

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Ceebs85 · 08/03/2025 21:14

Some mumsnetters will make you paranoid you're about to serve time.

There was no damage. Id have probably taken a quick photo showing how badly they were parked and the lack of damage but it's done with no.

Moat people wouldn't notice a tiny fleck of paint on their car, and I kinda think if you're willing to park that badly you can't be that precious about it anyway

Toomuchlemonade · 08/03/2025 21:11

Quite frankly, they should learn to park inside the lines. I hate it when people think they are so important that they can take up 2 spaces.

Tattletail · 08/03/2025 21:07

The only time I have taken meticulous note of every teeny tiny dent and ding on a car has been when I've hired rentals.

As long as it wasn't a rental then I'm sure you will be ok.

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 21:01

Itsmehiya · 08/03/2025 20:54

Not everyone does it- it’s so wrong! You should have left your details. Returned to my one year old car after a theatre performance last year and it was completely mashed with bits hanging off. £500 in excess i didn’t have and the cctv was no good. They were never caught.

Leave her details because she didn't cause any damage? Really?

Itsmehiya · 08/03/2025 20:54

Not everyone does it- it’s so wrong! You should have left your details. Returned to my one year old car after a theatre performance last year and it was completely mashed with bits hanging off. £500 in excess i didn’t have and the cctv was no good. They were never caught.

BIossomtoes · 08/03/2025 20:51

YouveGotAFastCar · 08/03/2025 20:23

How?

Maybe it depends where you live/drive around but I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t notice a new mark on their car. I don’t know anyone who drives around with dents or dings either.

You’d notice a tiny fleck of white paint? Seriously?

Theseventhmagpie · 08/03/2025 20:45

Gonk123 · 08/03/2025 17:55

Everyone does it, don’t worry.

No, only selfish fuckwits do this 😡

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 20:26

I don’t know anyone who drives around with dents or dings either.

God, I don't know a single person who doesn't. But most people round here have second/third hand cars and drive them into ground, so a few dings and scrapes make absolutely no difference to anything.

YouveGotAFastCar · 08/03/2025 20:23

BIossomtoes · 08/03/2025 19:05

If it happened to my car I wouldn’t even notice. I doubt most people would.

How?

Maybe it depends where you live/drive around but I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t notice a new mark on their car. I don’t know anyone who drives around with dents or dings either.

Anotherparkingthread · 08/03/2025 20:23

Yeah this isn't a big enough deal to do anything about. They would have a really really hard time proving any damage was done by the door, they could have got a ding anywhere. They aren't gonna go full forensic files and start comparing paint samples, nobody died lol. They shouldn't have parked over the line.

BCBird · 08/03/2025 20:22

Everyone doesn't do this

CassandrasCastle · 08/03/2025 20:20

You're fine OP

Balloonhearts · 08/03/2025 20:19

Park like a twat and your doors get dinged. If he'd parked legally in the bay, he wouldn't have been knocked.

FiveTreeHill · 08/03/2025 20:18

Shade17 · 08/03/2025 20:04

I sincerely hope someone witnessed this and left the registration number for the owner of the other car.

Literally no one has the time or is sad enough to write the insurance details of someone who opened their car door into the neighbouring car when it was parked over the line

Yes if OP had driven her car into another then fine. But some people need to get out more

BIossomtoes · 08/03/2025 20:17

sanityisamyth · 08/03/2025 20:14

I'd be livid if someone dinged my car. You should have left your details on their windscreen.

Even though there was no damage?

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 20:16

sanityisamyth · 08/03/2025 20:14

I'd be livid if someone dinged my car. You should have left your details on their windscreen.

Leave her details for what, exactly? There wasn't any damage Confused

FiveTreeHill · 08/03/2025 20:16

If you park over the lines what do you expect to happen?

Honestly I wouldn't worry about it. People opening their car doors against other cars is incredibly common, and if someone parks in a way that prevents you opening your door it's really their own stupid fault. No one is going to their insurance about someone opening their car door into yours.

Christ if I'd done this in my old job I'd be contacting my insurance every bloody day!

sanityisamyth · 08/03/2025 20:14

I'd be livid if someone dinged my car. You should have left your details on their windscreen.

Magnastorm · 08/03/2025 20:13

If there was no visible damage then absolutely no need at all to leave a note. What would be the point?

If I came back to a note saying "hi, i touched your car, but it's fine", I would think someone had lost their mind a bit.

biscuitsandbooks · 08/03/2025 20:11

Shade17 · 08/03/2025 20:04

I sincerely hope someone witnessed this and left the registration number for the owner of the other car.

Why? There was no damage.

BobnLen · 08/03/2025 20:09

I doubt anyone would have witnessed someone opening a car door and took any notice, it's not like if you see someone driving and bumping a car

Shade17 · 08/03/2025 20:04

I sincerely hope someone witnessed this and left the registration number for the owner of the other car.

MrBallensWife · 08/03/2025 20:02

Serves them right,maybe they should learn to park properly next time and not infringe into another's parking space.

Booboobagins · 08/03/2025 19:53

Someone did this to my car - its a lease car, there's a ding and paint chip. It'll cost me ££ to get it fixed. So, fg AH is what I call people who do this.

However, in your case, @Dragonfirestone if paint transfer was all there was on the other car, do not worry at all. That is not damage and can be wiped off. If they do report it though you'd need to prove there was no damage. Let's hope that doesn't happen. If it does ever happens again get a picture to show no damage. And yes, always make sure you've enough room to get in and out. It's one of the only things I envy Americans about - decent parking spaces!!!

Gonk123 · 08/03/2025 19:52

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