I went to Uni - I enjoyed it. Other people I know are even more successful and content career wise without having gone and free of that debt.
I agree with uni is good, do it.
I agree with don't bother, it's a waste of time also.
No one is right here.
All your post screams to me is it is time you tend to your needs, your hobbies, your passion, everything you ever wanted that has nothing to do with your kids or husband or anyone.
You'll never win in this scenario. If you sense people are being dicks, that their comments are digs, you could laugh and change subject ( to you and your new hobbies, not kid stuff). Or you could say ' I don't know if you meant it to come across like that '.
They will say ' what do you mean, I don't mean anything '
And you say', my child is going to/ at Uni, so I just wondered the intent when you then say it's a waste of time knowing my child is doing that.
And see how that goes. Takes courage though. They prob won't say that again but you'll get the ' you're too sensitive look'. They will shut up though I'm sure.
When you start looking after you and all the things for you that are not attached to being a mum, you won't give a fuck what people say. You also won't need validation through your children's achievement, which this is alot of.
Don't worry, we all bloody do that. I do it! It's a daily lesson to stop it. ❤️